Do your adult children get drunk in front of you?

[curious3069]

My husband, his father and his brother are all recovering alcoholics and very involved in AA. So there are no alcoholic drinks at any of our celebrations.

I have a glass of wine, maybe every other month.

DD, age 9, will probably be encouraged to avoid alcohol altogether because of the alcoholism that runs in the family.

Not much partying going on here in the Miles household. Sorry!

I don't care what other people choose to do, as long as they don't drive drunk and are safe when they are intoxicated. But I also don't find drunk people amusing or funny. It's just not my scene.

I'll bet you have plenty of parties, just because there isn't alcohol doesn't mean there aren't parties!!!

 

[Robbi]

My kids and my husband and I have been beyond tipsy at parties They're of legal drinking age and so are we. Partying with them is fun.
Some families are more comfortable with drinking than others. Traditions and culture play a part. We live in south Louisiana and the French joie de vivre is a way of life.

 

[Elleshoodat]

My kids and my husband and I have been beyond tipsy at parties They're of legal drinking age and so are we. Partying with them is fun.

Some families are more comfortable with drinking than others. Traditions and culture play a part. We live in south Louisiana and the French joie de vivre is a way of life.

I was going to post that perhaps it's a regional thing. I grew up outside New Orleans, and my parents and I drank together at various family functions, Mardi Gras, football games, etc. -- before I was 21. I'm not clutching my pearls at the idea of feeling tipsy around my parents or vice versa, but maybe it has to do with our culture.

 

[Robbi]

I was going to post that perhaps it's a regional thing. I grew up outside New Orleans, and my parents and I drank together at various family functions, Mardi Gras, football games, etc. -- before I was 21. I'm not clutching my pearls at the idea of feeling tipsy around my parents or vice versa, but maybe it has to do with our culture.

I see you live in SW FL. MY BIL lives there along with a bunch of other people from our area. They call Tampa-Tampadaux.

 

[amg35]

Well, what age are you talking about I guess?

We are all in our late 30's/40's and yes, we do get pretty buzzed at family parties, going out to dinner, holidays, etc with our parents. I mean, no one is falling over and being ridiculous, but there are louder voices and lots of laughter!

We drink a lot of wine.

I think my parents (dad especially) like the fact that they can enjoy their children as adults/friends now rather than just being the disciplinarian.

 

[Elleshoodat]

I see you live in SW FL. MY BIL lives there along with a bunch of other people from our area. They call Tampa-Tampadaux.

Nice!

 

[ckay87]

I didn't get that vibe from anyone, but good to know you're right there in the middle of the judgmental crowd No matter what side of the fence you're on, judgmental is judgmental.

Oh I got that vibe...right on post #3.........

I can't tell you the last time I was drunk. I just have better things to do.

Well count me as big old loser with nothing better to do than tie one on with my DH or girlfriends every now and then. And maybe even more often than that, gasp. Heck, I count the days....

HOWEVER...OP, I do kind of get what you're saying overall. I wouldn't worry if my legal adult kids were safely drunk in front of me now and then. I wouldn't actively encourage it and I wouldn't brag about it but if it happens, it happens.

 

[BGK]

Interesting perspective. I can only speak for myself and say that I only have "puritanical disdain" for those who drink in EXCESS. While some may have the same disdain for "those who drink alcohol to any degree," that doesn't describe me. If it did, I would have to have puritanical disdain for me and DH and even my 18 y/o DD. I admit to having a very low tolerance for those who spend every weekend getting drunk. I've moved past that. I've had friends that I have distanced myself from because that is all they want to do every single weekend. It gets old.

Define "in excess," please. Alcohol has no nutritive value, and the studies which show health benefits from consumption in various degrees aren't conclusive. By that measure, any alcohol is "excessive." As you said that's not your personal metric, what is? A legal definition of BAC? Fine, but what if I won't be driving? Slurred speech? Offensive behavior towards others? Speaking loudly? I could be accused of those things while sober as a judge.

The announcement of beer and wine service at Be Our Guest brought the neo-puritans out of the woodwork here. Many people thought that the inability to go the length of a WDW vacation without drinking was a moral failing, as was the desire to have alcohol with a meal. I really don't find that attitude in the web fora I frequent aside from here. From that parochial perspective, I find it really odd when I do encounter it.

 

[BGK]

I see you live in SW FL. MY BIL lives there along with a bunch of other people from our area. They call Tampa-Tampadaux.

