Disney Wonder Sept 3-7, 2006 Part 4

[purplern]

Thanks, Dawn.

I don't know what to do. I want to file a formal complaint with corporate. Because the local management wouldn't do anything. IF they were going to, they would have by now.

But I can't help feel that I'm being extreme and shouldn't do it. I'm just frustrated. I've shrugged all his crap off long enough.

To be fair, I was having a bad day and I started in on my brother when all that came out.. they he got in trouble at work for looking out for me and etc.

You are by NO means being extreme!!!! YOu are talking about your life. Who knows maybe he is crazy enough to hurt you!!! Go high er tell them what is happening and you want it to stop yesterday!

 

[purplern]

No, I can't decide if calling corporate is a good idea or not.

I can't decide if I'm being rational or not, lol.

And no.. small WV town = one theatre. lol. I'm not going to go anymore until I resolve this though.

There is one out in Marietta but they don't have regular hours/regular movies.. nor does it smell regular.

YES CALL NOW!!! Before you get hurt!

 

[purplern]

Oh god.

I was so mad earlier I unblocked him online long enough to send him a message to tell him I hated him and it wasn't going to ever change. That at that moment I'd never hated anyone more..
And a friend of mine who puts up with him just sent me this conversation she is having with him:

Dustin (11:49:21 PM): down deep she could feel the same way, that's why she hates me so much, because she hates that I make her feel something & she won't acknowledge it so she hurts me to try to make it better
Dustin (11:49:31 PM): I don't want ANYONE else
Dustin (11:49:41 PM): i'd rather just spend my life alone than not be with the one i'd do anything to be with

*edited to add*
Dustin (12:10:00 AM): we'll be together someday & when that does happen, i'll be happy

Dustin (12:12:52 AM): i'm trying to get my permit soon
Dustin (12:13:53 AM): i'm doing these things not just for me, but so we can be together when she realizes we're good together & could have a great relationship, engagement, marriage & family


...WHAT?!

Keep a copy of this for proof!!!! There is something mentally wrong with him!

 

[purplern]

Oh, goody. More.

Dustin (12:14:57 AM): I am the guy for her just like she's the girl for me
Dustin (12:15:08 AM): but I need to work to get her to realize this..

is it just me or does that seem a bit threateningly scary?

It is scary !

 

[purplern]

You have to have been physically intimate with someone in the state of WV to file for a restraining order.

West Virginia

This page lists the most applicable state crimes addressing stalking. However, depending on the facts of the case, a stalker might also be charged with other crimes, such as trespassing, intimidation of a witness, breaking and entering, etc. Check your state code or consult with your local prosecutor about other charges that might apply in a particular case.
Stalking
§ 61-2-9a. Stalking; harassment; penalties; definitions. 1992. Amended 2001.

(a) Any person who willfully and repeatedly follows and harasses a person with whom he or she has or in the past has had or with whom he or she seeks to establish a personal or social relationship, whether or not the intention is reciprocated, a member of that person's immediate family, his or her current social companion, his or her professional counselor or attorney is guilty of a misdemeanor and, upon conviction thereof, shall be incarcerated in the county or regional jail for not more than six months or fined not more than one thousand dollars, or both.

(b) Any person who willfully and repeatedly follows and makes a credible threat against a person with whom he or she has or in the past has had or with whom he or she seeks to establish a personal or social relationship, whether or not the intention is reciprocated, or against a member of that person's immediate family, his or her current social companion, his or her professional counselor or attorney with the intent to place or placing him or her in reasonable apprehension that he or she or a member of his or her immediate family will suffer death, sexual assault, kidnaping, bodily injury or battery is guilty of a misdemeanor and, upon conviction thereof, shall be incarcerated in the county or regional jail for not more than six months or fined not more than one thousand dollars, or both.

(c) Any person who repeatedly harasses or repeatedly makes credible threats against a person with whom he or she has, or in the past has had or with whom he or she seeks to establish a personal or social relationship, whether or not the intention is reciprocated, or against a member of that person's immediate family, his or her current social companion, his or her professional counselor or attorney is guilty of a misdemeanor and, upon conviction thereof, shall be incarcerated in the county or regional jail for not more than six months or fined not more than one thousand dollars, or both.

