Dh has interview for job in Orlando. I am freaking out. UPDATE post #32

[crisi]

Good luck, but don't worry too much....a hiring process can take months, if he gets hired, and if he takes the job. If you enjoy the research it's kind of fun, but I've done virtual school and house shopping over the past five years in Chicago, Portland, Atlanta, Orlando, San Jose, Cupertino... Sometimes he wasn't a good fit for them, sometimes they weren't a good fit for him. (he hasn't been in a huge rush to move, and we have had significant family concerns locally which have meant it had to be a great fit for us to move)

I hope it's a good fit for both, and it works out..but don't get to anxious over it until they are offering to fly you in....then it's real.

 

[angwill]

DH has been applying for a new job at many places all over the country. He has not been happy at work for a couple of years. The job he had for a decade was eliminated and they offered him a lower position at a significant paycut. Since he is in a specialized field there are basically no jobs in our state. He took the lower position to keep his insurance and such until he could find another job. We decided which states we would be willing to relocate to and he has been applying when something opens up. He has had 3 interviews in the last 6 mo. with one job offer that was too low to consider. Last Monday a job in his field, with a pretty decent starting pay, popped up on the internet so he applied on Wednesday. They called him Friday (only 2 days later!) they want him to do a phone interview on Wednesday. I thought that was pretty fast. My head is spinning with the what-ifs. If he got the job I would have to stay behind with my son and sell our house and the thought of that is scary. We would also have to find a place down there to live. I did some research and found out the cost of living down there is slightly less than where I live so that is a good thing. I also keep telling myself that I would live a stones throw from Mickey Funny but I think my DH is more excited about that prospect than I am and I am the Disney Freak in the family. The thought of moving so far away from our families is sad but exciting. I lost my dad last Christmas at a young age and I think it has made me re-evaluate our lives. I have always played it safe and I now realized life can be short and sometimes you have to take a chance and throw caution to wind. Just looking for some good vibes for the possible adventure ahead.

Good luck to you and I hope it works and is a job he likes more.

One word of warning is to make sure you can afford for him to live in Orlando while you are stuck in Wisconsin possibly for years. I say this because we are in IL and were told the average home sale time is 6 months here and the realtors, we've had two, both felt our house would sell fast. We have updated almost everything and most especially the expensive things like windows and roof. Well we have had our house on the market for almost 2 years now with no luck. This year has been the worst with only 1 showing. You just need to prepare for any possibility. I do hope everything falls into place for you though and if you put your house on the market it sells fast.

 

[mapmakerj]

One of our top concerns with DH getting a job somewhere is the temp housing for him. We figured out a budget and we would be ok with him renting a place for a while. We also have a nice travel trailer and if we decided to take it with us instead of selling it, Dh said he could always stay at an RV park too. I am hopeful that our house would sell in a reasonable timeframe. Three homes on our block have sold in the past 2 months, all about the same age and value as ours. One was on the market for a while but they were not willing to budge on the price. As soon as they dropped it 5k it sold. The other two sold in less than a month on the market. It really helps that we are in a very good location of the city, with all newer homes and close to everything. We also have the advantage of having a good amount of equity so, if we needed to drop the price to move it faster, we have that option. I just wish one of his interviews would pan out so we are not in limbo. I just want to move on so my DH can get his career (and our lives) back on track. Uggh!

 

[KodakFigment]

One of our top concerns with DH getting a job somewhere is the temp housing for him. We figured out a budget and we would be ok with him renting a place for a while. !

We did this 2 years ago in a whirlwind much like yours. DH announced he hated his job and wanted a new one...one month later he was living in Orlando and I was buttoning up things in upstate NY.

Glad to chat with you if you have questions. I saw this comment though and wanted to offer something that worked for us. DH rented a vacation condo from VRBO. Because he was booking off season (you will be too) and for an extended stay (7 weeks) he was able to negotiate a great deal! What's nice about the vacation condos is that all utilities are in the rent and they are fully furnished and equipped. Just this past summer his brother and his wife did the same thing while their house was being built here near Orlando.

