Dont want to watch nephew anymore...

[firecracker725]

The OP couldn't work nights or weekends, though, if she is the only one that take care of her girls?

That limits her job search...

I don't see why her DH can't watch them. She said he was away some, but even I can work around the monthly trips my DH goes on.

 

[okeydokey]

]But, why in the world would anyone admit that they are public assistance? I don't even understand how it pertains to her story and why she shared that tidbit.
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Her plans have been shot down because they ARE unrealistic. A part time job that would allow her to take off holidays/school breaks and not work nights? AND, make more than 600 bucks a month! There are jobs out there like that, but they are few and far between. That is the reality.

She came to the message board for advice. She is getting it. It may not be what she wants to hear, but it is what she NEEDS to hear.

Especially with a Disney trip planned in the future.

 

[CdnCarrie]

I don't think there's anyone here who has said she is obligated to watch her nephew if she doesn't want to.

The point many are trying to make is that, in their experience, it's hard to find part time jobs that work around their other children's schedules that bring in $600 a month take home.

When I was in this situation, I would have LOVED to find some of these other jobs people are talking about that are so easy to find in their areas! I substitute taught because I wasn't ABLE to find them. I've been trying to get on at the library for years! They have hundreds of applicants for each opening.

The why not take your library technician diploma. Should be able to do it online.

 

[robinb]

Especially with a Disney trip planned in the future.

Huh? How can someone with such a limited income afford a Disney trip? Even a trip that's gifted comes with expenses. I don't get it.

 

[nathalee81]

Need opinions please. I've been watching my nephew ( 2 years old) since he was an infant to help out my brother and SIL. We leave in jersey and childcare is expensive . They pay me 600$ a month to watch him 35 hrs a week. Prob is I have 9 year old twins that i am also trying to get ready for school. As he gets older he is becoming allot more work and it is becoming very stressful for me. My girl were born 9 weeks early and had health issues so I quit my job and have been a SAHM ever since. We have sacrificed allot of things so I can stay home with them and now that they are older I would like to get a part time job out of the house. I cannot work full time as hubby's job has him on business trips every month and no one to care for them except me. I tried to tell my parents , who live close, that I do not want to care for him anymore and basically got a guilt trip from my mom. That he won't be cared for there, he loves me, blah blah blah. She works part time and has told me she will not leave her job to care for him. My brother is an engineer and she works for the state. Combined making good $ we are a one income household on food stamps. I think once September hits and school starts again I do not want to do this anymore. Is it wrong of me to not continue helping my brother? My hubby says he is worried about my sanity and stress level and is 100% behind me not watching him. What would you do?

I don't see why her DH can't watch them. She said he was away some, but even I can work around the monthly trips my DH goes on.

The bold is directly from her, she has no one else to watch the kids.

 

[ilovemk76]

NJ SNAP:

185% of the FPL

http://blog.njfoundationforaging.org/?tag=income-limits


FPL for a family of 4 - 23,050


185% = $42,642.50

http://aspe.hhs.gov/poverty/12fedreg.shtml


OP makes $7200 so the husband has to make less than $35,442.50

 

[Mkrop]

I had to stop reading this thread at this post since lunch time is almost over and I have to get back to work. Maybe someone else has already mentioned this, but there are secretarial jobs that fit this.

I worked as a legal secretary/legal assistant for 3 years with very flexible hours making about $15/hour. Not the best pay and no benefits, but much, much better than retail, where you'd have lower pay and crazier hours.

There are sole practitioner attorneys who don't want a full time assistant--just someone to cover phones and put the paperwork through.

Around here these are the types of jobs that people seem to get because they know someone. I have never seen one advertised, I dont know any lawyers personally, and the one mom who had this type of job got it bc her sister graduated with the lawyer. I talked to her about it to see if he knew any other lawyers wanting this type of help and he did not at the time. I will ask around again though. I look through the want ads about every other day. All the people I know who work PT during school hours work for family owned businesses. (their own family that is)

I have a part time job that pays more than $600/month with flexible hours. In fact, I work nights and weekends, so I can be home with my girls during the day. When my husband needs to be away, I ask off or switch shifts with someone to cover. It's not impossible. And guess what? I even LOVE my job.

The OP has already stated that she claims the income from watching her nephew, so can we puh-leeze stop beating that awesomely dead horse?

That is great if you have a DH who knows in advanced when he will be away. Mine does not have a strict schedule at all. Last week he was gone all week. This week Tues and Thurs nights. It varies all the time! He sometimes can decide at the beg of the week and other time if corporate calls he is off and running. If a client says, sure I will meet with you tomorrow to discuss a potential contract, he is throwing clothes in a bag to get where he needs to get to. That contract could be huge commission for us.

So no, not everyone can work a schedule like yours. I am glad you found something that works for your family.

