Do your teens tell you

[wishesuponastar]

They can't wait to move out?

Our 17yo daughter has said this a few times after she doesn't get her way. I hope when she goes to college (she will live in a dorm) she will realize all we have done for her. While we aren't rich, we do provide the things she needs.

I guess I just have to realize teens can say things in the heat of the moment.

 

[kamik86]

I told my parents this as a teen.

I'm now 28 living on my own and honestly i was so glad to move out... I get along great with my parents now but honestly I can't live with my mom or one of my sisters (who does live at home still) we fight constantly if we are together too much. I can handle a week vacation around them but that is about all.

Don't get me wrong my parents did a ton for me and I understand that. But I was definitely happier living away from them.

 

[aaarcher86]

I used to day that to my parents all the time.

I was under impression that life on my own would be soooo much easier and better. Ha!

 

[scrhsa]

My 17 yr old dd(the youngest) tells me that all the time. The funny thing is she always precedes it with " no offense mama but..." Out of my three dd's, she is the one that I butt heads with the most. And I am in that place where I can't decide if I'm going to be happy or sad when all my girls are out of the house.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

They can't wait to move out?

Our 17yo daughter has said this a few times after she doesn't get her way. I hope when she goes to college (she will live in a dorm) she will realize all we have done for her. While we aren't rich, we do provide the things she needs.

I guess I just have to realize teens can say things in the heat of the moment.

Oh yea and we encouraged it, lol. Older dd moved out finally at 22, 2 yrs ago.

Younger dd is going off to college this yr and also plans to move out somehow. We also encourage it.

When they used to say that stuff we would talk about how we moved out and yadda, yadda, yadda...That threat fell short on us. So then older dd would say, I can't wait to move out otherwise she would get "the story"...ha.

 

[wishesuponastar]

Thank you for your replies. I guess it is normal to tell your parents. And also, it is a good thing that your kids want to move out but I would rather have it be on friendly terms.

 

[JJZMgailey]

My 17-year old son is just the opposite and I can't figure out why! It's really interesting - I was SO ready to move out into my own place the instant I turned 18 - so independent! I suppose he might change his tune soon. We'll see!

 

[Dawnlight]

No, I haven't heard that one yet, but lots of other remarks that break a mother's heart. The flip side, I've often thought, "I can't wait for xxxx to move out." Teens can really be difficult sometimes; I've got one that is particularly difficult, mean, hurtful, and unpleasant to be around these days, and it affects the entire family.

 

[aaarcher86]

I had a senior project where I had to budget for living on my own, go out and pick a real apartment and tour it p, etc.

That kicked me in the *** real quick!

 

[wishesuponastar]

No, I haven't heard that one yet, but lots of other remarks that break a mother's heart. The flip side, I've often thought, "I can't wait for xxxx to move out." Teens can really be difficult sometimes; I've got one that is particularly difficult, mean, hurtful, and unpleasant to be around these days, and it affects the entire family.

I'm sorry. I totally understand how they affect the family.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Thank you for your replies. I guess it is normal to tell your parents. And also, it is a good thing that your kids want to move out but I would rather have it be on friendly terms.

It will be. When actual move out time comes, they will have to have their ducks in a row. We are supportive of them moving out.

 

[spima3]

I believe our oldest is doing as well in school as she is, Dean’s list from 2.1 GPA her first semester of college, just so she can move out!

It has been a rough couple of years w/ her. I hope one day she realizes we tried to give her the best possible life, but there are people who will only see what they didn’t have. And I have run into adults who are like this.

My SIL has all girls in their family and they have had some real nasty times with them. They told me you need to give them until 23/24 before they start becoming less self centered and more appreciative.

We have 3 or 4 more years yet! I live in hope!

 

[NewRVLady]

I did it-I could not WAIT to go away to college
it is what most teens go through-being independant

 

[wishesuponastar]

I had a senior project where I had to budget for living on my own, go out and pick a real apartment and tour it p, etc.

That kicked me in the *** real quick!

