So your daughter doesn't even see the social media stuff and this still bothers you?
This made me re-read this whole thread because yesterday after I first posted, I was outside, and couldn't subsequently read or respond the way I wanted to.
This was from the OP, and what I based my posts on.
It's just crazy with this snapchat crap.
The girls at the party are posting stories at the party on snapchat and DD even has a lot of snapchat streaks going on with these girls . They snapchat back and forth and see how many consecutive days they can do it.
I know dumb but I guess in the middle school world it's a big deal.
So the girls are going back and forth with DD including the party girl. Ugh!
This, to me, meant that the DD was seeing all the party pictures, presumably on their "stories". (If people don't know what "stories" are, they are a series of pictures with all kinds of fun things like captions and group photos, etc., that multiple people send out over the course of the night, so that a receiver, or "follower", ends up with dozens or more pictures from an event that multiple people are posting from, if that makes sense.)
Of course, then we hear that OP has the DD's snapchat app installed on HER phone so she can presumably edit what the DD sees - since she's had some issues before with it. I had no inkling of this. I read it as the DD herself was "going back and forth with the girls", as she said.
So I guess I am still unclear, as well, as to how many of these pictures the DD actually saw. Obviously I get that people were saying mom was projecting. My point was just that, even if she didn't SAY she was upset, or denied that she was upset, we KNOW, based on research into the subject that there is a real phenomenon known as "Facebook Depression" that occurs when people see pictures on social media of others having a good time and feeling left out, etc. IT SOUNDS LIKE MAYBE THAT ISN'T THE CASE FOR THE DD as much as it might be, perhaps, for Mom, HOWEVER, Mom is worried about it and that's fine. So we are in agreement.
As to the other poster who asked if this means no one should post pictures, well, of course not.
And I agree with the concept of teaching resiliency.
But as I said, social media can be HARD for people today. I always say it's been a mixed bag. It's given us great capabilities, but also created a new set of problems in some ways. (And that's all I'll say about it here as I don't want to open up a whole other can of worms on THIS thread.) I've always discussed this type of thing with my teens. I want them to understand that the pictures people see on social media are essentially pictures that represent the BEST of people's lives, or the things they want to show the world most. Their day to day lives, in reality, might be very different. This is the thing that we all need to understand about it.
"A study released today by The American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) on the impact of social media on children, adolescents and families, cites that ‘Facebook depression’ is one of the risk factors that teens may face with overexposure to social media. Facebook depression is an affliction that results from establishing a presence on social networking sites, spending a great deal of time on these sites and then feeling unaccepted among peers online. Similar to depression in the offline world due to lack of acceptance, Facebook depression can cause anxiety and withdrawal, as well as a propensity towards engaging in risky activities such as substance abuse, unsafe sex or self-destructive behaviors.
The study found that the interaction these teens have on social networking sites is on the rise with 22% of teenagers logging onto their favorite social networking sites more than 10 times a day. With 75% of teens owning cell phones, the study states, “a large part of this generation’s social and emotional development is occurring while on the Internet and on cell phones.” Along with Facebook depression, other dangers of increased exposure to social media include cyberbullying, sexting and exposure to inappropriate content."
http://www.parenting.com/blogs/scre...king-among-teens-can-lead-facebook-depression
I just didn't & still don't think DS's disappointments were the time to teach him anything, except that Dad & Mom were always there for him. That's the way we chose to raise our DS. If it's not you're parenting style, more power to you. Just as our parenting style may not work for you, yours wouldn't work for us. We're both just doing what we think is best for our child.
I didn't see that anywhere, maybe I missed it. Or are you just being facetious?
