Ex spouse trumped my vacation to WDW with the kids

[chiefmickeymouse]

I've been out of town and came in late on this one, but wanted to tell the OP how sorry I am about her situation AND the ugly turn this took on the DIS board. I don't know why some people feel it necessary to be so hurtful and negative. I think you should just take your trip with your kids really slow and relaxed and enjoy your time together. I don't think it will matter that they just went, because it will be a different trip with YOU. Have a great time sweetie, and ignore the idiots

 

[It'sWDW4me]

As for an update for those who have written me and encouraged me to step up to a higher place, I have spoken to my children. I was sick this morning that they were 9 hours away possibly feeling worry for their mom. I picked up my pants and made jokes about sneaking over the fence into AK to ride everest (apparently their pool backs up to Mt Everest), bringing back rice crispy treats for my boss who was holding me hostage until they did (and he needed at least 10 dipped in chocolate with m&ms) and I told them I was sorry if I did anything in any way to make them sad or worry. That they were VERY lucky little children. I did what alot of you suggested and told them they were on a recon mission, that not every child gets to scope out Disney before Disney so to be on the lookout for anything we may have forgotten and when they got home we would reassemble to see what they saw and wanted to add.

GOOD FOR YOU, Heather!! I love, love, love how you were able to joke with your kids. I so hope that put their unease over the situation at rest.

I have never wanted anything more than for my ex to move on and be happy. How he has chosen to move on is what hurts my heart. Successful coparenting means putting aside personal vendettas and focusing on the kids and the kids only. I have met so many people on this board that I have met at disney and become lifelong friends with. This is a special place and I just can't believe some of the things I read. But I didnt come here to debate the details of my divorce or what kind of mother I am or what kind of dad he is or isn't. I thought I was stating the facts of the event and then adding when someone asked for more details. I got what I came here for so the what you think of me really shouldnt matter. With that being said, I'm just gonna stop now.

Growing older isn't synonymous with growing up. Unfortunately. Here's hoping that your ex grows up before his children do.

Good luck to you and your wonderful kids. And, I'll say it again and again... Have. an. AMAZINGLY. wonderful. vacation!!

 

[TinkerBelle920]

Maybe you need to step back and ask yourself why you think the OP was in the wrong and psychotic ? The Father and his new wife took the kids to a place they KNEW the bio mom had made plans for, Sorry but it just isn't normal. If you believe so maybe you ARE a evil stepmom.

Are you in the 5th grade?

Glad the mother spoke to her kids and let her know that is was ok to enjoy themselves. Sounds like these poor kids have a long road ahead of them hopefully they enjoy both Disney trips.

 

[tjmj9801]

speaking of doing a double take, I double took your profile name TJM. lol

Lol Why's that? That's DH's initials, TJ, and mine, MJ, and our wedding date.

Hey, we're just down the road from you! We should meet up. Maybe at the Mall of Georgia Disney Store.

I also have a Sidney. Transpose the S and the D to see why we spelled hers with an I.

 

[hmerritt]

Lol Why's that? That's DH's initials, TJ, and mine, MJ, and our wedding date.

Hey, we're just down the road from you! We should meet up. Maybe at the Mall of Georgia Disney Store.

I also have a Sidney. Transpose the S and the D to see why we spelled hers with an I.

OMG LOVE the thought behind that. Crap, I wonder if I can change my Sydney's lol. that is so awesome.

Oh and we should meet up. There are several disers that have msg'd me that are literally down the street from me. We should have a get together. If we weren't going to be AT Disney to see Pooh, I would have said that. But let's meet at the fountains and lunch, then shop?

 

[soulmates]

OP, this is by far the saddest thing I've read in awhile. There have been many comments already made so there is no need for me to chime in about the ex. However, my opinion on going or staying... GO and make your OWN memories with your kids. You're right, a long divorce is NO fun for all of you. I'm sure they will have fun on this trip, but I assure it, the tone is VERY different than the way YOUR trip will be. Have you ever had a favorite movie or place to eat and then you shared it with someone who really didn't feel the same way about it as you? It's just not the same. The trip with YOU will be sooo much more amazing because your kids KNOW how much this was sacrificed and how you ALLLLLL worked so hard to get there. That will be the trip they tell their friends about....the one they remember for the rest of their lives.

I went to DW for the first time when I was 12, in 1979 with my single mom who worked OT for a year. We had a PHENOMENAL time. I went to DW a few years later with my dad and his wife. We stayed at the Contemporary. It was a fun trip, we had a good time...but it will NEVER compare with the trip with my mom.

Hang in there and please, I hope you go and have a ball!!!!

 

[mom2rtk]

Are you in the 5th grade?

Glad the mother spoke to her kids and let her know that is was ok to enjoy themselves. Sounds like these poor kids have a long road ahead of them hopefully they enjoy both Disney trips.

Glad to see you edited your original post.

 

[Brian_WDW74]

I thought this thread might get back on topic and be helpful to the OP and others, but apparently not. So I'm closing it here.