Windermere is wonderful, Dr. Phillips is nice, but much more congested. Check out southern Winter Garden right behind Disney and Williamsburg next to Sea World. We rented for 2 years and just bought our house on the Winter Garden / Windermere border. It's 5 miles to the MK parking lot.

Good Luck tomorrow!

 

[mapmakerj]

Thanks for the good wishes. VRBO is a great idea. I will keep that in mind if things pan out.

 

[angwill]

One of our top concerns with DH getting a job somewhere is the temp housing for him. We figured out a budget and we would be ok with him renting a place for a while. We also have a nice travel trailer and if we decided to take it with us instead of selling it, Dh said he could always stay at an RV park too. I am hopeful that our house would sell in a reasonable timeframe. Three homes on our block have sold in the past 2 months, all about the same age and value as ours. One was on the market for a while but they were not willing to budge on the price. As soon as they dropped it 5k it sold. The other two sold in less than a month on the market. It really helps that we are in a very good location of the city, with all newer homes and close to everything. We also have the advantage of having a good amount of equity so, if we needed to drop the price to move it faster, we have that option. I just wish one of his interviews would pan out so we are not in limbo. I just want to move on so my DH can get his career (and our lives) back on track. Uggh!

That is awsome that things are selling around you. Sadly, I have watched every house around me sell and keep thinking we are next but then another will go for sale and sell before us again. Even our realtor is at a loss for what is happening especially because we are under price for the area. Someone suggested someone cursed our house. lol I am starting to wonder. I do hope your husband gets the job and you can move at the perfect time for your your family. It is extremely hard being in limbo and trying not to plan for the future just incase the house sells.

 

[prncess674]

I am hoping for the same for us when the time comes. I am trying to look at it as an adventure. It would be great to be a bit selfish and have my DH and DS to myself. DH is always being asked to help one family member or another with something and DS is growing so fast it won't be long before he has a life of his own. I think the bonding would be a great thing.

Just remember that al, those family members who your DH helps out are also probably the same folks who help you out by watching your kiddos for " just a minute" while you step out or have a date night, or who help you when you have a project around your house. Try to remember al, the favors YOU ask when you cringe thinking about the favors your family asks of them.

 

[angwill]

Just remember that al, those family members who your DH helps out are also probably the same folks who help you out by watching your kiddos for " just a minute" while you step out or have a date night, or who help you when you have a project around your house. Try to remember al, the favors YOU ask when you cringe thinking about the favors your family asks of them.

I just had to reply that not all families work that way. Familys that function well together do but not all. My DH is always helping family despite the fact that never once have any of them been there to help us. Never once have any family babysat for us and when we asked in emergency situations in the past we were told no. When my DB helped DH with plumbing he sent us a bill. We continue helping family for free just because we like doing it but we do not change plans if we have them. You can not assume that all families function the same way.

 

[mom of2]

Good Luck!!! Dh got a job in orlando in May and lived in our travel trailer until July when we were able to move down with him. We live in St. Cloud and love it. We moved from OH. Maybe a 45 min. drive with the tt, to DW but it doesn't seem like it.

 

[bumbershoot]

I just had to reply that not all families work that way. Familys that function well together do but not all. My DH is always helping family despite the fact that never once have any of them been there to help us. Never once have any family babysat for us and when we asked in emergency situations in the past we were told no. When my DB helped DH with plumbing he sent us a bill. We continue helping family for free just because we like doing it but we do not change plans if we have them. You can not assume that all families function the same way.

Agreed.

DH constantly helps his mom, and now I am doing the heavy lifting while helping to care for her post-series-of-strokes, and she has watched DS exactly twice in his life. And both times she either freaked him out by having a friend come over and they only spoke Korean (she has not taught DS Korean, just like she didn't teach it to her children) OR got on his case b/c he wasn't reading yet (having a 6 year old trying to read the captions during a movie is NOT a good way to test reading skills). My BIL lets DH come over to use his hose to wash our car every 2 years or so, and has offered his tools and space for the very very occasional car work, but that's it.