(d) Notwithstanding any provision of this code to the contrary, any person who violates the provisions of subsection (a), (b) or (c) of this section in violation of an order entered by a circuit court, magistrate court or family law master, in effect and entered pursuant to part 48-5-501, et seq., part 48-5-601, et seq. or 48-27-403of this code is guilty of a misdemeanor and, upon conviction thereof, shall be incarcerated in the county jail for not less than ninety days nor more than one year or fined not less than two thousand dollars nor more than five thousand dollars, or both.

(e) A second or subsequent conviction for a violation of this section occurring within five years of a prior conviction is a felony punishable by incarceration in a state correctional facility for not less than one year nor more than five years or fined not less than three thousand dollars nor more than ten thousand dollars, or both.

(f) Notwithstanding any provision of this code to the contrary, any person against whom a protective order is in effect pursuant to the provisions of 48-27-403 of this code who has been served with a copy of said order or 48-27-501 of this code who is convicted of a violation of the provisions of this section shall be guilty of a felony and punishable by incarceration in a state correctional facility for not less than one year nor more than five years or fined not less than three thousand dollars nor more than ten thousand dollars, or both.

(g) For the purposes of this section:

(1) "Harasses" means willful conduct directed at a specific person or persons which would cause a reasonable person mental injury or emotional distress;

(2) "Credible threat" means a threat of bodily injury made with the apparent ability to carry out the threat and with the result that a reasonable person would believe that the threat could be carried out;

(3) "Bodily injury" means substantial physical pain, illness or any impairment of physical condition; and

(4) "Immediate family" means a spouse, parent, stepparent, mother-in-law, father-in-law, child, stepchild, sibling, or any person who regularly resides in the household or within the prior six months regularly resided in the household.

(h) Nothing in this section shall be construed to prevent lawful assembly and petition for the redress of grievances, including, but not limited to: Any labor dispute; demonstration at the seat of federal, state, county or municipal government; activities protected by the West Virginia constitution or the United States Constitution or any statute of this state or the United States.

(i) Any person convicted under the provisions of this section who is granted probation or for whom execution or imposition of a sentence or incarceration is suspended is to have as a condition of probation or suspension of sentence that he or she participate in counseling or medical treatment as directed by the court.

(j) Upon conviction, the court may issue an order restraining the defendant from any contact with the victim for a period not to exceed ten years. The length of any restraining order shall be based upon the seriousness of the violation before the court, the probability of future violations, and the safety of the victim or his or her immediate family. The duration of the restraining order may be longer than five years only in cases when a longer duration is necessary to protect the safety of the victim or his or her immediate family.

(k) It is a condition of bond for any person accused of the offense described in this section that the person is to have no contact, direct or indirect, verbal or physical, with the alleged victim.

(l) Nothing in this section may be construed to preclude a sentencing court from exercising its power to impose home confinement with electronic monitoring as an alternative sentence.
§ 61-3C-14a. Obscene, anonymous, harassing and threatening communications by computer; penalty. 2002.

(a) It is unlawful for any person, with the intent to harass or abuse another person, use a computer to:

(1) Make contact with another without disclosing his or her identity with the intent to harass or abuse;

(2) Make contact with a person after being requested by the person to desist from contacting them;

(3) Threaten to commit a crime against any person or property; or

(4) Cause obscene material to be delivered or transmitted to a specific person after being requested to desist from sending such material.

For purposes of this section, "obscene material" means material that:

(A) An average person, applying contemporary adult community standards, would find, taken as a whole, appeals to the prurient interest, is intended to appeal to the prurient interest, or is pandered to a prurient interest;

(B) An average person, applying contemporary adult community standards, would find, depicts or describes, in a patently offensive way, sexually explicit conduct consisting of an ultimate sexual act, normal or perverted, actual or simulated, an excretory function, ************, lewd exhibition of the genitals or sadomasochistic sexual abuse; and

(C) A reasonable person would find, taken as a whole, lacks literary, artistic, political or scientific value.

(b) It is unlawful for any person to knowingly permit a computer under his or her control to be used for any purpose prohibited by this section.

(c) Any offense committed under this section may be determined to have occurred at the place at which the contact originated or the place at which the contact was received or intended to be received.

(d) Any person who violates a provision of this section is guilty of a misdemeanor and, upon conviction thereof, shall be fined not more than five hundred dollars or confined in a county or regional jail not more than six months, or both. For a second or subsequent offense, the person is guilty of a misdemeanor and, upon conviction thereof, shall be fined not more than one thousand dollars or confined in a county or regional jail for not more than one year, or both.

