Daughter may not go to the prom.(long)

[Blueeyes101817]

i didnt go to senior prom---didnt feel like i missed a thing!

 

[UrsulasShadow]

I went to my prom, but it was a lousy time. I wish I had skipped it. Really hated HS, and most of the people in it, so I don't know why I thought prom would be different. It wasn't.

I also go to reunions, and always wish I had skipped them. I STILL don't like the people I went to school with.

 

[salmoneous]

Proms are often a much bigger deal for parents than for kids. Is I skipped a prom - couldn't really care one way or the other - and it upset my Mom greatly.

 

[luvtogo12]

My daughter is going with some friends to her prom this year. Her boyfriend is from another school and thinks he will be uncomfortable not knowing anyone. I could understand that. DD will go to his prom since she knows a lot of people from his school but to her own prom, she is going with friends.

 

[MScott1851]

This reminds me of me! Another 'two week before' dumpee here, and I had a $600 dress hanging in the closet, talk about freaking OUT! (This was in the early nineties, when you HAD to have a silk dress that was hand beaded and sequined, that thing weighed twenty pounds! )

It actually turned out okay. I had been to two proms my junior year with my boyfriend at the time, and it was just too much pressure.. You know, you're young, in love, the world is perfect, the night, the dress, the hair, the corsage, the tux, EVERYTHING has to be perfect, and you realize that you're still a skinny little girl with a bad perm wearing a dress that costs more than your car payment and eating bad buffet food in the ballroom of Marriott that smells like chemicals from the indoor pool, watching your date sit with his football buddies and talk about how they want to get in your pants while you and your girlfriends do the electric slide ad nauseum.

My senior year, the year of the DUMPING, I freaked out for two days, then calmly regrouped. I had a seriously badass dress. I had filled out a little. The bad perm was gone. If I had to HIRE someone, I was going to my prom and looking so good that the ex was going to eat a tablecloth. Turns out, one of the most popular boys in my class didn't have a date either. We were in all our classes together, and had been friends since first grade, so I said, "Look, all our friends are going, so let's just go and we can take cheesy pictures and hang out." I don't know where I got my cojones from, but it worked! I ended up with an A-list date, and the D-list loser ex showed up with a wretched looking girl from his job at Dominos. Plus, I had no romantic entanglements, and was free to dance and laugh and have fun and not worry about anything other than a high-five at the end of the night.

So, I know where your daughter is coming from. People didn't go alone to my proms either. I bet if she just looked around, there is someone that she is just friends with that doesn't have a 'date-date' either. They will have a ball! Even if the BF decides to go, I bet he'll not enjoy himself, and it will rub off on your daughter. There's nothing worse than trying to have a good time and your sad-sack BF/DH sitting around sighing and looking at his watch!

Heck, tell her I have a good looking younger brother that will go. (He's a little older than her, but he looks young and is perfectly well-behaved, well-mannered, mother-approved and can dance!)

 

[LisaNJ25]

I skipped my senior prom and I don't think I missed a thing.

Same here but I was 5 months pregnant and didnt want to dress shop

 

[MareQ]

I was a sophomore in college, and I took my HS senior gf to her prom. As I recall, we had a great time. What kind of boyfriend doesn't want to go to a dance with his favorite girl?

The kind that's completely hung up on being a "cool, mature college guy". Little does he know he's still an immature child if he's acting like this....

OP - Tell DD to give up on getting her boyfriend to go (and have a talk at a later date on how people that REALLY care will compsomise to make their "partner" happy........) Does she have a job? Any co-workers that she's friendly with that she can ask to go with her???

 

[beavismom]

I had an awful time at my junior prom with my then college age boyfriend so when the senior prom rolled around I asked my date (different guy) if he wouldn't mind skipping the dance and all the expensive stuff and just going to our friend's after party (yeah, I really had to twist his arm ) . We ended up having a great time. Had dinner and went to a movie then joined everyone else. No regrets here.

 

[MareQ]

(and Wednesday was Senior Cut Day ), so we spent that weekend celebrating her birthday.

Gotta love Senior Cut Day. The year I was a Senior the Principal had an assembly with all Seniors and told us if we cut school on Senior Cut day we'd be banned from Graduation. "There is NO SENIOR CUT DAY THIS YEAR" Yeah ok whatever... We weren't ASKING for the day off - that's the point lady - we're TAKING the day off

I told my father - who was a bit of a rebel in his past and he told me to cut anyway and we'll just see what happens. Turns out - I wasn't alone - more than 3/4 of my class also ignored the Principal and called in "sick" that day


Amazingly enough - we all still had our ceremony.

