Did I do the right thing?

[djgeffers1]

My daughter is 20 yrs old and her boyfriend moved in with us about 4 weeks ago and ever since then I have been very uncomfortable in my own home. He is very arrogant and thinks he knows everything about everything, and within the last couple of weeks he has been giving us this kind of attitude, kinda cocky like, he does not believe in our govt. and does not believe in banks, suppoaedly someome stole his identity and social security number but seems in no hurry oi fix that situation.
My DH and I feel he is a con man, his story is he used to own his own construction company in Georgia but the govt took it away because he hired illegal immigrants and didn't know it and govt found out now he owes thousands of $ in taxes so he no longer files taxes, he also supposedly ran a high class night club in atlanta and miami. He hit me up for 2 huge loans which I shot down, wanted money to start new business.
Well last night after I came home from work I blew up, he refused to give me the phone and asked me what my attitude problem was, I told him to get out, eventually police had to be called and escourted him out, daughter left with him and now she says she hates us and never wants to see us again. I am so sick over this, tell me my daughter will be back eventually and will see him as the con man he is, my daughter and I are very close and I am so afraid she will not come back.

Sorry this is so long.

 

[cgcw]

I am so sorry for what your going through.

Your daughter will come back....because eventually she will see him for what he is. No good. She'll need her mom to help her pick up the pieces of a broken relationship. I feel sorry for her.

Hang in there!

 

[Lucky4me]

You did the right thing. He sounds like a total liar and a loser. Your daughter will come back to you when she comes to her senses.
Try not to make any ultimatums, just be there for her when she figures this guy out. I hope that is very soon. This can't be easy for you...

 

[WebmasterMaryJo]

<font color=navy>Hugs, dgeffers. You made the right decision, even though you're heartsick over your daughter.

She's blinded by "love" right now. Hopefully, you'll be able to continue to let her know how much you love her, and when she sees reason she won't be too embarrassed or afraid to come back to you.

This too shall pass.

 

[aahmom1]

You did the right thing, try not to worry. Hopefully your daughter will see the light too.

 

[trayletha]

I am sure she will see the light - don't give up hope. {{{{HUGS}}}}

 

[disykat]

You did the right thing.

 

[dbond]

Bless your heart! It just doesn't get any easier being a parent even when they are supposed to be grown up. I will keep you and your daughter in my prayers. You did the only thing you could do. Have heart, she will see him for what he his, only time will tell.

 

[delswife]

I agree, you did the right thing.. What I'd like to know is how did you keep from smacking him?!?
What a loser!
Your daughter will come back.
Mary Jo said it best She's blinded by "love" right now. Hopefully, you'll be able to continue to let her know how much you love her, and when she sees reason she won't be too embarrassed or afraid to come back to you.
{{{Hugs}}}

 

[SplshMtn99]

You absolutely did the right thing.

Next comment comes from my financial background: (and not meant to make you worry -- but...) check your bank acct & credit cards acct for recent unathorized activity; check for missing checks (even way down at the bottom of the book & in the drawer). Make sure he hasn't done anything to take you for a "ride"; since you mentioned con man.

Good luck. She'll come around.

 

[Mermaid02]

You DEFINATELY did the right thing- I think she'll be back..... when he realizes he isn't going to be able to get any money out of her (mostly due to you shooting him down) he'll probably just take off and leave her hanging. Just be there for her when she comes back and try not to say "I told you so." (that would be VERY hard for me!)

 

[helenabear]

I am so sorry you are going through this. I think you did the right thing and I hope your DD comes home soon {{hugs}}

 

[SonjaB]

I can't add anything to what the others have said. Just wanted to offer you my best and a big {{{{{HUG}}}}}

 

[Ilove8Trax]

Feeling unsafe in your own home is not something to tolerate. I have a close friend with a loser boyfriend too and i've just separated myself for the time being. We all learn as we grow no matter how long it takes. She'll be back, it just might be with consequenses that could be hard to imagine.

 

[GeorgeG]

One more vote for doing the right thing. Hope it all works out for you.

 

[Jeff in BigD]

I think you did the right thing

 

[Claudia1]

Yes, check your records! At any time that you have been away from home, he could have gone through personal papers to retrieve info. Check your credit report for inquiries made and any other recent activity that you did not do.

Hugs to you......you did the right thing. Your daughter should eventually see him for the on man that he is and, yes, she will need you!

 

[kdibattista]

You absolutely, positively, 100% did the right thing. Don't have any regrets. Your daughter will see eventually.

 

[Serena]

I agree, you did the right thing. And check all records.


{{{hugs}}} She will be back.

 

[Minnie824]

You did do the right thing....another comment is, if he has a key you may want to think about changing your locks. I know this sounds harsh, but you can never be sure. She'll be back once she realizes who he really is. You just have to be patient.