 

[crashbb]

NJ SNAP:

185% of the FPL

http://blog.njfoundationforaging.org/?tag=income-limits


FPL for a family of 4 - 23,050


185% = $42,642.50

http://aspe.hhs.gov/poverty/12fedreg.shtml


OP makes $7200 so the husband has to make less than $35,442.50

I'm really not sure how that it pertinant to the discussion.

 

[StitchesGr8Fan]

Especially with a Disney trip planned in the future.

Huh? Did I miss something here?

 

[clarkshel]

Huh? How can someone with such a limited income afford a Disney trip? Even a trip that's gifted comes with expenses. I don't get it.

Is that any of your business???

 

[Soldier's*Sweeties]

Is that any of your business???

The OP posted that info for some reason.

She made it people's business when she opted to post such personal financial information. She could have asked for advice without putting that little tidbit in the original post.

 

[StitchesGr8Fan]

The OP posted that info for some reason.

She made it people's business when she opted to post such personal financial information. She could have asked for advice without putting that little tidbit in the original post.

I just reread the OP and saw nothing about taking a Disney trip, unless it is in the signature which I can't see, or it was edited out.

 

[Soldier's*Sweeties]

I just reread the OP and saw nothing about taking a Disney trip, unless it is in the signature which I can't see, or it was edited out.

She didn't. She posted the public assistance info in the OP.

Someone else did some "research" and I guess found posts about the OP planning a trip.

 

[robinb]

I just reread the OP and saw nothing about taking a Disney trip, unless it is in the signature which I can't see, or it was edited out.

She didn't. She posted the public assistance info in the OP.

Someone else did some "research" and I guess found posts about the OP planning a trip.

I was just going with what okeydokey said. The search feature is disabled so I can't see the OP's previous posts. Some folks have very good memories so I assume she remembered seeing something.

 

[Soldier's*Sweeties]

I was just going with what okeydokey said. The search feature is disabled so I can't see the OP's previous posts. Some folks have very good memories so I assume she remembered seeing something.

The memories around here are pretty amazing!

I can barely remember what I had for lunch half of the time! Lol

 

[StitchesGr8Fan]

I found them. She does say they have Pop booked for a week coming up. It's a big family trip.

However it is not clear if the trip has been gifted or not, so I will reserve my judgement. I would hate to think that someone is getting government assistance and saving their own money to use for vacations, while people who aren't on government assistance are doing without vacations to stay out of debt and off assistance.

 

[dana1003]

I am the op and yes we are planning a trip .. My father was part of a law suit years ago and was awarded some $. He is taking myself , hubby and 2 kids as a gift. We are driving. This has nothing to do with watching my nephew nor did I say anything about who was paying for the trip. Our last trip to Disney was in 2007 and have not gone back becuz our financial situation has changed Wow! To all of you who gave good advice I thank you but looks like I will be off the boards from now on. Too much judgement. Take care

 

[chloelovesdisney]

I am on the opposite side of this story. My son's aunt watches him part time while I work. It's been wonderful having her watch him, he adores her and I can go to work worry free. However, I've always known it will not be forever, and when she says the time is up, I will simply be thankful for the time she was able to do so. She gets paid more for part time than you get for full time though, and it's still a super bargain for the area.

It should be on your terms, if you don't care to watch your nephew just tell your brother and give them a time frame. Anything over a month's notice is extremely generous on your part.

 

[firecracker725]

I am the op and yes we are planning a trip .. My father was part of a law suit years ago and was awarded some $. He is taking myself , hubby and 2 kids as a gift. We are driving. This has nothing to do with watching my nephew nor did I say anything about who was paying for the trip. Our last trip to Disney was in 2007 and have not gone back becuz our financial situation has changed Wow! To all of you who gave good advice I thank you but looks like I will be off the boards from now on. Too much judgement. Take care

Have so much fun on your trip. When DH was in grad school things were super tight, and we got NO extras at all. If someone would have given me a trip to WDW, you can bet your sweet behind that I'd have been all over it.

 

[robinb]

I am the op and yes we are planning a trip .. My father was part of a law suit years ago and was awarded some $. He is taking myself , hubby and 2 kids as a gift. We are driving. This has nothing to do with watching my nephew nor did I say anything about who was paying for the trip. Our last trip to Disney was in 2007 and have not gone back becuz our financial situation has changed Wow! To all of you who gave good advice I thank you but looks like I will be off the boards from now on. Too much judgement. Take care

I figured it was a gift trip, but that doesn't mean it's completely free. There will be still be expenses ... a mickey bar here or a flashy light thingy there and you'll easily spend a couple hundred dollars over a week. Maybe you can move up the time that you'll stop watching your nephew so you can bring in more money and transition off of SNAP before the trip.