I'm so sorry you're stressing out about your wedding.It's too bad there isn't a way you could find some common ground. Like, it really seems like you want an afternoon reception (which would be amazing in that room, with those windows!!!
)...there's nothing that can be done, no compromising at all? I understand you have tradition to think of, but it's your day, and you only get to do it once...so please do what makes you happy!
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Aww Rachel I'm sorry you're stressing out and the parents & in-laws are driving you nutsWhat's most frustrating is there probably isn't anything you can do
Your wedding location looks beautiful, though.
OH Rachel.....I know exactly what you mean! My parents have already told me what they want me to do for my wedding.... And even though it's tradition for the groom's family to pay, seeing as how his dad hates me, I don't see that happening. Which means it'll be up to my parents to help out.
It's really too bad you're losing the natural lighting....those windows are gorgeous!
I'm so sorry to hear about your stress, and having to compromise.
I completely understand wanting natural light, the reception hall is beautiful, love the windows. Have you seen the reception hall at night?
Hope your wedding planning is going better. I totally understand your strife! Just hang in there, and know that your day will be perfect to you no matter what happens! I was lucky that my in-laws were not demanding. My mom was a little more insistent on certain things. But the only thing my mother in law asked about was why we were having white paper lanterns as part of the reception? As you know white isn't exactly a good color in Chinese culture. But I was like, really? Of all the things you would ask about, you'ed ask about the lanterns? I mean, I'm wearing a white dress for goodness sake, I think we've kind of established we arent having a chinese wedding... but everything worked out in the end, white lanterns and all...
BTW, that place looks familiar, is it the chinese scholars garden in SI? I have seen pictures of that venue before! It's beautiful and so is your reception location. Is that on SI as well?
Oh girl, so sorry to hear about your stress and wedding planning drama. I can TOTALLY sympathize on that front. You want to try to accommodate everyone and please everyone, but at the same time, not lose totaly control of what will be a very special day. I was lucky that my parents were pretty lowkey about it all and just went with it, but my in-laws kept springing things at the last minute. They are very traditional and there were simply some things we could NOT forego.
Too bad we didn't know each other back in the day, because I'm pretty sure you would have enjoyed my sushi buffet at our "american wedding ceremony" before the big banquet. I am still beyond bummed that I didn't get to enjoy it myself. Feel free to FB me if you just need to vent or have any other questions. I know I sent you a pic of my chinese dress a ways back.
On the other hand, hearing about the mango salsa is making me hungry right now.
I can relate! We've been engaged since December and have done basically nothing to plan our wedding because it's so stressful and well, no fun. Both of us work full time and I own a crumbling house that we are trying to rennovate, plus with both of our families and our wedding venue (that we haven't picked yet) 6+ hours away, and serving as mediator between my opinionated mother & non-traditional fiancee...ugh I'm getting a knot in my stomach just thinking about it.We're having the same problem where my family is waaay larger than my fiancee's so that's causing tension too. I feel your pain!!
What a great shot of Ray at Target!
I load up the dishwasher, too before we use any of the dishes. I know that they "should be" clean, but after I wash them I know that they are! You just never know...
I am so sorry to hear about your wedding planning stress. That venue is gorgeous, though! Will you be able to take wedding photos there during the day? I hope the rest of your planning will go smoothly.![]()
We're getting snow up here too!!A LOT of it! It hasn't stopped snowing since this morning! I was all ready to put away my snow boots too
Yeah...the smell is so.....heavy...
I'm ok with just a tiny bit or having food touch it, but if I swallow about....1 tsp or more of it, my throat gets swollen, my face gets all red, I start throwing up and it's just all very unpleasant.
When I was a baby back in China, cilantro is a very popular spice where I come from, and my parents would feed it to me, but I would always throw it back up. They finally take me to the doctors, find out that I'm allergic and that they could've killed me if they kept feeding it to me!Thank goodness they found out in time.
I had twinkle lights at my wedding and I loved them. I thought it made the whole place look sort of magical. It was a good wedding. I don't know if everyone would have liked it, but it suited us.
I was really lucky, though. We didn't have any wedding strife. My mom and I shared a similar vision and my in-laws were very undemanding.
It's funny, you spend so much time working on a wedding and then once it happens, none of those details even matter any more. You just look back on and think what a happy day it was.
Speaking of eloping, Andrew and I have this running joke that when we get to Vegas next year, we're going to get drunk and get hitched in one of the casino chapels![]()
I'm sorry to hear about all of your wedding planning stress.I remember how tough it was, trying to make everyone happy but still trying to stay true to what I wanted. Wedding planning is tough!
