Children at weddings (debate)

[sha_lyn]

Is it the bride and groom's preference?

Of course it is, it their wedding

Or will you not attend if your kids aren't invited?

Will attend if local. Won't travel out of town if kids are nto invited.

if they are invited, do you always take them?

If they want to go

 

[southernclass]

Originally posted by Bojangles
Then why did you provide it to your guests?

My guests were all over 21 thank you and they are the ones who can appreciate a wedding where-as most children could care less as long as they are fed. I do not want alcohol being consumed around my children and I sure as heck would not do it around anyone else's.

 

[southernclass]

Originally posted by stinkerbelle
I'm sorry MICKEY88 - I really didn't mean for you to feel like I was pointing you out...like you were starting the debate or something...I was just to quick to post my reply I guess and quoted the wrong post.

I still don't want it to turn into an alcohol debate...

No one is starting anything. Everyone stated their reasons why or why not they did or did not like children at weddings and that is mine. If you are going to call out one reason then call them all out or don't tell someone what they can or cannot say. How rude!

 

[sha_lyn]

There are places children do not belong, and a wedding is one of them.

It is up to the Bride and Groom. If they invite children then of course they belong there.

 

[stinkerbelle]

Originally posted by southernclass
If you are going to call out one reason then call them all out or don't tell someone what they can or cannot say. How rude!

ooo - I'm hurt.

I just see how quickly a debate about anything, once it includes alcohol (especially the alcohol at weddings debate) quickly gets a thread shut down.

thank you for calling me rude though...quite nice of you.

 

[sha_lyn]

think children, and any one for that matter, are welcome at a church, regardless of the bride & groom's wishes. It is an open ceremony, normally announced in printing in the church's bulletins, etc. So imo, kids are ok at the church.

Wedding are not open ceremonies. Announcements are just that announcements, they are not invitations.

 

[southernclass]

Originally posted by stinkerbelle
ooo - I'm hurt.

I just see how quickly a debate about anything, once it includes alcohol (especially the alcohol at weddings debate) quickly gets a thread shut down.

thank you for calling me rude though...quite nice of you.

I apologize and you are not rude but what you said was. How can say that everyone else can answer a question but oh, if your reasoning for not including children includes alcohol then you can't say it.

I think it is quite clear you intended to start a debate but I will end it right here. Have a nice day and God Bless you.

 

[sha_lyn]

Originally posted by southernclass
I apologize and you are not rude but what you said was. How can say that everyone else can answer a question but oh, if your reasoning for not including children includes alcohol then you can't say it.

I think it is quite clear you intended to start a debate but I will end it right here. Have a nice day and God Bless you.

Did you even read her post. All she did was ask that it not turn into an alcohol at weddings debate. That is very different what you are trying to potray. BTW how very Christianly of you to call someone rude in one post, then ask God bless them in the other.

 

[stinkerbelle]

Originally posted by southernclass
Have a nice day and God Bless you.

I didn't sneeze...no need for blessing.

 

[Nancy]

Back to the open invitation for the ceremony...

When I got married I was a hairdresser with my own salon. None of the regular customers were invited but a number of them showed up at the church to see me get married. I felt very touched that they would take time out from their day to see me get married.

I had an adult only reception, but my sisters 3 kids were there. They are from out of town and while we did arrange for a babysitter for most of the evening I wanted my Godsons there for at least dinner.

When my younger sister got married she had kids at hers. My 3 (2 of them were flower girls) and some of her friends. She also lives out of town so we had to travel. I kept trying to talk her out of having my kids in her wedding...I know they didn't always behave the greatest. She insisted. It wasn't too bad of a day.

I would never refuse to go to a wedding just because my kids weren't invited....the norm in this area is adults only. I enjoy my evenings out without my kids. It is no longer an issue for us though because my kids are older now and really don't want to go to things like that (boring for them)

The whole thing is really a matter of personal choice.

 

[southernclass]

Originally posted by sha_lyn
Did you even read her post. All she did was ask that it not turn into an alcohol at weddings debate. That is very different what you are trying to potray. BTW how very Christianly of you to call someone rude in one post, then ask God bless them in the other.

Yes, Jesus called it like he saw it too dear and like I said I don't have time to argure with you people. I am not here for that. BTW that is how debate's get started. My comment was clearly for stinkerbelle not you. MYOB thankyou.

 

[sha_lyn]

If you don't want others input on what you post, I suggest you start your own private site. Your attitude is perfect example of why I no longer consider myself a christian. I hate the HTT attitude. If you really think Jesus would condone such rude things as you have said, then you need to read the Bible.

 

[stinkerbelle]

pssst....sha_lyn...she's (southernclass) a troll...exisiting purely to start trouble on message boards...don't let her get to you.

 

[sha_lyn]

LOL... I guess I haven't read enough of the Trolls post to realize that. Thanks

 

[nemo1987]

i think that when i plan a wedding i will make sure that there is a playroom or some type of babysitter or something for the wee ones. then they can go and have fun and wont be whining during the service. and that way parents wont have to worry about getting up to change diapers and such. and might i add before any flames here.... that most churches that offer sunday school have a nursery and are usually happy to let little ones come and play in them and sometimes offer a chaperone. at least around here they do.
**Sarah**