Do you ever feel SNUBBED on certain boards?

[TeresaNJ]

I do know how you feel. For the longest time I never visited the CB, stuck mainly with the trip planning boards as that was my main reason for being here. Then I lurked for a long time on the CB as I felt somewhat intimidated to post as everyone seemed to know each other so well and I felt like I was crashing the party. Slowly I started to post and even got to a "know" a few people, but then that outsider looking in feeling started to take over again, and I stopped posting as much. I think part of the problem is that alot of people have more time than others to read and post here, and they get to know each other very well. Alot of posts become very personalized, so it's sort of like being a voyeaur when reading these posts. One of the reasons I didn't sign up for DIS CON is because those on the DIS CON board seem to know each other so well and have talked to each other so much and are so looking forward to seeing each other, that I truly would feel like I'm inviting myself to an exclusive party. I just felt very uncomfortable about attending. I have questions like "will they like me", "what if they don't like me", "what if they don't like DH", "will we have anyone to hang out with". So I decided not to attend. Again, no one has done anything to make me feel this way, it is my perception and my problem. I guess the key is that if you want to be part of the gang you have to try harder.

 

[browneyes]

Originally posted by mrsapalm
And somehow, knowing what browneyes had for lunch or dinner, always seems to complete my day!
-MrsAPalm

Well, MrsAPalm, you know what I had for dinner yesterday. Lunch wasn't all that exciting yesterday. All I had was air for lunch.

 

[Blondie]

Sam, the best thing to do when asking for advice on the "other boards" (and this one as well) is to bump up your own thread.

Sooner or later someone will come along that hasn't seen it and will give you the advice or info you are looking for. Happens quite frequently on the Resort and Restaurant Board.

As far as the CB goes, it can be extremely busy at times, and rather slow at other times, especially over the weekend. Again, feel free to bump your own thread back to page one.

I don't think there are any bumping laws...not that I'm aware of!

As far as general topics, if nobody responds or just a few do, I chalk it up to the thread topic of being of little interest.

It's amazing what gets hundreds of views and posts! The "fluffier" the thread topic, the more interest it seems to draw!

It also seems at times that a certain DISer seems more popular than another, and will draw more responses simply because of who they are.

There really isn't anything that can be done about that except to participate or move on to another thread.

 

[WillyJ]

Very true Blondie. . but Lord knows I try my best to remain humble about it. .

 

[browneyes]

Originally posted by WillyJ
Very true Blondie. . but Lord knows I try my best to remain humble about it. .

LOL! You know, on the way into work this morning, I heard a Carly Simon song that reminded me of you Willy.

 

[Blondie]

The Marry Me song?

 

[browneyes]

LOL! I believe it was another one, Kathy.

 

[WillyJ]

I know which song you're talking about Shannon. . and I'm still mad at her for writing that about me!!!

Oh well, what are ya going to do?? See you all later; I'm off to Saratoga to watch my horse run. . .

 

[WilmaBud]

Back to the original topic - I have felt that way plenty of times on the CB. I've posted a topic and gotten like 3 replies, and 2 weeks later, I'll see the SAME topic posted by a more regular poster and she gets like 20 responses. The times it really bothers me are when the posts are for prayer requests. The "regulars" definitely get many more replies, even if it's for a less serious situation. I can't believe I'm being so bold as to post this because I'm usually totally non-confrontational. But this has hurt my feelings at times even though I don't "really" know anyone here. That being said, there are some people here who are always sure to reply to posts from all different members. I really appreciate those posters and their kindness.

 

[Blondie]

Originally posted by WillyJ
I know which song you're talking about Shannon. . and I'm still mad at her for writing that about me!!!

Oh well, what are ya going to do?? See you all later; I'm off to Saratoga to watch my horse run. . .

Hey, don't forget to wear your scarf, you know the one, it's apricot!

 

[nativetxn]

WilmaBud, I'm so sorry you've had hurt feelings.