 

[JLSE50]

West Virginia

This page lists the most applicable state crimes addressing stalking. However, depending on the facts of the case, a stalker might also be charged with other crimes, such as trespassing, intimidation of a witness, breaking and entering, etc. Check your state code or consult with your local prosecutor about other charges that might apply in a particular case.
Stalking
§ 61-2-9a. Stalking; harassment; penalties; definitions. 1992. Amended 2001.

(a) Any person who willfully and repeatedly follows and harasses a person with whom he or she has or in the past has had or with whom he or she seeks to establish a personal or social relationship, whether or not the intention is reciprocated, a member of that person's immediate family, his or her current social companion, his or her professional counselor or attorney is guilty of a misdemeanor and, upon conviction thereof, shall be incarcerated in the county or regional jail for not more than six months or fined not more than one thousand dollars, or both.

(b) Any person who willfully and repeatedly follows and makes a credible threat against a person with whom he or she has or in the past has had or with whom he or she seeks to establish a personal or social relationship, whether or not the intention is reciprocated, or against a member of that person's immediate family, his or her current social companion, his or her professional counselor or attorney with the intent to place or placing him or her in reasonable apprehension that he or she or a member of his or her immediate family will suffer death, sexual assault, kidnaping, bodily injury or battery is guilty of a misdemeanor and, upon conviction thereof, shall be incarcerated in the county or regional jail for not more than six months or fined not more than one thousand dollars, or both.

(c) Any person who repeatedly harasses or repeatedly makes credible threats against a person with whom he or she has, or in the past has had or with whom he or she seeks to establish a personal or social relationship, whether or not the intention is reciprocated, or against a member of that person's immediate family, his or her current social companion, his or her professional counselor or attorney is guilty of a misdemeanor and, upon conviction thereof, shall be incarcerated in the county or regional jail for not more than six months or fined not more than one thousand dollars, or both.

(d) Notwithstanding any provision of this code to the contrary, any person who violates the provisions of subsection (a), (b) or (c) of this section in violation of an order entered by a circuit court, magistrate court or family law master, in effect and entered pursuant to part 48-5-501, et seq., part 48-5-601, et seq. or 48-27-403of this code is guilty of a misdemeanor and, upon conviction thereof, shall be incarcerated in the county jail for not less than ninety days nor more than one year or fined not less than two thousand dollars nor more than five thousand dollars, or both.

(e) A second or subsequent conviction for a violation of this section occurring within five years of a prior conviction is a felony punishable by incarceration in a state correctional facility for not less than one year nor more than five years or fined not less than three thousand dollars nor more than ten thousand dollars, or both.

(f) Notwithstanding any provision of this code to the contrary, any person against whom a protective order is in effect pursuant to the provisions of 48-27-403 of this code who has been served with a copy of said order or 48-27-501 of this code who is convicted of a violation of the provisions of this section shall be guilty of a felony and punishable by incarceration in a state correctional facility for not less than one year nor more than five years or fined not less than three thousand dollars nor more than ten thousand dollars, or both.

(g) For the purposes of this section:

(1) "Harasses" means willful conduct directed at a specific person or persons which would cause a reasonable person mental injury or emotional distress;

(2) "Credible threat" means a threat of bodily injury made with the apparent ability to carry out the threat and with the result that a reasonable person would believe that the threat could be carried out;

(3) "Bodily injury" means substantial physical pain, illness or any impairment of physical condition; and

(4) "Immediate family" means a spouse, parent, stepparent, mother-in-law, father-in-law, child, stepchild, sibling, or any person who regularly resides in the household or within the prior six months regularly resided in the household.

(h) Nothing in this section shall be construed to prevent lawful assembly and petition for the redress of grievances, including, but not limited to: Any labor dispute; demonstration at the seat of federal, state, county or municipal government; activities protected by the West Virginia constitution or the United States Constitution or any statute of this state or the United States.

(i) Any person convicted under the provisions of this section who is granted probation or for whom execution or imposition of a sentence or incarceration is suspended is to have as a condition of probation or suspension of sentence that he or she participate in counseling or medical treatment as directed by the court.

(j) Upon conviction, the court may issue an order restraining the defendant from any contact with the victim for a period not to exceed ten years. The length of any restraining order shall be based upon the seriousness of the violation before the court, the probability of future violations, and the safety of the victim or his or her immediate family. The duration of the restraining order may be longer than five years only in cases when a longer duration is necessary to protect the safety of the victim or his or her immediate family.

