Child-free, but not by choice?

[want2bamommy]

Ummm....DUH!!! I forgot to post info about our December trip! We have a whole new trip planned, lol. We were going from Dec. 22-Jan. 1st and staying at the Caribbean Beach Resort but now we are gong from December 16th-24th and we are staying at the Villa's at the Wilderness Lodge!!!

We will be celebrating our 11th Anniversary on December 17th and I am so happy to celebrate it at Disney! I made ADR's for the Yachtsman Steakhouse and ordered a special cake for dessert. Then we will head back to the WL and enjoy a romantic Sleigh Ride at 9:30 pm. DH has no clue about the dessert or the sleigh ride!!!

When are you going?

Missie

 

[PrincessSuzanne]

Hi, Suzanne! I apologize for not being around. I have a pretty important update and just haven't come to post it here. I have decided to have Weight Loss Surgery and in two weeks DH and I are going to attend the seminar about it. I am still unsure of which WLS I am going to have but I did want to have the Lap Band Surgery. My insurance won't cover any of it though so depending on what happens at the seminar I mave have the traditional Gastric Bypass. The recovery period is quite a bit longer but I would pay $0 for it.

So, this leaves us having to go on hold for 2 years as they want you to wait 18-24 months after the surgery to get pregnant. It is something that I NEVER in a million years thought I would ever do but after losing more than 40 pounds (with a BUNCH more to lose) and gaining it back in 2 1/2 MONTHS I realize that I will never be able to lose all my weight on my own (and keep it off) and it is most likely the reason I am not getting pregnant again.

I will try to swoop by every now and again to see updates on all of you.

I hope you are feeling better!

Missie

I have let that thought cross my mind a few times, but I worked for a doctor that told me how dangerous Gastric Bypass was, so it has been just that a thought. I do know people that went through it, but haven't talked to them about their experience. The ones that I have heard from haven't had a good experience. I don't want to discourage you, because I know exactly where you are coming from, but someday I will put my mind to it and lose this weight, I was just sure that once I had a child eating to deal with depression would go away, cause I wouldn't be depressed anymore.

Aren't you going to WDW in December?

 

[debbiet1]

Hi Suzanne and Missie.. I've been sick with pneumonia so I havent been on much. They gave me some pretty strong antibiotics. 10 pills was 65.00

Missie good luck with the surgery and our thoughts n prayers will be with you!!!

We are leaving Dec 21 for FLA and have POP Booked Dec 23-31, I"m beginning to wonder if we shouldnt have booked a diff hotel.

Anyways Hope everyone is having a good week!!

 

[PrincessSuzanne]

Ummm....DUH!!! I forgot to post info about our December trip! We have a whole new trip planned, lol. We were going from Dec. 22-Jan. 1st and staying at the Caribbean Beach Resort but now we are gong from December 16th-24th and we are staying at the Villa's at the Wilderness Lodge!!!

We will be celebrating our 11th Anniversary on December 17th and I am so happy to celebrate it at Disney! I made ADR's for the Yachtsman Steakhouse and ordered a special cake for dessert. Then we will head back to the WL and enjoy a romantic Sleigh Ride at 9:30 pm. DH has no clue about the dessert or the sleigh ride!!!

When are you going?

Missie

We are going to be there from December 19-22. We will be at the CR Dec 19-21 and AKL 21-22. Our Anniversary is December 8 (#6), but we will celebrate while we are there, no cake this year, it got wasted last year. We have breakfast ressie at Chef Mickey's on the 20th and Boma on the 22nd, other than that we will eat CS.

 

[debbiet1]

PLUS Suzanne I'm jealous.. Our travel channel must have different shows than you guys. There was no disney shows on ours

 

[PrincessSuzanne]

Hi Suzanne and Missie.. I've been sick with pneumonia so I havent been on much. They gave me some pretty strong antibiotics. 10 pills was 65.00

Missie good luck with the surgery and our thoughts n prayers will be with you!!!

We are leaving Dec 21 for FLA and have POP Booked Dec 23-31, I"m beginning to wonder if we shouldnt have booked a diff hotel.

Anyways Hope everyone is having a good week!!

I am so sorry you have been so sick , hope you are well on your way to to a speedy recovery. Medication is sure expensive. My insurance company doesn't cover allergy meds since Claritin is over the counter and it can get very expensive. I have tried explaining that Claritin no longer works for me because I was on it for so long, do you think they listen, NO.

