Class Rings - my son doesn't want one!

[TupperMom7]

Okay, I should be happy about this. My son brought the brochure home from school yesterday, but said he does not want a class ring. I asked him why and he said he would not wear it. I reminded him that his sister and brother both had class rings, but he couldn't care less.

I think I have been successfully brainwashed because I cannot seem to get past the fact that he doesn't want a class ring, won't have a class ring and won't wear it even if he did get one. What is wrong with me? He is saving me $$$ by not getting one.

 

[RichNKatHolly]

He'll survive. I too never wanted one - never regretted my decision. Instead, my grandparents took me out and bought me an emerald ring that I just love to this day to celebrate the occasion. Do many people wear a classring beyond college? (not a snipe, I'm just curious)

Enjoy the savings and if you feel the need to mark the occasion with jewelry, get him something he will wear and enjoy beyond his college years. Maybe a nicer watch?

Good luck!

 

[flyingcat2003]

I never got a class ring. I thought they were so ugly. I wouldn't worry about it to much I never missed not having one.

 

[lindsmom]

I didn't get one in either High School or college, and I couldn't care less; I truly believe that if he wanted one, he'd get one and he'd wear it. However, if he knows he doesn't want it you're better off saving the money now rather than getting it and him not wearing it ever.

If he changes his mind in the future, he can always get one made up for him. It will be more expensive, but at least he would want it then.

 

[rluey29]

He's a smart kid!! I paid a lot of money for mine and never even wore it after high school. I really don't see anyone wearing theirs. I ended up selling it to a jeweler. Buy him something he'll really enjoy instead.

 

[kacaju]

I can only hope my girls don't want one. I have one and it was a total waste of money.
My freshman didn't even want a yearbook this year. Probably because I told her I would only pay for half since the darn thing was $100!!!!

 

[mrsklamc]

I had to choose between cheap pictures and a class ring, or expensive pictures. I bought the good pictures and have never regretted it.

Most people's just sit in their jewelry box for years anyway.

 

[RichNKatHolly]

I can only hope my girls don't want one. I have one and it was a total waste of money.
My freshman didn't even want a yearbook this year. Probably because I told her I would only pay for half since the darn thing was $100!!!!

Slightly OT, but my parents (well, my mom) would only pay for the yearbook our senior year. That is one expensive yearbook though. WOW!!

 

[problemchild718]

I agree with all of the above-he is ok with his decision. You need to be ok with it.

 

[Goofy'slady]

Don't worry, I didn't want one either. I thought they were a total waste of money and knew they wouldn't mean much to me a year or two after graduation. The rings that matter to me the most are my engagement ring and wedding band. I pray my girls won't think much of them by time they hit high school.

T.

 

[TupperMom7]

OP here. I guess I am so used to the kids always wanting what everybody else has, that I assumed he would be the same way with the class ring.

Sidenote - yearbooks. I only buy one in the year they are leaving the school, if they want one. My dd wanted one, but my son did not. Who knows what this son will want in two years when he graduates.

 

[Ava]

I got a class ring in high school, and only wore it while I was still in high school. It's been sitting in my jewelry box ever since. Didn't get one in college and don't regret it at all.

I agree with the PP who suggested buying him something he can wear for years to come, like a nice watch, if you really want to get him something to mark the occasion.

 

[OHJulie]

This is so funny! The same thing happened here. My son brought home the brochure and I started looking at it and he said he didn't want a ring. I said "how can you not want a one." This would have never occurred to me.

He did say that he already had a letterman jacket so he didn't need a ring also. I was happy that he put those two things together and decided one was enough!!

 

[Nie0214]

I got a lady's version of the classic class ring for like $150, and have never worn it since high school ended. I always wonder why I didn't think back when I was 17 that after college I wouldn't want to wear a high school ring.. not that I wore it while in college anyway. High school rings aren't as big now as they were when my parents were in school, I think most of the reason I got one was that my mom told me I couldn't not get one.

 

[Va-bear]

I never got a class ring. I thought they were so ugly. I wouldn't worry about it to much I never missed not having one.

major ditto....soooo didnt like high school rings and all of my friends stopped wearing them as soon as they got to college.

Though, years after I graduated college I bought myself a 'signet' type ring in all gold - more a school ring, not a "class" ring - w/NO writing all over it, etc.
I it 'til it broke in half!!

 

[4Seasons]

Be so thankful. My daughter's $450 class ring that she just HAD TO HAVE has been sitting in the box on her desk ever since she got it last December. She has not worn it one time. Thank goodness at least we had her pay 1/2 of it with her own money, but still I look at it and think what a waste of $.

 

[idofabric]

I have 3 kids that didn't want a ring! I couldn't figure out why at first.. loved mine, 30+ years ago we got to pick how it looked, and the kids school lets them do that also. But in the end I was glad, they are very costly!
My oldest son did end up wanting one, but only so he could give it the the then "steady" girlfriend, but wouldn't take the time to pick it out or get sized.. so we never got around to it. We were going to order it from a local jewlery store that had them for each local High school, about 8 of them locally, and they were only about $65 and up- the most exp. one had "real" diamonds or jewels and cost $$$$! around a $1000 to $1500 each. I would have gone for the $65 one... But they broke up shortly after that so he didn't want one then.
We do get the yearbooks each year, and the kids do still look at them with friends when they come home, esp our 24+yo DD who lives out west.
And I d0 a trip to WDW for each of them, with friend, instead of the ring and the Senior 2 day trip to WDW that costs over $500 a student. For that amount of money I can take the kids for a week! ( Timeshare, and military tickets at SOG, food with Tables of Wonderland..)

 

[Mic]

Tuppermom-
Count your blessings! My two oldest daughters were involved in everything at school...there were sports fees, sports equipment to buy, cheerleading uniforms($$$), club fees, etc. They wanted a class ring, but we told them they would have to buy their own since we purchased a yearbook every year for all four children. The yearbook is $100 in high school! We have a small fortune invested in AP exams, SAT/ACT testing, and college applications, and that's only for the first two! My son is a junior, and he didn't even bring the brochure home for the class ring...a friend's mother told me they were ordering them from Jostens this week. I purchased my own class ring at 17, and lost it the first week after graduation while working. Ask any high schooler, and I'm sure they would rather have a new cell phone than a class ring!

 

[Plantlady]

I got one, in HS, and gave it to my then boyfriend to wear on a necklace, which he did.. while we were dating, for a couple years...

we broke up. I never got it back. I'm still a bit bitter.

Not that I'd do anything with it.

I hope my boys don't want one.

 

[DVC-Don]

I got a high school ring and never wore it. I did not buy a college ring.