(k) It is a condition of bond for any person accused of the offense described in this section that the person is to have no contact, direct or indirect, verbal or physical, with the alleged victim.

(l) Nothing in this section may be construed to preclude a sentencing court from exercising its power to impose home confinement with electronic monitoring as an alternative sentence.
§ 61-3C-14a. Obscene, anonymous, harassing and threatening communications by computer; penalty. 2002.

(a) It is unlawful for any person, with the intent to harass or abuse another person, use a computer to:

(1) Make contact with another without disclosing his or her identity with the intent to harass or abuse;

(2) Make contact with a person after being requested by the person to desist from contacting them;

(3) Threaten to commit a crime against any person or property; or

(4) Cause obscene material to be delivered or transmitted to a specific person after being requested to desist from sending such material.

For purposes of this section, "obscene material" means material that:

(A) An average person, applying contemporary adult community standards, would find, taken as a whole, appeals to the prurient interest, is intended to appeal to the prurient interest, or is pandered to a prurient interest;

(B) An average person, applying contemporary adult community standards, would find, depicts or describes, in a patently offensive way, sexually explicit conduct consisting of an ultimate sexual act, normal or perverted, actual or simulated, an excretory function, ************, lewd exhibition of the genitals or sadomasochistic sexual abuse; and

(C) A reasonable person would find, taken as a whole, lacks literary, artistic, political or scientific value.

(b) It is unlawful for any person to knowingly permit a computer under his or her control to be used for any purpose prohibited by this section.

(c) Any offense committed under this section may be determined to have occurred at the place at which the contact originated or the place at which the contact was received or intended to be received.

(d) Any person who violates a provision of this section is guilty of a misdemeanor and, upon conviction thereof, shall be fined not more than five hundred dollars or confined in a county or regional jail not more than six months, or both. For a second or subsequent offense, the person is guilty of a misdemeanor and, upon conviction thereof, shall be fined not more than one thousand dollars or confined in a county or regional jail for not more than one year, or both.

Thank you for sharing all this!! I am reassured to learn that even in WV there are legal protections for Patsy.

Patsy--please do follow up on this. Perhaps even a call to the county prosecutor's office to see what course they suggest--should they initiate the contact? should you? how do you file charges? stuff like that.

As a non-lawyer-person I have no idea how to proceed but sure am glad that others on our Thread have concrete suggestions.
BEST WISHES
Jan

 

[taeja71]

Patsy, seriously. This is just wrong. This guy is seriously scary. What kind of a freak writes that stuff about you in his blog and then breaks down crying because you avoided him? This is not right, not even a little bit. I'm really scared for you. And he's old enough to know better! Someone needs to have a talk with him, and that stupid manager is NOT helping things by sheltering the guy. I don't blame you one bit for being so mad. Stupid brother. Doesn't he know the saying, no one messes with my family? You let me know if he's ever in my neighborhood, I'll kick him in the shins for you.

Actually, Patsy recently posted that her stalker was coming to Indy.

 

[LCTsMom]

Hehehe you get 'im, Tae Ja!

 

[purplern]

Hehehe you get 'im, Tae Ja!

YEP!!

 

[purplern]

time to go to the car line!

 

[Piecey]

Hmm.. the people at work today noticed I looked like crap and was jumpy everytime the door was open. And I stayed in my station.. like it was a safety blanket. Haha.

Soo I told them what was up and they talked me into calling the State Police. After my friend (who knows everything first hand and i'll appreciate having there to make me feel like i'm not insane and retarded.. for reassurance) said he was really, really afraid that Dustin would hurt me.. I was really freaked out.

So when above mentioned friend (Josh) gets out of the shower we're headed out to the State Police office in Parkersburg to file a formal complaint.

I have that feeling that something is going to go very, very badly.
Just that bad gut feeling. Peachy.

 

[purplern]

Hmm.. the people at work today noticed I looked like crap and was jumpy everytime the door was open. And I stayed in my station.. like it was a safety blanket. Haha.

Soo I told them what was up and they talked me into calling the State Police. After my friend (who knows everything first hand and i'll appreciate having there to make me feel like i'm not insane and retarded.. for reassurance) said he was really, really afraid that Dustin would hurt me.. I was really freaked out.

So when above mentioned friend (Josh) gets out of the shower we're headed out to the State Police office in Parkersburg to file a formal complaint.

I have that feeling that something is going to go very, very badly.
Just that bad gut feeling. Peachy.

