Daughter may not go to the prom.(long)

[ozarkmom]

A little background DD is dating a guy in college. Surprise he doesn't want to go to the prom. I told her months ago that he wouldn't but she thought he'd change his mind. Prom is less than a month away. I'm pretty positive he will not change his mind and the prom is on his birthday too. Everyone DD knows already has a date. We haven't seriously dress shopped yet (she has several dresses from pageants she could wear). The girl that cuts her hair is booked and can't do her hair and makeup. Mostly the problem is that she doesn't want to show up alone and I really don't blame her. At her school that would be so humiliating. She had mono and strep early in the year and missed so much school that she requested to be in the alternative program which has allowed her to catch up with her school work but has taken her out of alot of the socializing at school. Anyway it's something that she'll have to figure out but I guess the world won't end if you miss the prom. Wonder if any of your kids skipped their prom and how they felt later.

 

[ducklite]

My boyfriend broke up with me two weeks before my junior prom. He apologized to me for it a few years ago when I ran into him when I was back home visiting my mom.

I had the same problem as a senior as your daughter, I got a friend of mine who was gay to be my escort and we had a BLAST!

Anne

 

[DisneyGirl4188]

I skipped my senior prom and I don't think I missed a thing.

 

[DisneyAddict_M]

I didn't go to the prom. I don't remember why exactly. But my life isn't any worse for it.

 

[I<3CheezeWhiz]

In that case, I'd be careful about going to prom. I didn't have a date either and the girls who were in charge of seating sat me with a bunch of real losers who I didn't really know and felt uncomfortable around.

Of course, it probably didn't help that I was wearing a pair of Payless heels and somebody's old bridesmaid dress my mom bought at a garage sale. It was white satin with big yellow and purple flowers, as well as off the shoulder with a poofy skirt and built in crinolines. I probably had the ugliest dress at the prom.

Cheeze

 

[ilovejack02]

I went to my senior prom, but with my boyfriend being 21 he wasnt at all interested in staying a long time but not pushy about leaving. We danced a little, took pics and talked to a few people and were out of there in about an hour and half.Looking back Im sad we didnt stay longer.
I think thats crappy the boyfriend doesnt want to go. He should at least make an effort to go for a little while. She may want to rethink a guy that isnt interested in taking her to a once in a lifetime event. I know its his birthday, but come on he can celebrate that another night.
My guy didnt want to stay a long time, but at least he did and took me out to a very nice dinner too.

 

[DisneyMommyMichelle]

I hope she figures out what she wants it's a tough time
She doesn't have any friends that aren't going? they could go as a group?

 

[Evil Genius]

I never went to prom. I think I turned out okay.

My dsd went to prom alone, and no one gave it a second thought.

Can she go with a group of friends if she's self concious about walking in by herself?

 

[wendy46001]

I went to my senior prom, but with my boyfriend being 21 he wasnt at all interested in staying a long time but not pushy about leaving. We danced a little, took pics and talked to a few people and were out of there in about an hour and half.Looking back Im sad we didnt stay longer.
I think thats crappy the boyfriend doesnt want to go. He should at least make an effort to go for a little while. She may want to rethink a guy that isnt interested in taking her to a once in a lifetime event. I know its his birthday, but come on he can celebrate that another night.
My guy didnt want to stay a long time, but at least he did and took me out to a very nice dinner too.

I agree with this...if he really cares for her he'd want to join her in all the big moments of her life....

 

[Darcy03231]

I didn't go to my prom either. Most of my friends and boyfriend were a year ahead of me. I went to the sr. prom when I was a jr. and just skipped mine. I never really missed not going.

 

[Andrea_loves_Disney]

Well, I WISH I would have skipped my prom!!! I had an older boyfriend too and unfortunately he didn't want to go either but finally agreed to. I guess my parents didn't realize it when he picked my up but he was drunk already - he carried a flask into the dance and continued to drink.... he barely made it through the queen ceremony (I was a candidate but didn't win) and when I got him to the car he proceeded to throw up and then passed out. I drove him to his house and his mother, instead of being sympathetic said "well, maybe you shouldn't have forced him to go!" Can you believe that??? I still can't and it happened almost 27 years ago!!!! So I do not think it would be bad at all to skip the prom!!!

The good news is, after dating that loser for a LONG time, I finally dumped him and married a nice guy that doesn't drink!!

 

[orljustin]

I was a sophomore in college, and I took my HS senior gf to her prom. As I recall, we had a great time. What kind of boyfriend doesn't want to go to a dance with his favorite girl?

