I understand the frustration as well, but I must tell you that I have booked four trips and the last three times I booked and each time I spoke to someone at the CRO the CM has asked me if I have booked my dinner ADR's and has offered to transfer me to Disney Dining. Each time I have been advised to make those ADR's.
I wonder if the people who are surprised are those who book through a TA who has not advised properly or those who have booked online. I am anxios to hear how my DGD's friends family made out this weekend as they had not booked one ADR and did not know that they were needed. I am going to ask her how they booked their trip.
Or those who just prefer to stay offsite and really have no reason to call WDW, other than to maybe find out about discounts on park tickets or the like.
We've traveled with newbies or folks who haven't been to WDW since the '80s, and they're blown away when I suggest we make some dining ressies months in advance if there's anything that they must try onsite, or just plan on our big meals being offsite. These have never been folks who stay onsite or have reason to call WDW in advance. They trade their timeshare for something off 535 or I-Drive and show up to the parks.
And there's an awful lot of WDW lovers who don't know about the DIS. I've been going to WDW since it opened anywhere from four to six times a year, and I only just found out about the DIS a year or so ago (as well as Mousesavers

). So it's not like only the real passionate WDW lovers know to come here.
And I must admit that in my 35 years of living and vacationing all over, I've never seen meal planning so far in advance and so detailed as I do here. I've vacationed in NY, Las Vegas, Utah, TX, Atlanta, Chicago, Philly, and I was raised in Fort Lauderdale -- big vacation destination. Sure, you might book a ressie a few weeks out for a special night or for one of the "hot spots" in any given town, but we've always arrived at our hotel, unpacked and talked to the check-in folks or concierge about what they recommend for dining in the time we're there. I don't go to one centralized menu website for all of NYC or Zion, Utah, go over all the menus, figure out where we're going to be in six months, what we're going to be doing that day, what time we'll be done, showered and cleaned up and still have enough time to get to a ressie. Like I said, *maybe* for an extra special occasion one night during our trip.
And nothing against those who enjoy planning their meals out so far in advance. I just think we're in that transition spot where WDW used to be a spot for planners, as well as non-planners. Nowadays, for whatever reason, you really need to plan.
I think a lot of people who haven't been to WDW in the last few years think WDW is just like most other vacation spots. And if you don't have a need to call them in advance, no one is going to stress to you to make ADRs.