Did You Wake Your Baby to Feed Them?

[KAMKIM]

It took alot of nerve to write a post like that. It presumes that no one can give an opinion on anything unless they have walked in your shoes. It's shocking that you throw out this type of post without ever knowing the background of any of it's readers.

It's a lazy debate tactic and it does nothing to forward your position.

Nevermind.

 

[KAMKIM]

It took alot of nerve to write a post like that. It presumes that no one can give an opinion on anything unless they have walked in your shoes. It's shocking that you throw out this type of post without ever knowing the background of any of it's readers.

It's a lazy debate tactic and it does nothing to forward your position.

Also, it should be noted that the point that you are arguing isn't even about parenting, per se. It is about whether an individual should act solely on intuition. Given that plenty of examples of bad parenting can be easily given, I put forth the position that acting solely based on intuition is, at best, flawed. Your reply does nothing to challenge my position.

Who here said you should act solely based on intuition?

 

[Gabes_mommy]

It took alot of nerve to write a post like that. It presumes that no one can give an opinion on anything unless they have walked in your shoes. It's shocking that you throw out this type of post without ever knowing the background of any of it's readers.

It's a lazy debate tactic and it does nothing to forward your position.

I wasn't talking to "anyone" - I was talking to you. My point being that someone who is not yet a parent doesn't really have any place engaging in a debate about parenting.

This will be my last post responding to you. My original post was designed to be kind and helpful and was not directed at anyone specifically and I feel your response was cruel and insinuated that by following a parent's intuition I was going to hurt my child. I believe my response to you was 100% appropriate.

Again, I will no longer respond. It is clear that no one is going to change your opinion, and that's OK - you are entitled to it.

 

[sbell111]

I wasn't talking to "anyone" - I was talking to you. My point being that someone who is not yet a parent doesn't really have any place engaging in a debate about parenting.

This will be my last post responding to you. My original post was designed to be kind and helpful and I feel your response was cruel and insinuated that by following a parent's intuition I was going to hurt my child. I believe my response to you was 100% appropriate.

Again, I will no longer respond. It is clear that no one is going to change your opinion, and that's OK - you are entitled to it.

Yes. You are also entitled.

 

[sbell111]

Who here said you should act solely based on intuition?

Gabes Mommy, apparently.

 

[Gabes_mommy]

My baby beefcake weighed 9 lbs 13 ounces at birth and let me know loud and clear when he was hungry. I never had to wake him to eat and I never would have since he was healthy and growing.

Like many have said, unless your child is unhealthy or low weight it is probably not necessary to wake an infant to eat.

Julie Chin is very petite and never got too big during her pregnancy so I wouldn't be surprised if her son is on the smaller side. I suspect that's the reason for having to wake him.

Parenting is so intuitive. It really involves relying on what you know is best. Parents truly do know the most about their children. Doctors are there to advise, but I certainly don't do everything they say. For example, many doctors advise against practices like co-sleeping, which was really special in our household. Thankfully I have a supportive doctor who never told me what to do, but that is not always the case.

Quoting myself. I clearly stated that I take my Doctors advice when I feel it is appropriate.

 

[KAMKIM]

Quoting myself. I clearly stated that I take my Doctors advice when I feel it is appropriate.

People read what they want to read, this debate is going no where. I agree with you. Until you have kids, you have no idea.

 

[disykat]

No one should "blindly" follow ANY advice. Yes, parents do have intuition to use and they know their own children. However, if choosing to follow advice, I'd choose that of a medical profession who knows my child WAAAAY before I'd follow the advice of strangers over the internet saying to "NEVER wake a sleeping baby."

This thread is just weird.

 

[MaryAnnDVC]

Nevermind.

Unfortunately, I didn't quote this post BEFORE you changed it.

I can't believe how nasty and personal some of these parenting discussions get.

Did I wake my kids to feed them? No. They weighed over 10 lbs at birth (one was over 11 lbs, and 13 lbs at 3 weeks)...all breastfed. I fed on demand.

The "never wake a sleeping baby" idea worked for us. For preemies, or slow gainers, or heavy sleepers with with low weight issues, I would imagine it makes sense to wake them to feed them. Certainly if told by a doctor to wake a sleeping baby to feed them, and you don't agree or understand WHY, then you need to discuss it with the doctor. I've been lucky to have a WONDERFUL pediatrician who I felt I could question or discuss anything with, who I truly trust more than any other doctor I've ever known, yet I'd never blindly follow whatever he said just because he said it. We have a give and take relationship, and I know he values my opinions as well.

The concept of trusting one's intuition is touchy one for me, as I've seen some bad parenting in my life because some parents felt they knew more than the doctor, period. I just think it's much less black and white...parents intuition/research and doctors' knowledge, as well as good communication between both, are necessary.

 

[KAMKIM]

Unfortunately, I didn't quote this post BEFORE you changed it.

I can't believe how nasty and personal some of these parenting discussions get.

Did I wake my kids to feed them? No. They weighed over 10 lbs at birth (one was over 11 lbs, and 13 lbs at 3 weeks)...all breastfed. I fed on demand.

The "never wake a sleeping baby" idea worked for us. For preemies, or slow gainers, or heavy sleepers with with low weight issues, I would imagine it makes sense to wake them to feed them. Certainly if told by a doctor to wake a sleeping baby to feed them, and you don't agree or understand WHY, then you need to discuss it with the doctor. I've been lucky to have a WONDERFUL pediatrician who I felt I could question or discuss anything with, who I truly trust more than any other doctor I've ever known, yet I'd never blindly follow whatever he said just because he said it. We have a give and take relationship, and I know he values my opinions as well.

The concept of trusting one's intuition is touchy one for me, as I've seen some bad parenting in my life because some parents felt they knew more than the doctor, period. I just think it's much less black and white...parents intuition/research and doctors' knowledge, as well as good communication between both, are necessary.

I realized it was mean after I posted it that is why I changed it. Why would it have been better if you quoted it? It's not okay for people to realize what they said was inappropriate?