Oh, man, I will miss you by one day, that stinks. Why are you doubting Pop, it is a great resort, now if they would only add a few Family Suites.

Suzanne

 

[PrincessSuzanne]

PLUS Suzanne I'm jealous.. Our travel channel must have different shows than you guys. There was no disney shows on ours

No, we had all Disney all day yesterday. They showed the Great Hotels about the GF, AKL, Yacht and Beach Club, and WL, then the 4 one hour shows about DL, WDW, AK, and the Backstage one all in a row.

 

[PrincessSuzanne]

Ummm....DUH!!! I forgot to post info about our December trip! We have a whole new trip planned, lol. We were going from Dec. 22-Jan. 1st and staying at the Caribbean Beach Resort but now we are gong from December 16th-24th and we are staying at the Villa's at the Wilderness Lodge!!!

We will be celebrating our 11th Anniversary on December 17th and I am so happy to celebrate it at Disney! I made ADR's for the Yachtsman Steakhouse and ordered a special cake for dessert. Then we will head back to the WL and enjoy a romantic Sleigh Ride at 9:30 pm. DH has no clue about the dessert or the sleigh ride!!!

When are you going?

Missie

We are going to be there from December 19-22. We will be at the CR Dec 19-21 and AKL 21-22. Our Anniversary is December 8 (#6), but we will celebrate while we are there, no cake this year, it got wasted last year. We have breakfast ressie at Chef Mickey's on the 20th and Boma on the 22nd, other than that we will eat CS.

 

[Leger13]

I just wanted to let everyone know that we're back from our trip! I will be back later today to catch up with you all. Hope all is good!

 

[want2bamommy]

I have let that thought cross my mind a few times, but I worked for a doctor that told me how dangerous Gastric Bypass was, so it has been just that a thought. I do know people that went through it, but haven't talked to them about their experience. The ones that I have heard from haven't had a good experience. I don't want to discourage you, because I know exactly where you are coming from, but someday I will put my mind to it and lose this weight, I was just sure that once I had a child eating to deal with depression would go away, cause I wouldn't be depressed anymore. QUOTE]

Hi, Suzanne. I have been overweight since I was 11 years old so my weight has nothing to do with me wanting kids. (I was 10% overweight from 11 through age 17 when I then gained 60 pounds in 7 months). I know that if I have a baby I will still be heavy unless I do this. DH and I are going to the seminar a week from Tuesday so we'll really make a more informed decision after that.

I'll be sure to keep you posted though. I need to reread some of the newer messages and reply to them! Hopefully I can do that today!

Missie

 

[debbiet1]

I have yet to find Disney on our travel channel. Ifeel so robbed!

 

[PrincessSuzanne]

I have let that thought cross my mind a few times, but I worked for a doctor that told me how dangerous Gastric Bypass was, so it has been just that a thought. I do know people that went through it, but haven't talked to them about their experience. The ones that I have heard from haven't had a good experience. I don't want to discourage you, because I know exactly where you are coming from, but someday I will put my mind to it and lose this weight, I was just sure that once I had a child eating to deal with depression would go away, cause I wouldn't be depressed anymore. QUOTE]

Hi, Suzanne. I have been overweight since I was 11 years old so my weight has nothing to do with me wanting kids. (I was 10% overweight from 11 through age 17 when I then gained 60 pounds in 7 months). I know that if I have a baby I will still be heavy unless I do this. DH and I are going to the seminar a week from Tuesday so we'll really make a more informed decision after that.

I'll be sure to keep you posted though. I need to reread some of the newer messages and reply to them! Hopefully I can do that today!

Missie

I can't say all of mine is from wanting children either. I was not really overweight as a child, but I was a little larger than most of the other children. When I was about 15, my doctor told my mother that I was so hyper that I ate to occupy my time and I didn't realize what I was doing (I have ADHD), so he gave me a medication called Cylert and I lost 60 pounds in 3 months, I totally quite eating, I just didnt want to eat, and the doctor told mom that as long as I was drinking fluids then not to worry about me not eating. But I totally gained it back since then and then some. I am very ashamed of what I look like, but if I don't look in the mirror, then I don't think about it. I just don't have the nerves to try WLS, I am a big chicken. I don't want to go through all of the preliminary tests they out you through. One day I will decide I am tired of being fat and do something about it.

I wish you all the best in whatever choice you make and I am sure all of us here are more than willing to be support for you.

Suzanne

 

[PrincessSuzanne]

I have yet to find Disney on our travel channel. Ifeel so robbed!