Very wise decision!!!! Reading what you said he wrote made me nervous!

 

[zweihund]

The Travel Channel is having a show on the World's Best Cruise Ships Thursday at 1:00pm (MDT) and Disney is included.

DVR set to record!
Thanks for the heads up.

Patsy, you need to get out of that town. That's some scary stuff.

 

[zweihund]

Thank you for sharing all this!! I am reassured to learn that even in WV there are legal protections for Patsy.

Patsy--please do follow up on this. Perhaps even a call to the county prosecutor's office to see what course they suggest--should they initiate the contact? should you? how do you file charges? stuff like that.

As a non-lawyer-person I have no idea how to proceed but sure am glad that others on our Thread have concrete suggestions.
BEST WISHES
Jan

Where is Maleficent when we need her???

 

[PirateCutie05]

Just popping in to say hey! Been busy with school and going home for Fall Break and all. Hope everyone is doing well!

 

[LCTsMom]

Patsy, hang in there! Keep us posted!

We're not having a great week here either. Someone hacked into our checking account and got $500. There were charges listed from France, Spain and various US states. The bank said they probably just kept entering card numbers until they got one that worked. Ours!! It will take up to a couple of months for the bank to recover the funds.

 

[Piecey]

Ouchies..

I had to help someone today that had his wallet stolen.

Basically, nothing can be done. I figured as much. complaint was filed, they called him on a recorded line and he said he'd leave me alone from here on out.. so if he doesn't, he can get jail time.
They suggested I go to Magistrate court and file for a restraining order (learned tonight someone filed one against him when he was in high school.) but I don't think I will. It won't do much good because if it's granted and he's good for the initial 30 day period I have to have a hearing and it probably wouldn't be extended. Nothing he says online can be used because it could be anyone.

 

[maleficent esq.]

So I know I'm overdramatic and I'm counting on you guys to calm me down..

Stalker guy broke down Sunday (crying, couldn't help customers and you know.. do his job.) and the management yelled at my brother because he caused it. By getting my tickets for me so I could avoid stalker guy. And my brother went off on me, told me to cancel the trip.. I was the last person in the world to turn on him and all this other stuff that made me really upset and made me start crying so I'm pissed enough to finally do something about it..

I called Corporate because all the managers at the movie theater know me and wouldn't do anything but now I feel like I'm just causing a scene. It's not right, to me.. though I guess I'm just the victim and I'll always feel shunned? I don't know what to do. But I've never been like this.. never so angry/upset that I shook and could rip the heads off of anyone who got in my way.

Piecy,
The long and the short of it. If you and this guy ever had a relationship - boyfriend/girlfriend partners anything you may be able to get a protective order. If not then there are anti-stalking laws and statutes in every state that should protect you. Run do not walk to the DA's office they should have a section that deals with domestic violence or stalking crimes talk to them and file for a protective order or restraining order. Please please please take the time to do this. If you do not know where to start call the operator and ask her for the phone number of the women's shelter in your area. They should have an attorney or at least social workers on staff who can direct you. This stuff is very serious and you should not fool around with it.


OK on to nicer topics. When we got to Disney they had my mothers room reservations all messed up ordered special needs room did not have one. They said they gave us one finally but did not. Gave us a shower seat so mom could shower. I called in my NY voice and asked that they take $20-$25 off my mothers room they called me back and said they took $20.00 off both rooms so happy about that. The pirates of the Caribbean. We were on the ride with Mom (who is wheelchair bound has serious back issues and can only walk 1 or 2 steps) when the ride broke down. They evacauted the ride and had to bring in the fire department to put my mother in a special chair and have the firemen carry her out. So we stood around the attraction until help arrived. For our inconvience they gave us 18 fast passes good for any attraction. So not as exciting as it sounds but still interesting to stand in the attraction. Loved our stay at the beach club but again, did not have a room for mom. Anyway overall it was wonderful - the halloween party was great and Disney as always the most incredible place on earth. Glad to be back

 

[purplern]

Just popping in to say hey! Been busy with school and going home for Fall Break and all. Hope everyone is doing well!

Hi Heidi

 

[purplern]

Patsy, hang in there! Keep us posted!

We're not having a great week here either. Someone hacked into our checking account and got $500. There were charges listed from France, Spain and various US states. The bank said they probably just kept entering card numbers until they got one that worked. Ours!! It will take up to a couple of months for the bank to recover the funds.

That's terrible!!!