Dear MIL...

[mousefanmichelle]

I have a wonderful MIL. I am lucky but....

Dear MIL,
Please stop buying John Deere stuff for my house. I am not a farmer and I don't like green and yellow. Love you though!!!

Dear FIL,
Stop making MIL buy John Deere crap for my house. Your son loves it, but he doesn't decorate, I do.

 

[tarheelmjfan]

I have a wonderful MIL. I am lucky but....

Dear MIL,
Please stop buying John Deere stuff for my house. I am not a farmer and I don't like green and yellow. Love you though!!!

Dear FIL,
Stop making MIL buy John Deere crap for my house. Your son loves it, but he doesn't decorate, I do.

Now, this is funny.

 

[Wishing on a star]

Yep, I love the John Deere thing.
Too funny!!!

My son was absolutely crazy about tractors and equipment and had TONS of John Deere stuff when he was little. (the NICE stuff, models, etc.)

I could never in a million years imagine gifting his future wife (and/or my son) with tons of John Deere household goods and decor!

 

[mousefanmichelle]

Yep, I love the John Deere thing.
Too funny!!!

My son was absolutely crazy about tractors and equipment and had TONS of John Deere stuff when he was little. (the NICE stuff, models, etc.)

I could never in a million years imagine gifting his future wife (and/or my son) with tons of John Deere household goods and decor!

1 year my MIL thought she was being funny and had a big John Deere box that she must have bought something in. She put my real present inside of the box, wrapped it up and when I opened it I could feel my face drop. I was like what the heck did they get me now??!! Turns out she was being cute and wrapped up my new set of silverware in the box lol!!!!

 

[MamaBelle4]

1 year my MIL thought she was being funny and had a big John Deere box that she must have bought something in. She put my real present inside of the box, wrapped it up and when I opened it I could feel my face drop. I was like what the heck did they get me now??!! Turns out she was being cute and wrapped up my new set of silverware in the box lol!!!!

My brother did that once with a spark plug box for my birthday. I was so sad, lol. Sure, I was 16 and needed spark plugs for my poor old car, but that's not what I wanted.

He laughed and told me to open the box. I don't even remember what was inside now. He had already put the spark plugs on for me. I'm the youngest of 5. My siblings all called me spoiled, but they're the ones who spoiled me. I have the absolute best family too.

 

[Chocolate Cake]

You're obviously looking for an argument. I'm not. I just feel for the otherwise good MILs that make the mistake of asking the wrong question or buying the wrong thing. I've seen too many people IRL do the same thing. It makes me feel bad for the MIL & hope I won't have a DIL like that someday.

I only brought up the car to express to the other member that I know exactly how she feels & sympathize. I didn't come here to complain about the car. At no time did we expect MIL to buy DS a car or anything else, until DH's grandmother told us she bought the other two one. Even then, we really didn't expect her to get him one, but DH wanted to give her a chance to finally do right by DS. As we suspected, she said no & we bought the car. FWIW, DH talked to MIL about it. I'm not saying anything she hasn't heard. That's the only way to hope for change. Having your DH mention to his Mom that he has enough socks (for example) for 10 years may prevent the frustation next year. Complaining here won't. It just looks mean.

I'm not going to argue with any of you any longer. I come to the DIS to enjoy my downtime not engage in silly nonsense like arguing with someone I don't even know.

I am absolutely not looking for an argument.

You feel free to complain about your MIL....to mention her with complete anonymity on this thread. Just like everyone else is doing.

You're just like every single person on this thread complaining about their MIL. And that's cool. That is what this thread is for!

 

[Melissakay1q]

I'm feeling annoyed that MIL called a few days ago to say she doesn't have money for Christmas this year then gave her own Christmas list to DH. The following day, FIL called to reinforce that he and MIL don't have money for Christmas this year, then made his requests and bragged about his new truck.

I can count on one finger the times they've given DH and I a Christmas gift. Honestly, I don't expect anything at all and it's not a big deal. It's bothering me that they're reaching out to say they cannot afford gifts then ask for things for themselves. I always get each of them something anyway and already had items for them both.

