Child-free, but not by choice?

[PrincessSuzanne]

wow - what an encouragement!

How are you doing? I have been thinking about you.

Suzanne

 

[debbiet1]

As I said before.. dont give up hope.. Yes I know how hard that is..Yes I know how hard it is to do pregnancy tests every month just to find it comes back negative, I've been there with you.. If *ANY* of you ever need a shoulder to cry on.. please feel free to message me. Sometimes its nice just to have someone else to talk to.. Hugsssssssssssss To all that need them

 

[PrincessSuzanne]

As I said before.. dont give up hope.. Yes I know how hard that is..Yes I know how hard it is to do pregnancy tests every month just to find it comes back negative, I've been there with you.. If *ANY* of you ever need a shoulder to cry on.. please feel free to message me. Sometimes its nice just to have someone else to talk to.. Hugsssssssssssss To all that need them

Thank you so much. I too am here if anyone needs a shoulder or well an ear.

Suzanne

 

[PrincessSuzanne]

Well, I think I have finally found the time to share the issue I have been having. July 19, 2007 marked the 6th Anniversary of my Grandmother's (mom's mother) death, she and I were very very close, and it would ahve also been my aunt's birthday (she died in 1996). Well my mom calls me at work and said that she had just gotten a letter from her lawyer and it said that her sister and brother were filing a lawsuit against her for taking so long to probate the my grandmother's will. So I had a good cry and worried about my mom and what was going to happen. Well, she would have handled everthing a few years ago had my aunt and uncle done what they were supposed to do, but no, they wouldn't sign the documents so the attorney she had then could go to court and get orders to handle everything, and they sent letters back to the attorney acussing my mom of all kinds of stupid things. Well, Friday rolls around, mom calls me and said that she just received a packet from the Court with a copy of the suit that was filed and of course she didn't understand it and was hysterical. She calle her attorney and he asked her too have me fax it to him on Monday. Well, I went home and read the document and it is the most ridiculous thing I ahve ever read. Any attorney that would touch that has got to be crazy. First of all they talk about my mom living in my grandmother's home for 22 years (my mom and I moved in with her when my grandfather died in 1979) prior to her death, but in the next sentence they said she was trespassing. That is only one of many ridiculous statements. Mom's lawyer sent her a letter the next day and told her that she should fight it, or just try to settle it. She is having some health issues right now and decided that she has to try to settle it out of court somehow. We went to see mom's lawyer and he advised her that settling would be best and least expensive route, and so they negociated (sp?) a setlement amout they both could agree to and I have made a bid to buy my grandparents house which means the world to me (no other family has ever lived there and I grew up in that house). So, Saturday mom got another letter from her attorney and it was just telling her what he said in the letter to my aunt and uncle's attorney. I have now gotten the appraisal on the house and it has been sent to the attorney to go to the judge, so we are now just waiting to see what happens. I am sure I have left out many details, so just ask what you want to know and I will fill in the blanks, but I just wanted to give you the jist of it.

Also, my DH was called out to his job on Friday and I thought they were going to fire him, but they didn't, but they sure have been mean to him and that is really uncalled for, but what can you do. As soon as we get back from WDW, he is going to start looking for a new job.

They say God never gives you more than you can handle, but it sure feels liek he does, and I have my share and many other people's share as well. I NEED A BREAK See why I have been away.

Suzanne

 

[debbiet1]

I hope that things start to get brighter for you. I know they say that *HE* doesnt give you more than you can handle But I sure think He must think some of us have the shoulders of 5 football players combined. Enjoy your holiday in 16 DAYS!!!! Then DH will be all relaxed and ready to look for something that they treat him civilly.

 

[hematite153]

Just wanted to put my two cents into pot ... Just remember not to always look at the monthly visitor as another month of proof your not PG but sometimes see it as sign that your fight is not over yet. Your ovaries are still on the production line. Best wishes and luck to all of you.
God Bless

Good point. Thanks for the perspective.

My DH and I tried for years and years...went to several dr's, did several rounds of the *minor* fert drugs ... started the adoption process, and decided to go to China to find our daughter ... DS was born completely healthy at 38.5 weeks and weighed in at 10 lbs. He is now 4 1/2 and we are planning our first trip to the World in 30 days.

