Did you get married in a church?

[Soccer Princess]

We are not even engaged yet and his parents are already making this an issue. Anyways, did you get married in a church? If not, did you have issues with either sets of parents? Please share your experiences, good ,bad and ugly. Thanks!

 

[Rex Rules]

Didn't get married in a church, MiL cried the entire time because she was losing her son. Geez. They figured it would never last anyhow and here we are still together after 11 years.

 

[Aidensmom]

We got married at the church where I am a member, which is a non-denominational protestant church. My family is Catholic, and DH's family does not attend a church. Neither family had any problem with it, and I think that is how it should be. Where to get married should be the decision of the people who are getting married.

 

[stinkerbelle]

Nope. got married by a JP.
DH's family it's really religious.

My father - devout catholic...we were all raised catholic...had NO PROBLEM with me not getting married in the church. No one in my extended family did either.

 

[DisneyJen0504]

Yes, DH and I got married in my church. Neither of us are super religious, yet it wasn't even a discussion. We both felt like we should get married in the church. Had an beautiful ceremony and an amazing reception.
If you and you FI agree on getting married in or not in a church, that is all that matters. Do what is right for you.

 

[sls23]

Nope - we were married in Disney at the Wedding Pavillion.

 

[KristaTX]

We are church-goers, and my FIL is even a preacher. But we got married in my parents' beautiful backyard with about 80 people attending. I've never enjoyed going to church weddings. No fancy dress, no tuxedos, no ugly candlestick things, no fake flowers. . . But we did have a real wedding cake, which is the only thing I like about "normal" wedding ceremonies anyway.

 

[alliecats]

We got married on a pier over the water in the Bahamas, just the two of us. If anyone had any problems with this, they kept it to themselves.

 

[WDWLVR]

We got married in my parish church but DH and I are both practicing Catholics. I not a big fan of people getting married in a church just for show and then now going again.

 

[Jeafl]

DH and I are both Catholic and we had a full-mass Catholic ceremony. At the time we both never even considered doing it another way.

However, if we were to ever do it again, I would want just the two of us on Trunk Bay beach on St. John or Napili Bay beach on Maui.

 

[Trish5768]

I got married in a church. Not sure what the reaction would have been if I had not, I never even considered getting married elsewhere. However, if I could do it again I would definately get married on the beach.

 

[graygables]

The first time, big church wedding. No one protested except ex's drunk father who couldn't understand the "no alcohol" rule.

Last wedding, in our back yard under our grape arbor with just immediate family and a preacher. The reception was in our torn-up-for-remodeling house, with meat & cheese, veggie, and fruit trays I'd made myself and a "real" wedding cake (our biggest expense of the day!)

I always say to spend less time planning a wedding and more time planning a marriage. It's not something worth arguing over, but I also think it's time for parents to let go.

 

[swankybeth]

No, we had an interfaith wedding, so our wedding was held in a nondenominational chapel. It was so beautiful, it was a historical chapel that had been restored to the late 1800's.

 

[MomofKatie]

I wasn't brought up going to church, and DH is actively against organized religion (long story- really bad experience as a teen with Youth ministers). We felt it would be hypocritical to join a church just for the purpose of booking it for a wedding, then never going afterward.

We were married outside our reception site- an antebellum home in Marietta, GA. There is a beautiful gazebo in the garden there that we used for the ceremony.

My godfather is a retired Federal judge, and we wanted to have him marry us- but DH's parents and grandmother had a big problem with that- they really wanted us to use a minister. We ended up using the minister of the Presbyterian church his parents went to. We felt funny about it, but it made them happier- if they had had their way, we would have had a big church wedding and gone twice a week after we were married!

 

[Tjaleks]

We got married in the court house in May after being together for 6yr and living together for 5yr. In fact 2 of our 3 sets of parents are still unaware of our marriage.

 

[LargoLori]

We were married in City Hall on New Years Eve. My dad was the mayor of the city I grew up in and he performed the ceremony. He was leaving office that year and it was his last "official" duty as mayor. It was very special. Do whatever feels right for the two of you. Thats what it's all about.

Lori

 

[pattyT]

WE got married there!
the grandparents were the ones to hem and haw over it -
but we told them we were going to have our wedding 'blessed' later and they were good...
did we follow through with that

 

[piratesmate]

We got married in a church, but it was not what we really wanted to do. We wanted a religious service, but outside. Both sets of parents gave us an extremely hard time about it & I eventually caved in...I was young & easily manipulated. "It will be too hard on your grandparents" etc - I ended up feeling like a selfish 2yr old. I even ended up wearing white (which always made me look like death-warmed-over) because I couldn't deal with MIL.

This was over 30 yrs ago when weddings weren't as costly or elaborate as they seem to be now. But you know what?? In the grand scheme of things it didn't really matter. We got our piece of paper & our tax break.

Later, my grandmother (who never complained about the possibility of us having it outside) told me that a wedding should either be the last thing you do to please your parents or the first thing you do to please yourself....a good thought actually.

 

[CharlesTD]

We did get married in a church but it was a non denominational church and it was cheap and we were not limited to one religion only. Our minister did the wedding ceremony in a non denominational way just like a JP (justice of the peace) would.

 

[olena]

I was married at a chapel in Las Vegas by a minister. For the Sanctuary fee at our church, I got an inclusive package in Vegas that included the wedding, flowers, music, video, photographer, pictures, two nights at the hotel, room service and dinner at a 4 star restaurant.