I love your venue pictures, though! Anytime you are feeling stressed or overwhelmed, just take a look at that picture of you and Howard and that will remind you why it's all more than worth it. You two are made for each other, and your wedding is going to be a beautiful union. Trust me, when you're standing at that altar, all of the stress from planning just melts away. Hang in there!![]()
Hello. I'm subbing! I seen noticed your ptr on one of my disfriends boards.. but I can't recall which one right now.. I've been trying to catch up on everyones and I'm lost now. hehe Congrats on the engagement and hopefully I can catch up! hehe
Hello again.. I'm happy to say that I am caught up! I really enjoyed your posts. It was fun to see pictures from Amtrak because DH and I just took a trip to Chicago, IL in November for my birthday and we took Amtrak (first train ride) and it was such a great experience.
I also love your mickey pictures on the train they were cute. I think I might take a mickey friend or some disney friend along on my plane ride in May. Speaking of plane trip in May- I am planning to FINALLY start my ptr for that trip today. I'll post if I do so.
We love Nature Valley bars- I think that peanut butter is my favorite. The only thing that annoys me if how hard they are. I enjoy crunchy but sometimes they hurt my teeth.
I look forward to future posts.
Hello! I've finally started my PTR for May. Here is the link you would like to follow along. http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?p=40489079#post40489079
I guess it'd be easier if I knew upfront what they expected. That's why we kept asking. Don't let me get my hopes up that I can choose what I want, and then you come along and change it after I already have it set in my mind. That's what really bugged me! I mean, sure, I probably would've been upset regardless, but at least it wouldn't have been as bad. Once I have my mind set on something, my mind starts mentally preparing for it. That's the way it is with everything I do!
Ooo, a sushi buffet? That sounds amazing! Do you have a wedding album online? I just checked your FB and don't see one (hehe, but I got to see your DD again, and she always makes me smile!).
Yeah, things were definitely tricky. Like I said, DH's family - very traditional. Like for example, we didn't evenr eally get to pick the date, they found some "lucky dates" for us and we could pick from those. Plus on the WEDDING DAY, his mom shows up while I am getting my hair done and springs it on me that I need to wear this red ribbon and plant/twig thing in my hair. I was like......um, what? I need to wear a plant in my hair that is all done up? Luckily my hair person was fantastic and weaved a little piece in seamlessly. By the way, if you need a hair and makeup person, my person was awesome. It's been about 5 years now, but she was in Queens at the time. I was so nervous about having someone do my makeup and having me look like a geisha. I always felt like make up people want to give me (aka an asian) bright red lips. I just wanted to look natural (but prettier).
I don't have any wedding pics on FB becaus that was a while ago, but I have an insane amount of Shutterfly. I can try to send you a link to some pics from the album if you want. You'd just have to let me know what things you wanted to see.
I'm glad my DD makes you smile! I have been trying over and over again to post the video of her meeting Jessie on the blog, but keep failing. sigh.
We have Cracker Barrels all over the place here but I've never stepped foot in one, I should go just to check out the store!
Glad they actually had your order and you guys figured it out, what a pain!
Nice update! We have Cracker Barrell restaurants/stores in our area but we don't go to them a whole lot because I cook the "home cooked" style meals at home. When we go out to eat, I want something different. It was fun seeing the store from your perspective.
LOL-- I totally remember Fruit Stripe! Didn't they come with "tattoos" that you could put on your tongue?? Oh, the 90's!
YUM-- I just love Cracker Barrell! The food is so hearty (3 sides with an entree!) and the prices are great.
YUMMY Cracker Barrell! They have delicious food! Thanks for all the cool gifts and yummy things there. You're shopping list is about as random as mine is. hehe I want to shop at Publix... because its Floridas grocery store and I have yet to go!
I love Cracker Barrel! I have one about 5 minutes away from my house, and NEVER go there! I think I've been there once or twice since it opened!Although, seeing they have grape soda in GLASS BOTTLES
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I might have to go check that out for myself...(I love grape soda, and I'm convinced all soda tastes better in glass bottles!)
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Wow, I've never been in a CB, but now I really want to go to one!! I love all that old fashioned stuff they have! I would probably go and just buy stuff in the store.
I totally started singing the fruit stripe gum song when I saw your picture of it!
I love going to Cracker Barrel. If not for the food, then at least to putz around in the store!
Yeah, his parents had an issue with getting married in a birthday month. I hope I don't have some of those random, spur of the moment things too! I'm guessing we'll have to do the tea ceremony. At this point, it's possible we might have a Chinese banquet that same night or the next night on Sunday depending. I don't know. I hope not.
Um, I don't even know specifically what I'd want to see. Hehe, food pictures maybe? I'm curious to see your sushi buffet! How many attendants did you have?