closed casket/open casket

[Michie]

when you pass on, are you going to have a closed or open casket? I am having a closed casket, I really don't want people inspecting me too close!

 

[mtblujeans]

I'll be cremated....there will be no inspecting!

 

[disykat]

I voted other because I'd really rather be cremated. If not, I don't anticipate anyone other than immediate family seeing my casket. In my circles the public church service is usually a memorial service after a private family burial.

 

[beckmrk04]

I also voted other because I want to be cremated. I have been to plenty of open casket funerals and it's so sad to have that be the last way you see someone, in my opinion, anyway.

 

[Monte Cristo]

I've already discussed this with wife. I won't have a public wake so the issue is really irrlelvant....that being said, I voted closed.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Open Casket here. I have been to plenty. I don't find it scary, gross, or anything like that. While it is sad, I find it peaceful.

I find it has closure for me more than the memorial services when someone has been cremated.

 

[Doctor P]

I guess I don't think that it is really for me to decide. Funerals are for the living, and if my family wants an open casket I would never stand in the way. Indeed, I think open caskets (when feasible) provide a better closure and a better last chance to say goodbye. If you haven't seen the person in a while, it really helps in the grieving process I think.

 

[PattnFmly]

I'm in the open casket category also. While I don't particularly care what happens to my body once I'm gone, I'm concerned with the closure factor for those who love me. I've been to many memorial services where there's the framed photo sitting alongside the urn of ashes and there is absolutely no closure. I felt it was a total waste of time.

 

[beckmrk04]

I guess it also would depend on the circumstances of the death, wouldn't it?

 

[MAKmom]

Open... I want to see who really loves me...who ever crys the most gets all my money.

 

[Kahana-ri]

Cremation for me. I would like to have a happy picture of me doing something I love for people to remember me by.

 

[froglady]

I voted other because I'd really rather be cremated. If not, I don't anticipate anyone other than immediate family seeing my casket. In my circles the public church service is usually a memorial service after a private family burial.

This is what we did for my father, and will do for my mother, DH, and myself. Only the immediate family went to the funeral home to say good-bye. Funeral directors will say that only the family can be there because of health issues, (no embalming but refrigeration) but that doesn't make any sense to me. If he was "dangerous" what would protect the family? Our neighbors came with us as "children."

 

[Aidensmom]

I prefer to be cremated, but I want my family to do what they most feel comfortable with.

 

[minkydog]

Cremation for me. I would like to have a happy picture of me doing something I love for people to remember me by.

I'm all for cremation. When my Dad died I put together a collage of pictures taken of him doing all the things he loved: racing his beloved Austin Healey, Playing with his St. Bernard, hugging his mother, dancing with his favorite partner, working on a big project for Boeing. He looked vital, relaxed, and happy in every one, a far cry from the shriveled gray old man he was by the time cancer finished him off. I promised him I wouldn't let anybody stare at him after his death(he was very vain in life!) So instead, we had his picture set up in the living room while we ate fried chicken, drank beer, and rode the kids around on the pony. My kind of funeral

 

[TDC Nala]

I won't care. I'll be dead.

 

[Susan-Storm]

Open....Who Knows how i will die..or cremated and put into one of the rides of Disney world..universe of energy is my pic

 

[GeorgeG]

I don't want any fuss... cremation works. Nobody gawking at me if I can't gawk back. No casket, no service, nothing. Find someplace to get together when the dust (quite literally) settles and polish off a keg of beer, but do not, under any circumstances, drag me along. If I get my way I will be there in spirit... and have a lot of fun with it.

 

[Aimeedyan]

I'd rather my body just be given to science, honestly, if they can use it for the greater good. I may change my mind in the future, though. At this point, I'd rather not take up space on our beautiful earth and instead be of some use. We'll see what the future holds!

 

[disneychrista]

Open casket for a viewing before the service closed during the actual service.

 

[Stacerita]

I voted for other. I guess it would depend on how I "go" on if I have an open or closed casket. If I look good when I go, then I want it open. But if for some reason I look not so good (horrible accident or illness that changes my looks) then I want it closed. Old age still counts as open casket. When it comes down to it, I dont care that much. I will leave it up to my family.