Discipline at school issue w/toddler - (UPDATE PG 2)

[Oh Kay!]

Originally posted by Hillbeans
I was told my the pediatritian his speech is right around where it should be. (I do know what you're saying though, and I appreciate you mentioning it. I do watch it closely and try to work on his speech with him).

Not to alarm you, but FYI, from my personal experience, DS's ped was not the best detector of speech delay. From about age 2, I'd asked him if DS's speech was normal (I was beginning to get worried), and the reply always was yes. It wasn't until DS started preschool that we had him tested and it turned out his speech was indeed delayed. If you suspect speech delay, you should contact the school district and arrange for testing. For my DS a lot of unhappiness at school was due to frustration.

I hope I'm not freaking you out; that's not my intention. It's just that having a child with speech problem makes me more sensitive to that issue.

Good luck with your meeting on Monday.

 

[Hillbeans]

Well I went to school today and the teacher and director are out on vacation. This will now have to wait another day until Tuesday!

I'll update tomorrow then I guess.

 

[Mimi Q]

I'm sorry. I know you are anxious to get to the bottom of this incident.

 

[Daydreamer64]

I'm a SAHM and my kids didn't go to daycare. I ran a home daycare while they were little to allow them to stay with Mom and allow me to earn money. Here in Georgia we have the government sponsored 4-K. Both my kids had their first school/daycare experience at age 4. They were quite able to speak and tell me all about their day.

One day my youngest came home and was very upset because he got sent to the director's office- quite unusual for him as he was a very well behaved child. He cried and told me they yelled at him and he had to sit in the office for all day.

The next day when I dropped him off at school, I asked to speak to the teacher about his behavior. She laughed and assured me that it wasn't major and she was just trying to instill in him the fact that he HAD to follow the teacher's rules. He wasn't being bad but just having selective hearing when it was time to line up for bathroom break. She had taught 4-k for 25 years and I was very comfortible with her as a teacher. She said in her experience that the "good" kids just have to try the limits once in a while and she tried to stop them before they are hard to real in. She did raise her voice and sent him to the director. The director only said to him that he had to sit with her for a while- they gave him a 5 min. time-out. It was very scarry to him as he thought he was in major trouble-

I've never had any behavior trouble out of him in school again, he's in second grade this year. The experience left a lasting impression.

While a just turned three may not able to fully explain what happened, he did let you know he was upset- I would persue the issue and tell them to call you next time there is a question about his behavior, that you do not condone raised voices in the classroom, that he is a very sensitive child and suggest other ways to curb any questionable behavior that may occure.

They probably just sent him to the office to scare him into behaving- sometimes the teacher needs a time-out from a busy child and it may be better for him to leave the room if he is getting on her nerves. Better yet- are there any other rooms for three year olds there that he may switch too?

 

[Hillbeans]

Ok, (egg on my face). I spoke with the teacher this morning and my son was not the one who got in trouble last week. Apparently there is a child who was acting up to the point of being taken out of the room last Thursday and my son, the magpie, was repeating that all weekend - making his poor daddy and myself think it was him.

The teacher sounded embarassed that her tone made Kevin carry on the way that he did, so I hope that in the future she remembers that. I'm sure she's a good teacher.

Thanks to everyone for listening.

 

[Mimi Q]

Glad you got to the bottom of the situation. I know you feel better now.

 

[twinmomplus2new]

Glad to hear it was all ok. Just like my leap frog drama!

 

[SRUAlmn]

You know what though, no reason for egg on your face. It's not like you went in there with a police siren ready to shut the place down. You were just a concerned mother and there should be more parents in this world that care about their children as much as you do

 

[Hillbeans]

Originally posted by twinmomplus2new
Glad to hear it was all ok. Just like my leap frog drama!

LOL - you read my mind. I was telling my husband that story yesterday.

 

[mom2boys]

Glad everything turned out ok.

Love that leap frog story.

I always make sure I get the teacher's side of the story before I go riding in on my broom - especially with my youngest. He feels the world is against him when things don't go his way. 9x out of 10 - it is a misunderstanding or misperception. Now I will call the teacher on an issue once I have the facts if I believe it is warranted.