Sniff. <judgmentalsnobbery>Southwest Florida is Charlotte-Lee-Collier counties. Tampa is central Florida.</judgmentalsnobbery>

Do carry on, though.

 

[TifffanyD]

Sniff. <judgmentalsnobbery>Southwest Florida is Charlotte-Lee-Collier counties. Tampa is central Florida.</judgmentalsnobbery>

Do carry on, though.

http://www.usf.edu/

http://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/South_Florida

 

[LisaR]

Define "in excess," please. Alcohol has no nutritive value, and the studies which show health benefits from consumption in various degrees aren't conclusive. By that measure, any alcohol is "excessive." As you said that's not your personal metric, what is? A legal definition of BAC? Fine, but what if I won't be driving? Slurred speech? Offensive behavior towards others? Speaking loudly? I could be accused of those things while sober as a judge.

The announcement of beer and wine service at Be Our Guest brought the neo-puritans out of the woodwork here. Many people thought that the inability to go the length of a WDW vacation without drinking was a moral failing, as was the desire to have alcohol with a meal. I really don't find that attitude in the web fora I frequent aside from here. From that parochial perspective, I find it really odd when I do encounter it.

You're absolutely right, "in excess" is hard to define in words. However, I think we all know what "in excess" means when it is people we are close to. I know exactly what my husband, siblings, and close friends are like when they are sober and when they are tipsy. I know what quite a few of those people are like when they have had an "excessive amount." My brother is extremely loud and tells inappropriate jokes when he is completely sober. But I also know what he is like when he has crossed that line. It has happened often. He is an alcoholic. I can't define it in terms of the amount of drinks one needs to consume to be considered excessive by my standards, but I can tell by ones actions what excessive is (especially if I know the person).

I do think a lot of my intolerance for "excessive" drinking (again, I do drink so I am not opposed to alcohol) has a lot to do with my exposure to alcoholism. Unfortunately, it runs rampant in my family. Some were/are falling down drunks. Others just NEED to have alcohol at every little thing they do. The idea that a dinner or any other get together can't be fun without booze is a lost concept to them.

I think there is a line and I think most people know where that line is. Some don't really care, though.

 

[BlovesC]

http://www.usf.edu/

GO BULLS!

Sorry, carry on.

 

[BGK]

http://www.usf.edu/

http://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/South_Florida

Sad entities with delusions of grandeur.

Though, by one of those odd quirks, I'm in the South Florida Water Management District, and you'd be in the Southwest Florida WMD. Which, in the main, means the sugar farmers' lobby ensures that the filthy overflow from Lake Okeechobee ruins the waters around me instead of making their fields damp. But that's all inside baseball. At least we're not tourists. And we make Food and Wine Festival weekends the truly happy times they are.

 

[Planogirl]

I used to have a few drinks with my mother occasionally and I would get tipsy. It was always at her house so no worries when it came to driving. We had a pretty nice time just chatting.

I'll just add that it never occurred to me to worry about what others thought. It still doesn't.

 

[Minnesota!]

No adult kids yet, but I do drink with my mom. And our best friends have 3 adult kids and they all drink with their kids. I see nothing wrong with it...

 

[sunshinehighway]

I used to have a few drinks with my mother occasionally and I would get tipsy. It was always at her house so no worries when it came to driving. We had a pretty nice time just chatting.

I'll just add that it never occurred to me to worry about what others thought. It still doesn't.

That's when all the old family stories come out. The ones nobody ever talks about.

 

[TifffanyD]

At least we're not tourists. And we make Food and Wine Festival weekends the truly happy times they are.

True story!

Well it's still hot here so time to jump in the pool and play some beer pong.

Ah, (South) Florida

 

[Mom_Rides]

I've been drunk in front of my mom a time or three. She doesn't seem to mind and has even contributed to my drunken state at my 21st birthday party and my bachelorette party. As a family, we're not big drinkers. I only saw my mom drunk a few times as a child (my stepfather who raised me was regularly drunk though). We've never been drunk in front of our children but we do have a beer or two in front of them. I would not be bothered by my future adult children being drunk in front of me now and again.

 

[TifffanyD]

My mom took me to Vegas for my 21st bday. So... Yeah

 

[Soldier's*Sweeties]

My mom took me to Vegas for my 21st bday. So... Yeah

My mom made me Jello Jiggler Egg shots and the little jelly bean ones too!