Do co-workers try to flirt and/or "come on" to your happily-married spouse at work?

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If so, how do you feel about it?

And how does your spouse feel about it?

Other comments than just answers to the two questions above are also welcome.


Jus' wonderin'.

 

[FroggyinArk]

its not unussual at all for my dw to get flirted with or molested by her co worker and i am all the time getting groped and snuiggled by my co worker too.... then again dw and i work together as a team soi we really expect to get flirted with by co workers

 

[cgcw]

When DH & I were dating, there was a much younger (almost teenager) who took a liking to DH - who was 30 at the time. It would infuriate me -- not because she was flirting with him but because DH wouldn't discourage her. He thought she was just trying to be friendly. I would get really angry with him. DH-to-be (BF at the time) just didn't have it in him to tell her to get lost.

It wasn't until I mentioned to her that his 2 year old daughter would be with him for the weekend that she reconsidered her actions.

 

[OhMari]

then again dw and i work together as a team soi we really expect to get flirted with by co workers

 

[helenabear]

Never happens at work for some reason... he doesn't work with that many females and none of my co workers are flirts. But it isn't uncommon for outside others to flirt with either one of us. Then again we are both harmless (shameful) flirts and it doesn't seem to bother either of us.

 

[onecoolmama]

DH says it never happens to him. But it did happen to me when I was working and it bothered him completely!

When you are waitressing, not only do you have to deal with coworkers, but you have to deal with customers. When I was working as at the apartment complex, I had to deal with the maintences guys. I never told DH how far they went becuase he got soo upset the first time.

But it bothers him immensely...and I didnt like it either.

 

[vald1977]

I would assume they probably do but I don't know for sure and I don't know that I would want to. I trust DH completely so I know he would never act on it.

 

[Mad4Mickey]

I dont think his co workers do ( he is a so that would just be gross and wierd)

But I know that there are girls who come by the station or run into them while they are out on calls or just food shopping that do .
I think it is the uniform or at least that is why I stalked him LOL

 

[preshi]

There was a girl at DH's last store that did. I wanted to punch her, I still get ticked off when I see her. I didn't feel jealous or competitive with her (she's nothing to look at) what irks me is that she knows he's married and there is no need for her to talk to him the way she did.

 

[LScot]

DH works with men. I hope no one's seriously flirting with him.
DH is a FF also.
I have no coworkers. But a few of my clients have been flirts. Totally irks me and I think I have even vented about it here before.

DH can be the flirty type. He was named "Class Flirt" in HS.

 

[cynsaun]

Yes! My husband is a pilot, and the flight attendants are always flirting. I think it's hysterical, and I tease him all the time.

When he calls me quickly between flights, I can hear the flight attendant in the cockpit flirting terribly.

It has become a running joke!

 

[grinningghost]

Most of DH's co-workers are men, so if they tried flirting with him, I think he'd punch their lights out.

But, DH is a BIG flirt himself anyway. He flirts with lots of women and it doesn't bother me much. He's very faithful to me, he just has a flirting problem.

 

[aprilgail2]

I work at a place that is about 80 percent male and 20 female and it is not the other people coming on to the married ones...its the married guys flirting and coming on to the single females there...its unbelieveable...one guy who I KNEW was married and had one kid and his wife was in the hospital just given birth to another one was coming on to this new girl there...telling her that he is a single dad, his wife left him with the kid etc....finally later in the day he was standing next to her and I walked up and said "Hey Steve hows your wife and the new baby doing? When will she be getting out of the hospital"......boy was he pissed LOL...TOUGH...the girl had no idea he was married so she was pissed off that he was trying to pull that on her....

 

[kellib36]

Originally posted by aprilgail2
...one guy who I KNEW was married and had one kid and his wife was in the hospital just given birth to another one was coming on to this new girl there...telling her that he is a single dad, his wife left him with the kid etc....

While I'd really be PO'd if it was my dh, ya gotta admit, this was funny! But, I only work with a few people (less than 40) so no one takes anyone else seriously.....

I take that back, when one of the guys asked me a few years ago, "What happened to you, you used to be so skinny and nice to look at...." Yeah, I took THAT seriously.....jerk!

 

[LScot]

Originally posted by aprilgail2
I work at a place that is about 80 percent male and 20 female and it is not the other people coming on to the married ones...its the married guys flirting and coming on to the single females there...its unbelieveable...one guy who I KNEW was married and had one kid and his wife was in the hospital just given birth to another one was coming on to this new girl there...telling her that he is a single dad, his wife left him with the kid etc....finally later in the day he was standing next to her and I walked up and said "Hey Steve hows your wife and the new baby doing? When will she be getting out of the hospital"......boy was he pissed LOL...TOUGH...the girl had no idea he was married so she was pissed off that he was trying to pull that on her....

I would have done the same thing. I am mean like that! LOL I don't see anything funny about his "joke". Yep, his wife was still in the hospital after having gone through labor and he is telling **** like that? What a jerk!

 

[tinaluis]

DH is a bouncer at a nightclub and his co-workers don't hit on him, but some of the female clientele do. He comes home with some very interesting stories. He always tells everyone he is happily married but that seems to encourage some "hoochie mamas" rather than discourage them. I know I don't have to worry because he's 100% loyal, but the stories are amazing. He finds it hard to believe that anyone would want to pursue him after he's told them he's married -- I told him that's part of the attraction for some women. Go figure.

 

[Boston Tea Party]

Don't know.

Don't wanna know.

 

[browneyes]

Since my SO works with just men, I think it would bother him more than it would bother me.

 

[Trinity721]

My DH is in the Navy... need i say more? J/K!!! Seriously though, he has had several instances where he's encountered female coworkers who don't care whether he is married or not, and he always wears his wedding ring and makes sure they know he is married. Most of his female coworkers are very respectful and I have met many of them who i can trust and who are honest. But I know of a few who I thought were just being friendly, and it turned out that they were hoping the friendship would go further. Needless to say, it never has gone further. Thankfully, I have a husband who I can completely trusts and he even makes it a point to tell me if he's been hit on, which most of the time turns out to be just a funny story. I definitely agree that part of the attraction is that he is married and is a good husband, and makes it obvious by constantly calling me or emailing me every opportunity he has.

Ya know, sometimes other people really just don't have any respect for other peoples' marriages. But at the end of the day, those people are the ones who go home lonely and unhappy while you go home and snuggle with your SO

 

[Pin Wizard]

Originally posted by aprilgail2
I work at a place that is about 80 percent male and 20 female and it is not the other people coming on to the married ones...its the married guys flirting and coming on to the single females there...its unbelieveable...one guy who I KNEW was married and had one kid and his wife was in the hospital just given birth to another one was coming on to this new girl there...telling her that he is a single dad, his wife left him with the kid etc....finally later in the day he was standing next to her and I walked up and said "Hey Steve hows your wife and the new baby doing? When will she be getting out of the hospital"......boy was he pissed LOL...TOUGH...the girl had no idea he was married so she was pissed off that he was trying to pull that on her....

What a jerk that guy is! Good for you aprilgail!! What he did wasn't funny at all. And you would be surprised how many guys who are "just flirting" actually would do more!!