Well, that just stinks, cause they show them quite often and in about another month they will start showing the ones for the Christmas. Some of the Christmas ones come on FoodNetwork also.

 

[PrincessSuzanne]

I am soooooo excited, I just added another night to my December reservation so we will be staying at the AKL for 2 nights. That makes our stay December 19-23 with 2 nights at CR and 2 nights at AKL.

Suzanne

 

[Leger13]

I am soooooo excited, I just added another night to my December reservation so we will be staying at the AKL for 2 nights. That makes our stay December 19-23 with 2 nights at CR and 2 nights at AKL.

Suzanne

yay for more time at disney!!

 

[Leger13]

I haven't really posted in a while but I just wanted to let everyone know that I did not come back from disney world with a nice little surprise i may not have a baby but I sure can cry like one.
AF just showed her stupid ugly face today I'm really just ready to throw in the towel. And to make things worse, I cannot get my Dh to go and do his SA! that is one of the major keys to knowing weather or not we can conceive at all! I'm so tired of all of this.

Sorry for all the complaining....it's just been one of those weeks where everything that happens makes me feel so worthless. I hope everyone else on this thread is doing better than me today.

thanks for reading

 

[PrincessSuzanne]

I haven't really posted in a while but I just wanted to let everyone know that I did not come back from disney world with a nice little surprise i may not have a baby but I sure can cry like one.
AF just showed her stupid ugly face today I'm really just ready to throw in the towel. And to make things worse, I cannot get my Dh to go and do his SA! that is one of the major keys to knowing weather or not we can conceive at all! I'm so tired of all of this.

Sorry for all the complaining....it's just been one of those weeks where everything that happens makes me feel so worthless. I hope everyone else on this thread is doing better than me today.

thanks for reading

OH honey , I think we all certainly know how you feel, I can say I do. I was there for several years and everyone told me it would get better and I was just convinced that it wouldn't, but it really does. I still have my days as I am sure you have read some of my posts .

DH's just stink that way . I didn't have that problem with mine, because I do have him trained in some respects and I told him he would have to do it no matter what, he also hand over the paycheck as soon as he gets it, so maybe I shouldn't complain about him . Mine, though has the worst case of PMS I have ever seen.

You need to know that we are here for you, no matter what. I wouldn't have been able to get through some days if it hadn't been for this group .

I had to find a distraction and well, it turns out to be Disney. Planning a trip and anging on the Disboards keeps my mine busy and my pocketbook empty, but at least I am happy most of the time.

I didn't know you were in N Georgia. I am in East Central Alabama right on the Chattahoochee River border with Columbus, Ga. OH, I have started reading your TR.

Well, looks like we may be finally closing on our house next Tuesday . I don't know how much more of this I can take, though . We still have to deal with my mom's stupid (I use that term lightly) siblings. I wish everything would be settled soon, I have never seen someone in their 60's act like they are 5 before and I am really sick of it . I can't even really move in until they get their act together


Suzanne

 

[Leger13]

OH honey , I think we all certainly know how you feel, I can say I do. I was there for several years and everyone told me it would get better and I was just convinced that it wouldn't, but it really does. I still have my days as I am sure you have read some of my posts .

DH's just stink that way . I didn't have that problem with mine, because I do have him trained in some respects and I told him he would have to do it no matter what, he also hand over the paycheck as soon as he gets it, so maybe I shouldn't complain about him . Mine, though has the worst case of PMS I have ever seen.

You need to know that we are here for you, no matter what. I wouldn't have been able to get through some days if it hadn't been for this group .

I had to find a distraction and well, it turns out to be Disney. Planning a trip and anging on the Disboards keeps my mine busy and my pocketbook empty, but at least I am happy most of the time.

I didn't know you were in N Georgia. I am in East Central Alabama right on the Chattahoochee River border with Columbus, Ga. OH, I have started reading your TR.

Well, looks like we may be finally closing on our house next Tuesday . I don't know how much more of this I can take, though . We still have to deal with my mom's stupid (I use that term lightly) siblings. I wish everything would be settled soon, I have never seen someone in their 60's act like they are 5 before and I am really sick of it . I can't even really move in until they get their act together


Suzanne

awww thank you soooo much for your kind words Suzanne. It means a lot to me to have a group like this to turn to when I'm having one of "those" days. I agree with you that the DIS and Disney trip planning are excellent ways of keeping your mind busy. But on days like this even that doesn't seem to help. Sometimes I just feel so worthless and that I don't bring anything to any relationship that I have. Dealing with the whole infertility thing has gotten easier but it still really sucks. Having ladies like you though is great. I'm so glad I've got women that understand, even though i don't wish infertility on anyone.