 

[ozarkmom]

I guess it really isn't a big deal. I was just thinking about how she went last year and didn't stay an hour. Oldest DS and his friends were the same way spend money on dresses, tux, hair , makeup etc. then basically make an appearance and then off to bowl or something it seems pretty stupid to me. When my DS was a senior they tried bribing them with prizes and cash to stay but it seems the majority leave and do other stuff that they could do any other time.

 

[Alex2kMommy]

I didn't go to prom either, and never really got why people thought that it was such a big deal. It's a dance, for one night in your long life. It has absolutely no bearing on your success in the future, and once you leave high school, NO ONE CARES. Seriously!

Maybe her boyfriend has a good reason not to go (his parents have a lavish day planned for him already; his school is too far away to travel back just for this dance; he's not doing well in school and needs to study; he has a job and can't get the time off.) However, if he doesn't have a good reason and is saying no just because he doesn't want to (knowing how important it is to your DD), then I think that's inconsiderate, and perhaps a sign about their relationship.

 

[ziggystardust]

Both my junior and senior proms turned out to be nightmares. Junior prom I didn't feel like dealing with the whole date thing (I didn't want to put one of my poor friends thru meeting my father) so a few of us singles went together with our other friends that had dates. That part wasn't the nightmare part.

Senior year I went with my bf (who was older) that just happened to break his leg right before prom - so no dancing for us.

I can honestly say that I never think about my prom. Either one. (and mine was less than 10 yrs ago)

 

[BeNJeNWaFFLe]

Does she have a group of friends she could go with?

My friends and I were those people who never attended school events. We had no patience for them. But, surprisingly, we all went to prom as a group of friends. Some had dates and some didn't. We made sure no one was left out. We all took a limo there, ate come appetizers, danced some, ate some dinner, danced some more, and went to an after prom cruise. It was lots of fun!! We didn't treat prom as the chance to show off our dates or our dresses or whatever. We just took it as a chance to have a fancy night out as a group. Hopefully she can gather up some friends and go.

Oh, one of my friends had their birthday on the same day as prom. So we all gathered at her house beforhand to take pictures while we had a hero and cake for her. And since my prom was the Thursday before Memorial Day, we had off that Friday through Tuesday (and Wednesday was Senior Cut Day ), so we spent that weekend celebrating her birthday.

 

[Alyssa88]

Didn't go to the actual prom, but I went to the after party.

I was sort of "boycotting" going, since I had alot of trouble with 2 teachers and the principle towards the end of the year (way too much to explain but I still stand by my beliefs). I had a date planned, sort of, he was actually my friend who was a junior (but a few days older than me) and he is gay. I went to a performing arts high school and it was mostly girls, and the guys who were there were either taken or gay, or both. SO many of the girls went dateless. Plus, I was saving my money up for my graduation trip to WDW w/ 3 of my friends.

Most of my friends did go, and from the pictures and their stories, it looked like a waste of money. I'm glad I didn't go, but I still had a blast that night!

 

[monarchsfan16]

I skipped both my proms. That's right. Junior and senior year. Junior year there was a group of my friends going and it could have been fun but I was so overwhelmed with school work from juggling 3 AP classes (and I think prom was the weekend in the middle of AP exams), that I really didn't want to be out all night. I'm not much for dressing up or dancing either
Senior year all of my friends that were going had dates and I didn't. Didn't really want to go dateless. And again, didn't really like the idea of dressing up
Do I regret my decisions? Not at all. Now I'm only a sophomore in college but so far I have no regrets and don't think I will. What'd I miss senior year? Spending hundreds of dollars for one night of listening to bad music and probably sitting off to the side not dancing. Oh, it also poured that night, monsoon style. Definitely didn't mind missing that

 

[Keggy]

My husband and I never went to our proms. We think that was a funny similiarity that we had. I kind of felt bad about it at the time, but really don't think about it now. The guy I was dating had a family commitment and we started dating after his family had made plans. His mom had even said to him at the time, any chance that you will be needing to go to a prom with someone?

I am concerned that her boyfriend is wanting to go. Dude - suck it up!!

 

[mickeyboat]

My boyfriend broke up with me two weeks before my junior prom.

Mine, too. I had put a $60 deposit on the dress. It was humiliating, especially when he asked out my best friend right after he broke up with me. I didn't go.

But I did go to my Sr. Prom, with a friend, and had a great time.

Denae