That's a great project!! A dose of reality haha

 

[gwynne]

I believe our oldest is doing as well in school as she is, Dean’s list from 2.1 GPA her first semester of college, just so she can move out!
It has been a rough couple of years w/ her. I hope one day she realizes we tried to give her the best possible life, but there are people who will only see what they didn’t have. And I have run into adults who are like this.
My SIL has all girls in their family and they have had some real nasty times with them. They told me you need to give them until 23/24 before they start becoming less self centered and more appreciative.
We have 3 or 4 more years yet! I live in hope!

I think that is a very true statement. And they are even more appreciative, easier going as they head to 30.

 

[wishesuponastar]

I believe our oldest is doing as well in school as she is, Dean’s list from 2.1 GPA her first semester of college, just so she can move out!

It has been a rough couple of years w/ her. I hope one day she realizes we tried to give her the best possible life, but there are people who will only see what they didn’t have. And I have run into adults who are like this.

My SIL has all girls in their family and they have had some real nasty times with them. They told me you need to give them until 23/24 before they start becoming less self centered and more appreciative.

We have 3 or 4 more years yet! I live in hope

Thank you for the hope of better days with our teens

 

[FINFAN]

They can't wait to move out?

Our 17yo daughter has said this a few times after she doesn't get her way. I hope when she goes to college (she will live in a dorm) she will realize all we have done for her. While we aren't rich, we do provide the things she needs.

I guess I just have to realize teens can say things in the heat of the moment.

I think a lot of it has to do with the overall situation at hand. When they are frustrated with other things, home i where they can vent. When they feel like they have little or no privacy at home, or that they will be judged (even if you are not judging, they can feel like they will be) kids tend to lash out saying they can't wait to move. Most of the time it isn't directed personally at the parents, just the situation being that they need to grow, become independent (and may not realize that is actually happening) but are still teens who speak in short sentences lol. Also depends on personality too. Our DD (oldest) is very even keel, calm and prefers a simple lifestyle. She NEVER lashed out to us that she couldn't wait to move. Our DS on the other hand, is an adrenaline junkie, commuted to C.C. and has to be on the go 24/7, no sitting watching t.v. etc. He says all the tie he can't wait to move out. He usually says it when he is frustrated and bored, and cold, lol. He wants to live in AZ as he loves the heat and mountains and trails. Here, you have to drive at least 2+ hours to get to any open areas, and it is flat farm land and heat ? We are IL, not gonna happen lol. Hang in there OP, it's totally normal. Like you said, heat of the moment. I STILL feel that way myself sometimes, lol.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

I believe our oldest is doing as well in school as she is, Dean’s list from 2.1 GPA her first semester of college, just so she can move out!

It has been a rough couple of years w/ her. I hope one day she realizes we tried to give her the best possible life, but there are people who will only see what they didn’t have. And I have run into adults who are like this.

My SIL has all girls in their family and they have had some real nasty times with them. They told me you need to give them until 23/24 before they start becoming less self centered and more appreciative.

We have 3 or 4 more years yet! I live in hope!

Well, I am here to give you guys HOPE!

This yr for mother's day older dd gave me a card thanking me for everything and putting up with her. It CAN happen. She is turning into an adult human at age 24.

 

[Dizlvr]

No, I haven't heard that one yet, but lots of other remarks that break a mother's heart. The flip side, I've often thought, "I can't wait for xxxx to move out." Teens can really be difficult sometimes; I've got one that is particularly difficult, mean, hurtful, and unpleasant to be around these days, and it affects the entire family.

I'm so sorry. I know what you are going through, we are going through the same thing now with one of our teens.

 

[Sgt Mickey]

No. My dd talks about when she moves out for college. I don't think it is in a negative tone. We have 4 kids (14-19) and she is the only girl. She did tell dh that hates him one time. It was the first I hate you of the house. I later had a talk with her. I think because it wasn't said to me I was able to remain calm and not be upset. I think the biggest thing I told her was that we have feelings too. How would she like it if it was said to her. She attempts to watch how she says things.
Dh likes to tell them all how they all are moving out at 18 anyway. Maybe they don't say it because they know he would say good.