That's good that you have your DH trained so well I don't have to worry about him handing over his paycheck because it is directly deposited into our account but when it comes to doctors and such it's a hassle. I talked to him about it when I got home from work today and just before he left for work he promised me that he will call the doc's office on monday. It will be SO nice to get that part of the tests done with so we can move forward.

That's so cool that you live so near to GA. I'm only about 30 min north west of atlanta so you're not too far from me but it's still a drive. Maybe one day we can drive half way to have a little DIS meet.

That's so awesome that you and your DH are going to be closing on your house I'm sure you've said it in a post before that I might have missed but what's going on with your mom's siblings thats so stressfull? I never knew a grown woman over 50 years old could act like a 5 year old either but we have one in our family too...and it's my mom's sibling coincidance (sp?)?? Either way, whatever it is, I hope things settle down so you can move! Moving is stressfull all in itself w/o all the drama to go with it.

 

[PrincessSuzanne]

awww thank you soooo much for your kind words Suzanne. It means a lot to me to have a group like this to turn to when I'm having one of "those" days. I agree with you that the DIS and Disney trip planning are excellent ways of keeping your mind busy. But on days like this even that doesn't seem to help. Sometimes I just feel so worthless and that I don't bring anything to any relationship that I have. Dealing with the whole infertility thing has gotten easier but it still really sucks. Having ladies like you though is great. I'm so glad I've got women that understand, even though i don't wish infertility on anyone.

That's good that you have your DH trained so well I don't have to worry about him handing over his paycheck because it is directly deposited into our account but when it comes to doctors and such it's a hassle. I talked to him about it when I got home from work today and just before he left for work he promised me that he will call the doc's office on monday. It will be SO nice to get that part of the tests done with so we can move forward.

That's so cool that you live so near to GA. I'm only about 30 min north west of atlanta so you're not too far from me but it's still a drive. Maybe one day we can drive half way to have a little DIS meet.

That's so awesome that you and your DH are going to be closing on your house I'm sure you've said it in a post before that I might have missed but what's going on with your mom's siblings thats so stressfull? I never knew a grown woman over 50 years old could act like a 5 year old either but we have one in our family too...and it's my mom's sibling coincidance (sp?)?? Either way, whatever it is, I hope things settle down so you can move! Moving is stressfull all in itself w/o all the drama to go with it.

My mom's brother (62) and sister (58) are suing her because it has taken 6 years for my grandmother's estate to be settled. They are the primary reason it hasn't been done, but they want to blame her. They want her to pay rent for the time it has taken to get this taken care of, because she was living in my grandparents house, and has for the last 22-23 years, since my grandfather passed away. My mom is the executrix of the estate and they have been at her throat since she started probating the will in 2003 or 2004. It is a long hellish story and I am ready for it to be over. I am buying my grandparents house, because of the sentimental value (my family is the only one that has ever lived in it) and my grandfather built it. The sun rose and set in him. He was my "daddy" (my father wasn't in my life after he left my mom) until he passed away when I was 5 and my mom and I moved in with my grandmother and my mom paid all of the bills until my grandmother turned 62 and started getting Social Security. My mom has paid all of the upkeep and taxes since her death. Apparently they wanted my mom to move out until the estate was settled and rent it out for them (not that they had any say), but they never mentioned that they wanted her to pay rent so now they are being a**es. It is all a mess and I am tired of it. We (mom, Dh, and I) went to court yesterday to petition the judge for the purchase of the house, so now we are just waiting for a corrected copy of the petition to take to the mortgage company, so we can close. I wish they were in he**. They have really put my mom through it and you know I worry about her.

With all that this family has been through the last 6 years, I am surprised I am still married. We got married 5 months after my grandmother passed away and will celebrate our 6th Anniversary while we are at WDW in December, and my mom needs to get away. With not being able to have a baby, Christmas just isn't the same. We used to have huge Christmases in this house and I miss all of the childrens laughter, so I haven't really celebrated in a few years and haven't put up a tree since 2004 and only did that because DH had been gone for the Army for 2 months. Maybe I can celebrate again in a few years.

 

[debbiet1]

great big hugssssssssssssssssssssssssssssss to both of you.. I hope there is a silver lining in the clouds for you both soon!!