Closing threads at OP requests. Agree or disagree?

[Tigger&Belle]

I usually have sympathy for an OP that is struggling with an issue and gets flamed all over the place at a time when they are already vulnerable.

I do wish that posters would read what the OP is looking for. Sometimes they are really just wanting to vent, in which case I am willing to listen and empathize. Other times they want advise, which I give if it's something that I feel that I know something about. But you are right--sometimes a person gets flamed when they are just looking to vent.

 

[irishbosoxfan]

I believe if you start the thread you should let it run--As others have said if you don't want the opinion don't ask for it but by the same token if someone gets nasty for no real reason other than to be nasty I feel that there should be a way out but with that I believe the nasty posters thread should be removed.
Just like earlier today I was jumped on by ppl because I posted a link that contained info that i believed to be relative to the thread started and replies received in regards to the query--At that point it became about whether or not I was in possesion of what knowledge I do have on the subject and whether or not I had gotten it the way I said I did and ppl attributing quotes to me incorrectly--The OP asked me to remove my posts because I was scaring her.
So yes while threads do take on a life of their own you have to be prepared for it and accept the good with the bad because if we remember right they are just opinions and everyone's entitled to one!

 

[SplshMtn99]

I've asked for a thread to be closed once. I was looking for "warm & fuzzy" feelings about something.....and instead, it turned into me being (mildy) attacked by a few. It was quite clear I was already upset when I originally posted. I had some on the thread try to stop the bashers saying they weren't helping. And some PMd to try to make me feel better. I ended up feeling worse & in tears than before I posted.

It wasn't an "opinion" type of thread. Some people just like to beat up others when they are down, I think.

So, I am in favor of allowing a thread to be closed by the OP if they feel it's necessary.

 

[DVC Sadie]

I don't think threads should be closed at the OP's request. If you no longer are interested in the thread or if something offended you, stop reading/posting.

It just seems rather immature when posters do that, it reminds me of a child saying "I'm not having fun anymore, so I'm taking my toys and going home".

ITA!! How very childish. It does make me laugh though. Come on a lot of people like to just have their statements reinforced and when someone happens to question the OP they want the thread closed.

 

[SplshMtn99]

So yes while threads do take on a life of their own you have to be prepared for it and accept the good with the bad because if we remember right they are just opinions and everyone's entitled to one!

The problem comes when people give their opinions on sympathetic type threads where they weren't asked for. Nor are they the right time or place for them to be posted.

Ex: If a military wife is missing her husband, you don't tell her she has no right to miss him because he's at such-in-such a place & not in Iraq. Know what I mean?

 

[DVC Sadie]

The problem comes when people give their opinions on sympathetic type threads where they weren't asked for. Nor are they the right time or place for them to be posted.

Ex: If a military wife is missing her husband, you don't tell her she has no right to miss him because he's at such-in-such a place & not in Iraq. Know what I mean?

I agree with this it's just downright mean and uncalled for which is pitiful IMO.

 

[irishbosoxfan]

The problem comes when people give their opinions on sympathetic type threads where they weren't asked for. Nor are they the right time or place for them to be posted.

Ex: If a military wife is missing her husband, you don't tell her she has no right to miss him because he's at such-in-such a place & not in Iraq. Know what I mean?

I agree with you on this--my prob this morn was being abused by other posters because I disagreed w/posters about being cavalier about aids.
As for being cruel just to be cruel I don't believe in that at all--I would never intentionally answer someone to be hateful or to increase my number of posts. I don't have a lot of posts and only answer on a thread if I honestly feel I have something to benefit the OP

 

[bicker]

I don't mind if it's closed at the OP's request. No big deal to me. If someone wants to continue the discussion they could start another thread.

Actually, that isn't necessarily true. Moderators generally frown on bringing back up topics for threads they just closed.

I think the major source of problems stem from folks looking for rationalization for actions they've already decided to take, or folks looking for an unrebutted soap-box. There's nothing that can be done with regard to the former, but folks looking to have the only say on a topic should look into starting up a blog.

 

[Maleficent13]

I think closing a thread at OP's request is fine. I then reserve the right to have an opinion on how/why they did so. There are those posters who when I see them think, "Oh, they like to take their toys and storm off..." It's pretty much how I identify them.

Besides, to those of you who say "offensive" posts should just be removed and the thread allowed to continue, who gets to decide which posts are offensive? The OP? The mods? And then we start the whole "that's not what I meant!!" defense.

 

[Obi-Wan Pinobi]

Thread closed at OP's request











Kidding!

 

[Tigger&Belle]

Besides, to those of you who say "offensive" posts should just be removed and the thread allowed to continue, who gets to decide which posts are offensive? The OP? The mods? And then we start the whole "that's not what I meant!!" defense.

Posts that go against posting guidelines

 

[Tigger&Belle]

Thread closed at OP's request

You smart horse's patootie!!! (that's not against posting guidelines, right?)

 

[Obi-Wan Pinobi]

Thread closed because Tigger and Belle called me a patootie









That's MR. Smart Patootie to you missy!

 

[HomeSweetDisney]

I don't think threads should be closed at the OP's request. If you no longer are interested in the thread or if something offended you, stop reading/posting.

It just seems rather immature when posters do that, it reminds me of a child saying "I'm not having fun anymore, so I'm taking my toys and going home".

Agreed. And well said

 

[Tigger&Belle]

Thread closed because Tigger and Belle called me a patootie









That's MR. Smart Patootie to you missy!

Don't forget the horses part! That happens to be the key ingredient...

And all you have to do is to remove the offensive post!!! But think of how low my post count would get...

 

[Obi-Wan Pinobi]

Don't forget the horses part! That happens to be the key ingredient...

And all you have to do is to remove the offensive post!!! But think of how low my post count would get...

I don't usually use my middle name. Too formal. But if you insist!

 

[phorsenuf]

You guys are too funny....

 

[Tigger&Belle]

I don't usually use my middle name. Too formal. But if you insist!

Hey, you said it!

 

[Tigger&Belle]

You guys are too funny....

Yet again I'm involved in derailing a thead... sorry.

 

[disykat]

I agree with you on this--my prob this morn was being abused by other posters because I disagreed w/posters about being cavalier about aids.
As for being cruel just to be cruel I don't believe in that at all--I would never intentionally answer someone to be hateful or to increase my number of posts. I don't have a lot of posts and only answer on a thread if I honestly feel I have something to benefit the OP

No, people flamed you because the OP came in her first post and said that despite her doctor's reassurance a nurse insisted on giving her contrary frightening info. She was upset that the nurse did that - and you did the same thing by continuing to post info that was upsetting to her.

The whole thing was about whether the nurse was out of line. You kept posting exactly the kind of info she was upset that the nurse gave her in her OP. Info that she preferred to get from her Doctor, not from a nurse who was unfamiliar with her case and either igorant of, or uncaring about her anxiety issues.

That is exactly the kind of post I think the OP should be able to lock.