Do You Know Couples That NEVER Argue?

[Diva of Dragons]

DH and I have been together 20 years, married for 18, we never argue. And, on the rare occasion that we get annoyed with each other, we take some time is separate rooms, then discuss it for 5-10 min., then it's over.

We both know that neither one of us would do anything to hurt the other, so we just have to express our feelings, get where the other is coming from and move on.

 

[BigGoofy44]

So there are couples out there that do not have separate individuals with separate thoughts. Because every definition of "argue" includes "to give reasons for or against". Arguing is simply another word for debating and I know that most couples debate their own personal position. You don't have to yell to argue, it's just that most people don't know how to give their argument without yelling.

 

[Pin Wizard]

I can't imagine. We argued when things were stressed more than anything else. But when someone gets the attitude of "telling" me something to do, out come the gloves. The only person I take "orders" from is my boss.

 

[NMAmy]

DD just asked DH and I last week, "Do you two EVER fight?"

DH and I have very similar views and when we do have a difference of opinion, we both just state the reasons we feel the way we do. Sometimes I'll change my position; sometimes he'll change his. There's no yelling--we listen to each other and want each other to be happy. We've also made the agreement that both of us cannot be grumpy on the same day.

 

[crz4mm2]

DH and I don't. Have never had one. over 30 years
Doesn't mean we don't disagree, but we don't argue about it.

 

[Disney1fan2002]

Maybe they don't have parents, siblings, or kids that drive you to fight and drink.

They only thing DH and I argue about is something about the kids. We can talk and work through almost anything, but when it come to the kids, we argue.

 

[fairykin]

my Dh and I just don't argue. We never really did and we've been married over 25 years. We know that we are different people and see the world differently and rather like that. He has strengths that i do not and I have strengths that he does not.

 

[need_a_Disney_fix]

DH and I have been married 30 years now and we never argue. To add to this is the fact that we are together 24/7 since we work at the same place. PLUS, DH is my boss. Works very well for us.

 

[Buckalew11]

We rarely ever argue. I have 2 sisters. Sister #1 and her DH argue and sister #2 and her DH do not argue much. My parents rarely argued either.

 

[Kit'smommy]

How do you define argue then?

Mirriam-Webster defines it as follows:
1 : to give reasons for or against something : reason <argue for a new policy>
2 : to contend or disagree in words : dispute <argue about money>
transitive verb
1 : to give evidence of : indicate <the facts argue his innocence>
2 : to consider the pros and cons of : discuss <argue an issue>
3 : to prove or try to prove by giving reasons : maintain <asking for a chance to argue his case>
4 : to persuade by giving reasons : induce <couldn't argue her out of going>
synonyms see discuss

You can argue without raising your voice or calling someone names. I can believe a couple can live without yelling at each other. However, I find it hard to believe that any two people are so on the same page that they never disagree....

 

[Saphire]

Wow, I am amazed there are couples here that never argue. Mu suspicion is that one or both don't 'care' enough to argue, or that one partner is passive, and the other takes control.
DH an I may have an arguement once a month. No yelling, no harsh words, just plain disagreements. We talk it out and move on. But we have been married for years, so that is a lot of debating, lol.
I just can't imagine that in a long marriage, there hasn't been SOME issue that has come between you enough to have an arguement. That blows my mind!
However, I am still learning, and am willing to hear what all you non-arguers have to say, and how that can be so.

 

[Buckalew11]

Well, we are getting ready to build a house so that is all probably about to change! LOL

I am not sure why we do not argue much. We just don't.

 

[Mr Man]

I have been married nearly 20 yrs. We do not argue. This doesn't mean we don't have differences. We just don't argue about these differences. We talk through them and things generally work out for the best. In any event, "Yes Dear" and "Honey-Do's" seem a small price to pay for marital bliss. I get beer too!

We have mutual friends who seem to enjoy arguing (they do it all the time). We distance ourselves from this.......life is too short.

 

[Jennasis]

Your suspicions would be wrong Saphire.

DH and I don't argue. We rarely have a differing of opinion...we're very much alike. And the things we do differ on are easily compromised upon. We don't fight either. We don't have kids which I believe can add lots of stress and reasons for arguing to a marriage.

Have I ever been mad at DH? Yup...has he ever been mad at me? Sure! We just take our time quietly to figure out what needs to be done to rectify the problem and move on.

 

[Buckalew11]

I have been married nearly 20 yrs. We do not argue. This doesn't mean we don't have differences. We just don't argue about these differences. We talk through them and things generally work out for the best. In any event, "Yes Dear" and "Honey-Do's" seem a small price to pay for marital bliss. I get beer too!

We have mutual friends who seem to enjoy arguing (they do it all the time). We distance ourselves from this.......life is too short.

You may be on to something. My DH's favorite saying is "Yes, Dear."

 

[DMRick]

Wow, I am amazed there are couples here that never argue. Mu suspicion is that one or both don't 'care' enough to argue, or that one partner is passive, and the other takes control.

You can have that suspicion, but in our lives it would be wrong. I care tons..and can't imagine my life without my hubby (and I have a couple of friends standing in line for him, if I go first LOL..and I would not want him to be alone, so I hope he takes one of them up on the offer). I've never had any reason to think he feels any differently about me. We really do know each other good enough, and love and respect each other enough, that if we think something we would do would hurt the other, or be something the other wouldn't like..we just don't care to do it.

We've both always had good jobs, and although we never got rich, we also never had to fight about money.

We've been together our entire adult lifes, and there is no one else I'd rather spend time with. We like the same things (spending time with God, being with our family, camping, traveling, sharing our business, TV programs, working with a cat rescue group), finish each others sentences,and think much alike on most issues. Are we tied at the hip? Nope..I'm sending him as a gift to Ireland next week to celebrate his St Patty's Day birthday with our son who lives there. Great father/son time! Will I miss him? Sure, but he loves the history in Ireland, but I've been a few times, and other than seeing my son and his wive, I'd rather stay home and read and get caught up on spring cleaning LOL!

It's just the way it is, and I wouldn't change anything about my life. It's a calm life, it's not at all boring, and yes, it is predictable, and I have no problem with that. 42 happy years..we must be doing something right!

 

[bebelle]

Today is our 20th anniversary. I can honestly say we do not argue. We rarely have a difference of opinion. We are very well suited and like minded. We have an incredible relationship and are very blessed to be married to each other. Our opinion is that...life is too precious and too short to spend time being angry or mad. There is no one I would rather be with. I love my life and would not change a thing!

 

[luvmy3]

Dh and I really don't argue, but that doesn't mean we agree with eachother 100% of the time.

 

[chicagodisneyfan]

Alan and I do not argue. Life is too short to fight. We laugh, love, dance, travel etc.

Love comes first- if there is love - why argue (over most likely little things).

But we give each other a lot of freedom- we each have our own discretionary income - so we never have to ask about money. I can buy a sofa without him, he can buy a car without me.

We can be apart - I can travel to Vegas with the girls, he can go to out of town Bears games with the guys.

 

[RadioNate]

The only couple I know that never argues is one that he is the 'lead' and she is quite passive. She isn't miserable about it either. He makes the decisions and she follows along. I've known her for years and I've never seen her make a decision or give an opinion about anything. She just doesn't care. She is very happy so this works for them.

I have too big of a mouth and too many opinions to live that way. Unfortunately, I married an opinionated leader so we tend to 'fight' to get our way. We don't scream or yell (a lot ) curse, say hateful things, stomp around or quit talking to each other but we definitely argue about things. It is more of a debate, lol.