I'm feeling like I need to get something more for my own mom now, too. I don't want either mom to feel left out.

I'm feeling the pressure (that I know I'm putting on myself) financially since our family has only one income right now.

Christmas will be fun and I will not worry (that much)!

 

[Chocolate Cake]

I'm feeling annoyed that MIL called a few days ago to say she doesn't have money for Christmas this year then gave her own Christmas list to DH. The following day, FIL called to reinforce that he and MIL don't have money for Christmas this year, then made his requests and bragged about his new truck.

Wow. An adult handed another adult a list?

And basically said "I am not buying for you. But this is what you should buy for me."

No. Just no.

 

[MamaBelle4]

Wow. An adult handed another adult a list?

And basically said "I am not buying for you. But this is what you should buy for me."

No. Just no.

This x 1000.

Listen. If I'm an adult and you're an adult and you don't know what to get me, then we aren't close enough to be exchanging gifts anyway.

 

[mummabear]

I am so lucky. I have the best MIL.
Not to say she has never done anything that has made me think *** over the years but very few and I am sure I have too but she is kind and helpful and a great nana.
I hope I will be as good of a MIL one day.
My BFs MIL though boy i would be her Alibi without question

 

[mummabear]

This x 1000.

Listen. If I'm an adult and you're an adult and you don't know what to get me, then we aren't close enough to be exchanging gifts anyway.

My family has done lists my whole life, sure we know things about each other but that doesn't mean I know which golf thing dad needs

 

[Melissakay1q]

Wow. An adult handed another adult a list?

And basically said "I am not buying for you. But this is what you should buy for me."

No. Just no.

That's pretty much what happened.

They are giving DD an outfit and a child's wooden chair that they'd already given us once. The chair was literally in pieces, it was so broken. On another trip to visit, they saw that the chair was still broken and took it home to fix. Now it's repaired and is ready to be gifted (again).

Fun Fact: The broken chair was gifted to us the same weekend they stayed with us and FIL somehow managed to break my own childhood wooden high chair that my family had passed down to me for my DD. He must have karate chopped the table top because it split in two. No one offered to assist us in repairing it.

Christmas is starting nowwwwww

 

[Melissakay1q]

My family has done lists my whole life, sure we know things about each other but that doesn't mean I know which golf thing dad needs

I wish my dad and brother would do lists. They are so hard to buy for. What do you want? Nothing. Ugh.

 

[ImDMous]

All the adults and kids in our family have lists. It's way too hard to keep track of what people already have, what color/size they would need, which game system they prefer. You are definitely free to go off-list if you want. I usually mix it up with something they specifically asked for and then something I just think they'll like.

My departed MIL used to give us things she shoplifted from local stores, even though BIL had given her money or offered to buy all her presents. In it for the thrill I guess...

 

[Melissakay1q]

My departed MIL used to give us things she shoplifted from local stores, even though BIL had given her money or offered to buy all her presents. In it for the thrill I guess...

Oh no! LOL!

 

[mi*vida*loca]

I must say. The John Deere MIL and the thieving grandma have me dying of laughter. lol

 

[Soldier's*Sweeties]

Dear MIL,

Thank you for finally admitting ro your son that I am your favorite child

 

[MaryLovesPoohBear]

Dear MIL,

Thank you for finally admitting ro your son that I am your favorite child

My sister and I joked about that.

My mom's favorite was my husband. But in fact, both of my parents loved my husband. And he enjoyed them.

It is all kind of sad, since his own parents can't be bothered with him, at all.

 

[punkin]

Dear MIL,

Thank you for finally admitting ro your son that I am your favorite child

LOL. My mother in law used to barely tolerate me (it's OK, her parents thought I was amazing and DH's Grandma, may she rest in peace, was the best MIL I could have asked for), but now after her other son has gone through 3 wives and assorted GF drama, all of a sudden I'm her favorite. Go figure!

 

[Owlpost23]

Well,reading all of these reminds of a wonderful quote from Peg Bracken-Out of all my husband's relatives,I like myself the best!