 

[luv2nascar]

I didn't have a serious boyfriend when I was a senior and I didn't want to go with just anyone. It is a ton of cash and effort if you have a lousy time. I remember feeling sort of sad the night of the prom because my friends were all there. But in retrospect I don't think I missed a dang thing. My best friend lost her um well you know to a loser guy in the back of his car.

 

[wdwgirl03]

I didn't go to prom either my junior or senior year and I really don't regret not going.

 

[disykat]

I'm curious what the percentage of people who actually go to their proms is. At my school it was probably about 40%. Very few of the people I hung out with went.

 

[Miss Jasmine]

Junior year I was dating a senior who decided to get back together with his ex-girlfriend a couple weeks before prom. He offered to still take me to the prom but I turned him down. I still went, solo, but hooked up with a group of friends.

Senior year I didn't even bother accepting a date. My girlfriends and I went as a big group. We met up with a big group of guys. That was so much fun! Of course we did the DIS-horrific thing and had a party at a hotel after (no one was allowed to leave!). Nothing happened except getting a little toasted and acting silly.

 

[BuckyFan04]

It's not the end of the world to miss prom. It's too bad her boyfriend doesn't want to go, but she might have just as much fun if she went with a group of friends, maybe some who don't have dates themselves.

I didn't go to either my junior or senior prom, which would have been 5 and 4years ago respectively. I don't regret it. If I would have went, I would have had more fun with a group of friends than with a date. (Those proms didn't turn out to be very good anyway from what I've heard.)
I only went to one dance in high school...my sophomore Homecoming Dance. My core group of friends wasn't interested in going to the dances at that point in time, but I went with some other friends and had a good time anyway.

 

[dhcoffey]

I didn't go to my proms either, junior or senior. Never thought much about it then or now, no big deal.

Now, my niece who is now 20 was dating a boy who was a year older than she when she was a senior. He didn't want to take her to her senior prom, so he suggested she find someone else to go with. She did and has been dating this guy for the last two years and is much happier with this guy than the last one.

Heather

 

[hmgolden]

Junior year I was supposed to go with a friend of mine to the prom. About 2 months before the prom I started dating a different boy (who is now my DH). I was still planning on going to the prom with the friend, but he didn't want to take me if I was attached, and DH didn't want take me because I was supposed to go with the friend. I ended up telling both of them to go screw, and I didn't go to the prom. At the time, I was really bummed, it did seem to be the end of the world. Of course, now I know better Of course I still tease DH about not going, and that was 10 years ago!

I did go to the prom senior year (with my now DH). It was fun, but I think there's a lot more hype around the prom than it deserves.

Your daughter will be fine if she doesn't go, although I am sure she will be very disappointed in the short term. Luckily, like so much else in high school, the prom doesn't matter in the long run.

 

[noseybuddy]

Time to start looking for a new boyfriend. If she has a friend she can ask, then that is what she should do. She would have a much better time at the prom with a friend, then her so called boyfriend who can't even give up a few hours of his time to make his girlfriend happy. It's time for her to dump his selfish butt.

 

[lajones81]

A little background DD is dating a guy in college. Surprise he doesn't want to go to the prom. I told her months ago that he wouldn't but she thought he'd change his mind. Prom is less than a month away. I'm pretty positive he will not change his mind and the prom is on his birthday too. Everyone DD knows already has a date. We haven't seriously dress shopped yet (she has several dresses from pageants she could wear). The girl that cuts her hair is booked and can't do her hair and makeup. Mostly the problem is that she doesn't want to show up alone and I really don't blame her. At her school that would be so humiliating. She had mono and strep early in the year and missed so much school that she requested to be in the alternative program which has allowed her to catch up with her school work but has taken her out of alot of the socializing at school. Anyway it's something that she'll have to figure out but I guess the world won't end if you miss the prom. Wonder if any of your kids skipped their prom and how they felt later.

I wasn't dating anyone at the time and ended up going to prom by myself. I sat next to another friend who was dateless. The night was awesome! I had a blast because I was by myself, didn't worry about entertaining my date, and knew my friend and I would check in on each other periodically. One of my best memories of high school!

 

[scrump]

I stayed at my prom for 15 minutes. I actually didn't want to go, but I thought I'd give it a shot. I don't think I would've missed a thing had I not gone at all.

 

[noseybuddy]

I went to my soph hop, jr prom and sr prom and looking back now i think what a waste of money, but at the time I really wanted to go. I think the op's daughter should go. Then she will have no regrets, should of went, etc. You never get your high school days back so I don't think she should pass it up because of her selfish boyfriend. There must be some other girls or guys that she knows that are going solo. Sometimes that turns out to be the most fun, you don't get caught up in all the drama, boyfriends and girlfriends fighting, etc.