 

[kejoda]

Originally posted by WilmaBud
Back to the original topic - I have felt that way plenty of times on the CB. I've posted a topic and gotten like 3 replies, and 2 weeks later, I'll see the SAME topic posted by a more regular poster and she gets like 20 responses. The times it really bothers me are when the posts are for prayer requests. The "regulars" definitely get many more replies, even if it's for a less serious situation. I can't believe I'm being so bold as to post this because I'm usually totally non-confrontational. But this has hurt my feelings at times even though I don't "really" know anyone here. That being said, there are some people here who are always sure to reply to posts from all different members. I really appreciate those posters and their kindness.

You've hit the nail on the head with this one Wilma. Also when someone posts a birthday greeting on the cb the populer ones don't get moved but others do.

 

[Blondie]

Originally posted by WilmaBud
The "regulars" definitely get many more replies, even if it's for a less serious situation.

Well, I consider myself a "regular" and trust me, there have been plenty of threads that I've started that only get maybe 3 responses and less than 75 views--and very recently too!

And I can relate to what you are saying about starting a thread, getting little or no response, then the next week someone else comes along with the exact same topic, and it takes off!

There's no rhyme or reason as to why it happens this way, it just does.

 

[helenabear]

WilmaBud, I know the feeling quite well. I think that is why I don't start threads much... too hurt by little to no replies too many times. Sorry you were hurt too

 

[WilmaBud]

Thanks for the kind words, everyone. I guess I'm just a sensitive soul. Some people deal better with rejection, and some people are bolder about putting themselves "out there." I still really enjoy the CB, but I mostly lurk. So when I DO ask for prayers, it's a big deal to me, and I get a bit crushed when there's little response. It is kind of understandable, though, that those who post more frequently and know each other better would respond more to each other than to those they don't know as well. I'm sure no slight is intended.

 

[browneyes]

Originally posted by WillyJ
I know which song you're talking about Shannon. . and I'm still mad at her for writing that about me!!!

She had some gall didn't she.

WilmaBud, I'm sorry if you've ever felt slighted here. I've had threads with no replies and I'm ok with it. If I sent out a prayer wish and didn't have any or little replies, I would probably feel sad though. I'm a "regular" and I've made very few prayer requests because of fear of that happening and because, even though I have a big post count, I'm a very private person. I don't even ask for prayer requests IRL. And, as Blondie suggested, bump the thread back up. Sometimes the threads that get low replies are posted at peak times where so much activity is going on the thread gets shuffled in the mix.

 

[Saffron]

WilmaBud --

I'm sorry that you've felt hurt. I hope I didn't pass by prayer requests for you. If I did, I'm sorry. I would never intentionally do that to anyone.

I see that happen, even as recently as 2 days ago, and I don't understand it either. I've bumped up a few threads that were about 4 pages back and once bumped, they received many more responses. I don't know or understand how they get lost, except to say that the boards move so fast, sometimes things fall behind.

I have to let you know I am in the "little or no response" thread category too. One time I started a thread that I thought was hysterically funny. I received a handful of responses at best. The same day I started a thread about olives and received 50 responses. Like Blondie said, there seems to be no rhyme or reason to when the threads will receive the responses and when they won't.

 

[Pugsley]

Even though I don’t post on any of the boards enough to be “popular,” people have pretty much always responded to my posts and made me feel welcome. I don’t care about being in the “in crowd,” since I’m not here to make friends – I’m here for entertainment and information. And, as people have mentioned, there are lots of innocent reasons why a post can get lost in the shuffle, so if I were ignored I wouldn’t take it personally. I often read posts that I find entertaining, clever or touching, but I rarely respond. So even if no one is responding, it doesn’t mean people don’t like you or your post.

Oh, and thanks everyone for the advice about adding your own tag. I just did that. Hope it works!

 

[WDWHound]

Originally posted by snoopy
Totally off topic, but WDWHound, I just now noticed your tag. How is your wife doing? I remember we met at WDW a couple of years ago. Hope all is well with her, miss seeing her on the boards.

Mandy's doing great. She keeps saying she is going to check back in here, so I wouldn't be surprised if we see her back on the CB someday soon.

And I just noticed. It looks like the tag fairys have paid me a visit (LOL).

 

[Buckalew]

WilmaBud,
I start few threads for that reason. I'm sorry you've felt that way and I certainly can relate though. I like your posts. Your screenname always makes me think of Wilma Flintstone so I always take notice of it. (I'm a huge Flintstones fan. )