It just doesn't work that way in all families.



OP, best wishes to you guys!

 

[mapmakerj]

Just remember that al, those family members who your DH helps out are also probably the same folks who help you out by watching your kiddos for " just a minute" while you step out or have a date night, or who help you when you have a project around your house. Try to remember al, the favors YOU ask when you cringe thinking about the favors your family asks of them.

What is a date night? Those don't happen for us. It is pretty much one sided with the favors and help. Both of our parents are retired and taking full advantage of it. Neither side is EVER home. We are constantly taking care of their places and pets while they are gone. His parents and siblings are constantly asking for help with something. We never ask them for anything. We have lived in our house 15 years and none of his siblings have helped with anything, let alone even visited. We have 1 DS who is old enough to stay home while I run a few errands so that is not a problem. My mom tries to see him once a week or at least talk to him on the phone and his parents see us once a month maybe and we all live in the same town. I wish I had the family you describe.

 

[mapmakerj]

Update: The interview went really well. They told him that he had all the qualifications they were looking for. They made him an offer at the end of the interview! They have great benefits and even said they would pay for relocation! Now the catch....the advertised salary was not even close to the offer. He told them that their offer was quite a bit lower than what they advertised and that there was no way we could make the move for that pay. The HR rep said that the person in charge of deciding the salaries changed his mind on what they wanted to offer after the posting went up. She said they now didn't want to pay more than X amount to start. My DH said we would have to get back to her. Their offer would have been a moderate paycut. We figured out cost of living differences and such and decided on a number that would work. He called her back and said that he was very interested in the job and would be willing to split the difference and take a salary that was in the middle between their offer and the original advertised salary. She said she was pretty sure the person in charge wouldn't budge but that she would pass this information on to him. UGGH! Everything was going great until they reduced their salary. Sooo upset! DH said it sounded to him like there would be no negotiation and that this was a closed deal. I told him that they must have had a lot of interest in him to interview him and offer him the job so quickly. I told him that there is still a possibility he will hear back from them if they really want to fill the position and cannot find another candidate with his qualifications. So we wait and in the meantime continue to look at other job openings.

 

[kt_mom]

Good luck! I hope that they will negotiate with him. I wish DH would apply for jobs in Florida. I'd take just about anywhere in florda except the panhandle. I've dreamed of moving to florida since I was a kid. We had family in the Merritt Island area and spend a lot of time there when I was younger.

 

[wdwnow]

Oh, how nerve-racking for you! It sounds like you gave good advice to your husband; maybe they'll accept his offer. Good luck!

 

[rgoble5972]

Fingers crossed for you!

 

[thebeesknees]

Fingers crossed! DH has had that happen several times (go through the interview process only to get an offer well below what was advertised). It's so frustrating because it feels like they have wasted everyone's time. Unfortunately, with the job market the way it is, they usually end up finding someone willing to take the job for the lower amount in DH's line of work. Hopefully, they will be willing to work with you - sounds like it would be a great move for you all!

 

[sparklynails23]

They're negotiating. He needs to not look desperate and stick with his counter. He shouldn't have gone so low. I'm sure what was advertised is what they are willing to pay.

 

[NoOrdinaryPrincess]

I hope things work out for you!

 

[pixiewings71]

Hang in there on the salary offer, don't stress. DBF was offered a job at a higher rate that he was currently making, but he countered with an even higher offer and he got it! My fingers are crossed for you!

 

[JDUCKY]

not sure what that salary range is but Dr Phillips and esp. Windermere are some of the more expensive real estate in this area.

If the office is near SeaWorld, you might consider the Hunters Creek / Loop area.

Not sure if this would be an issue but schools are better in Seminole county but that would be one heckuva commute that I would *not* recommend but good schools in Orange county, too. We're in Winter Garden near Windermere and the schools here (at least elementary and middle) are excellent.