The Mystery Machine
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I have a feeling this behaviour is what Mom was seeing. My guess is this kid doesn't like rules and she was pushing the boundaries with Mom and Mom didn't tolerate it so she ran to Dad. Now all she has to do is act like an angel in front of Dad and she can run wild. I think you're seeing who she really is. You need to call Mom and let her know what you're seeing and see if that's what she's been dealing with all this time. Once you find out the two of you need to talk to Dad. He's being conned. Once he is aware of what's going on he needs to step up and get his DD under control. I find it hard to believe that he wasn't aware of the 2 am thing, unless he just wasn't home. You don't do your kids any favours being a Disneyland parent (that's an actual term where you want to be the fun likeable parent). He's going to create an out of control monster.
ETA - I'm a Step Parent myself. My job is to be a friend and confidant to my Step Child. The Parents get to do the parenting.
Agree with bolded.

OP, anyway that she can live with mom while your DH is out of town?