Do You Know Couples That NEVER Argue?

[Lionqueen2]

Sorry, Saphire, but my DH and I ,with 40 years of marriage behind us, don't argue and neither of us is passive. My in-laws who have been married 65 years don't argue either and neither do any of the couples who are close friends of ours.

 

[SundancePass]

OUr 40th anniversay is next month and we don't argue - IF one defines arguing as yelling, saying hurtful things and being mad at each other. Do we agree on everything? Nope, not a chance, no way in Hell. But, we have learned to work it out without hitting all the buttons of the other person, learned to compromise, and both know that life is too short to waste one second being mad at the other. There are heel marks in the rug under our dining room table because we are both so stubborn (2 Capricorns married to each other) but we agreed before we got married that we would "work it out". So that's what we do. I am married to the light of my life and my best friend. There are ladies standing in line for him if I go first as a PP said! Giggle....

We don't, never have, never will argue.

 

[DawnCt1]

I can't remember when the last time DH and I argued, so I could say that we don't argue. We pretty much agree on everything. Now we have a trip to WDW coming up. He likes to take it easy in the morning, hang out by the pool, go to the parks for a while, and I like to hit the parks when they open, and stay until mid day, and go back at night til they close. I have always had the kids to hit the parks with when DH didn't want to go, but they aren't going this time. We may be facing our first argument! Hey Dis'rs, settle it. Whose right?

 

[iggbees]

my boyfriend and i don't really argue either and we never yell at each other. we've been together for 5 years now and the only arguments we've ever had we always laugh and can't finish the argument. on a general day to day basis we don't argue, it has to be something really big for us to get mad. i think what helps my boyfriend and i is that we don't get offended very easily, so it's easy to let things roll off our back. we spend a lot of time with a couple that is constantly arguing (i mean, over EVERYTHING), it definitely makes us take a look at our relationship and appreciate what we have.

 

[Chicago526]

My parents never fought, not once in 39 years of marriage. That's not to say they didn't disagree on things, but they never got mad at each other over it. They just compromised and moved on. They each knew that if they didn't "get their way" this time, they'd get it on the next issue that came up. Also, they had the same opinions on a lot of things to begin with, so there wasn't a whole lot they weren't on the same page for to begin with.

 

[Pakey]

My husband and I have been married 25 years and we do not argue. Funny thing is that we don't agree. We are very different, have opposite political and religious beliefs. However, we both respect the other's choices. We have raised 3 sons and built a home without any arguments. Even for our vacations, we alternate selecting where and when we go as we both enjoy different types of vacations.

My parents never argue (they've been married 53 years) either and I think they provided great examples of how to treat each other.

 

[daisax]

I think there are people who are naturally argumentative and people who are not. And the people who are don't understand that two people who aren't simply work out their differences.

He likes to take it easy in the morning, hang out by the pool, go to the parks for a while, and I like to hit the parks when they open, and stay until mid day, and go back at night til they close. I have always had the kids to hit the parks with when DH didn't want to go, but they aren't going this time. We may be facing our first argument! Hey Dis'rs, settle it. Whose right?

You're both right. If you both feel strongly about sticking together the fair thing to do is do half the days YOUR way and half the days HIS way, or you can fly solo and he can join you mid-day. What's to argue?

 

[NMAmy]

How do you define argue then?

Mirriam-Webster defines it as follows:
1 : to give reasons for or against something : reason <argue for a new policy>
2 : to contend or disagree in words : dispute <argue about money>
transitive verb
1 : to give evidence of : indicate <the facts argue his innocence>
2 : to consider the pros and cons of : discuss <argue an issue>
3 : to prove or try to prove by giving reasons : maintain <asking for a chance to argue his case>
4 : to persuade by giving reasons : induce <couldn't argue her out of going>
synonyms see discuss

You can argue without raising your voice or calling someone names. I can believe a couple can live without yelling at each other. However, I find it hard to believe that any two people are so on the same page that they never disagree....

I think you have a point here. When I think of arguing, I think of being angry, hurt feelings, yelling and just plain fighting. Because DH and I don't handle differences of opinion in that way, I (and other people) would say we don't argue. We don't agree with each other on every issue but we tend to let the little things go (he cannot pour a cup of coffee without spilling it on the counter. ) and we both work really hard to make each other happy and see each other's point of view. It's nothing like the arguing that occurred in my first marriage. Neither DH nor I have raised our voices to each other or said hurtful things to each other.

 

[NeverlandClub23]

I was engaged and living with a guy for 2 years that I never argued with and thought we had a great relationship. I certainly didn't have anything to complain or argue about. One night he came home said he's tired of pretending to be happy, thinks we have horrible communication skills, and wants out. So while I do think there are couples out there that don't argue, I also think there's some couples that one person has nothing to argue about and the other is holding it up inside.

Growing up I NEVER saw my parents argue. Now that they get older they argue a lot more frequently (about petty stuff) but I think they're just as happy as before (I could be wrong).

I consider getting upset at something the other person does or says to be arguing. Raising voices, slamming doors, leaving, etc. I consider "fighting".

 

[Aisling]

The only thing I can think of is a couple that does not argue either just saves it for the privacy of their home away from the ears of others or one of them shuts the other out completely when they need to have a discussion.

Unfortunately this is my situation. We've been married for 26 years and don't argue. He clams up when there's an issue, just goes silent on me, it's so annoying.

 

[JimmyPicker]

For those of you who never argue, all I can say is you're missing out on making up. That's the best part of arguing.

 

[Aisling]

For those of you who never argue, all I can say is you're missing out on making up. That's the best part of arguing.

Well, I'm planning a big blow out for our next anniversary!

 

[JimmyPicker]

Well, I'm planning a big blow out for our next anniversary!

That may be the best anniversary you've ever had! Or it may be your last anniversary altogether. Either way, good luck!

 

[DMRick]

For those of you who never argue, all I can say is you're missing out on making up. That's the best part of arguing.

Trust me..we're not missing out on anything LOL! I don't have to wait until we're 'mad' for what would be missing. There are reasons some people manage to be married for over 40 years..and they aren't because we spent anytime being mad at each other LOL!