DS's Principal Really Annoyed Me

[Aisling]

... the principal needs to know how out of line he was in addressing your DS.

Principals deal with liars all day, but he should be expected to have some self-control in assuming anything about your son. Kids deserve respect, too.

 

[Pigeon]

I'd get the principal autographed pictures of all the artists his dad has played with. Just chuck them on his desk. You won't make any headway with the principal. There is an operation they get when they take the job.

So very true...

 

[manning]

If you dealt with liars and sneaky kids on an hourly basis, you'd question kids too. This isn't something I'd get all bent out of shape over.

(teacher here)

No, you would contact the parent and discuss it with them.

 

[kymom99]

I am a teacher and I believe the principal was wrong. I would have a meeting to let him know how I felt about the situation. I also would suggest to him that he not ask what a student's parent "does". I say that because my husband just lost his job and our family is devastated. My son would be very hurt if he had to admit that his dad isn't working. The situation is stressful and sensative enough without kids being put on the spot like that.

 

[jenlynn0808]

I also would suggest to him that he not ask what a student's parent "does". I say that because my husband just lost his job and our family is devastated. My son would be very hurt if he had to admit that his dad isn't working. The situation is stressful and sensative enough without kids being put on the spot like that.

Very good point!

Also, I am sorry to hear about your families situation. I hope your husband finds a 'new and better' job soon!

 

[golfgal]

No, you would contact the parent and discuss it with them.

Um, did you read the part where it said they couldn't get ahold of the parents???

It is just SO SAD that the majority of the people here are jumping all over the principal without hearing both sides of the story. Until we hear that we don't know that the principal said anything at all to the kid about being a liar. Of course we will never really know the true story anyway.

 

[Minnesota!]

If you dealt with liars and sneaky kids on an hourly basis, you'd question kids too. This isn't something I'd get all bent out of shape over.

(teacher here)

I honestly think anything you say regarding this will be taken as sour grapes and look like you are nitpicking because you son got in trouble. i.g You got my son in trouble- I am going to get you in trouble to paraphrase.

Agreed.

If you say anything, I would just tell the principal that the answers he got from your son were truthful and if he is up to apologizing to your son, then so be it.

Not something I would get worked up about. You (and your son) know the truth. Who cares what anyone else thinks...

 

[manning]

Um, did you read the part where it said they couldn't get ahold of the parents???

It is just SO SAD that the majority of the people here are jumping all over the principal without hearing both sides of the story. Until we hear that we don't know that the principal said anything at all to the kid about being a liar. Of course we will never really know the true story anyway.

Yes I have and if you can't contact them at the moment doesn't mean it stops there. Eventually contact will be made and then it should be discussed. The confrontation should be with the parent, not the student. You inform the parent of your suspicion and carry on from there. Inform the student you will be talking to the parents and send the student back to class. Also inform that disciplanary action may be pending after the discussion.

The job of the principal is to get both sides before jumping to any conclusion.

 

[merryweather20]

Um, did you read the part where it said they couldn't get ahold of the parents???

It is just SO SAD that the majority of the people here are jumping all over the principal without hearing both sides of the story. Until we hear that we don't know that the principal said anything at all to the kid about being a liar. Of course we will never really know the true story anyway.

I read the part where there was an exceedingly brief period of time on one single day where neither parent was able to pick up the phone. Very shortly afterward he was able to reach his Dad who came to pick him up.

Where was it in the post that he had been calling and calling for weeks on end and couldn't reach them or get them to return phone calls?

Sounds like he got ahold of them just fine

 

[golfgal]

Yes I have and if you can't contact them at the moment doesn't mean it stops there. Eventually contact will be made and then it should be discussed. The confrontation should be with the parent, not the student. You inform the parent of your suspicion and carry on from there. Inform the student you will be talking to the parents and send the student back to class. Also inform that disciplanary action may be pending after the discussion.

The job of the principal is to get both sides before jumping to any conclusion.

Kind of like everyone here that is ready to string up the principal with only a second hand story originating from an admitted trouble making 18 year old boy .

 

[Mermaid02]

I'm not ready to string anyone up- but one fight does not make a troublemaker- and obviously this boy has not been a problem before or the Principal would have known his family dynamics. The Principal should have just made a mental note and checked out his theory later- the kid couldn't hide his parents forever....

 

[manning]

Kind of like everyone here that is ready to string up the principal with only a second hand story originating from an admitted trouble making 18 year old boy .

Will someone help us out? I have reread this whole thread and I cannot find anywhere where it says "an admitted trouble making 18 year old boy"

Maybe these old eyeballs/mind is going.

We are talking about the OP son, right?

And how are we stringing up a principal by suggesting he should get both sides?

 

[mhsjax]

Kind of like everyone here that is ready to string up the principal with only a second hand story originating from an admitted trouble making 18 year old boy .

Did I miss something, I don't remember reading where he was "an admitted trouble making boy". Yes she did admit he got into a fight, that doesn't make him trouble making. Anyone can have 1 bad day.

 

[BeachGirlFLA]

Did I miss something, I don't remember reading where he was "an admitted trouble making boy". Yes she did admit he got into a fight, that doesn't make him trouble making. Anyone can have 1 bad day.

Not to mention he was defending himself when he threw the punch. I guess the fact that when my last roommate physically attacked me (bruised my forehead and scratched my nose with her fingernails...she wanted to raise my rent for one room from $175/week to $200/week and I said no...she started throwing my things in my room on the floor and I called the cops because she was damaging my property and that's when she attacked me), I fought back instead of just standing there and taking it makes me a "trouble making" woman.