Wow! What a tough path. I enjoy hearing the stories of hope, although hope gets awfully expensive at times.

July 19, 2007 marked the 6th Anniversary of my Grandmother's (mom's mother) death, she and I were very very close, and it would ahve also been my aunt's birthday (she died in 1996). Well my mom calls me at work and said that she had just gotten a letter from her lawyer and it said that her sister and brother were filing a lawsuit against her for taking so long to probate the my grandmother's will....

Yikes! I have this fairness button that would get rather grumpy at being asked to pay out a settlement for something that wasn't worth looking at. However, I suspect that your mother has chosen the path that will likely be best in the long run. Good luck!

 

[Who'syourMickey]

I haven't read this entire thread, but in midwifery school read a book called "Taking charge of your fertility" by Toni Wechler or something like that. It was an awesome book about fertility awareness that has helped many women understand the problem with their cycles and get pregnant. Also if you are near KC Mo, my daughters accupunturist makes women get pregnant all the time. Fertility is her specialty, some in 2 visits, some 9 visits, some 16 visits, or some 22 visits, but every time we go there is a new expectant mama. I joke with her that she has made so many babies but has none of her own.
Her name is Mary Zhang and you can google her. She is really good at what she does, which is correcting imbalances. I once had problems with my cycles, too long of a cycle and very heavy bleeding, and she fixed it just like that. She is from China and she is amazing.

 

[aclov]

I have that book "Taking Charge of your Fertility" I haven't read it cover to cover. Actually I have been thinking of acupunture, I contacted my insurance of course they don't cover it. Maybe I'll just call to get some pricing information, although needles scare me but after doing IVF twice I should be okay.

Did anyone catch the episode on Oprah about the woman who was going through infertility treatment? I saw it about 4-5 months ago, but I guess it re-ran this morning because my friend called me at work to tell me she had no idea how entailed treatment was with the shots and everything. The thing that turns me off about this friend is that she's a SAHM of 3 kids and glorifies motherhood. I mean I think her intentions are good but it's almost like she feels sorry for me. When she called to tell me she had seen the Oprah episode she said that she was crying for me and was watching the show praying for me. I appreciate her thoughtfulness and I really want to be a mother but it's almost like she pity's me or something.

 

[want2bamommy]

Hi, all. I hope that everyone is doing well and enjoying their summer. This thread was on page 2 of the Adults/Solo Traveler's thread so I thought I'd bump us back to the the first page, lol.

I am still on my first cycle of Clomid. I am on CD29 now and am 6DPO. I plan to test on Friday but I am not feeling good about this cycle. Our timing was really good but I just don't think it happened. I'll be sure to let you know what happens with my HPT either way though.

Hope you all have a great weekend!

Missie

 

[billwendy]

hi everyone,

how are you all? we are planning 2 disney trips right now!!! one for night of joy, and the other for new years...i know, new years is crazy, but it will be a big bday for me and we were there for my other big bdays, so we will go again!! lol!!!

ok - what is everyones favorite.....disney park, ride, restaurant and hotel?

wen

 

[want2bamommy]

ok - what is everyones favorite.....disney park, ride, restaurant and hotel?

wen

Hi, Wendy! Your upcoming trips sound great. DH and I are going in December from the 22nd through January 1st. I've never been during this time and know that it is the busiest week of the year but we are still looking forward to it.

1. Favorite Park is Magic Kingdom
2. Favorite Rides are Soarin' and Big Thunder Mountain Railroad
3. Restaurant is Akershus right now. I haven't been to too many TS restaurants yet. I loved the Traditional Kjottkaker there that was recommended by the waiter. During our upcoming trip we are on the DDP so we do have many TS restaurants booked. We have Le Cellier, Coral Reef, The Concourse Steakhouse, Crystal Palace (been there before), Mama Melrose (Fantasmic Package), Liberty Tree Tavern, Chef Mickey's, Kona Cafe, 50's Prime Time Cafe (been there before), Grand Floridian Cafe, and BOMA. So my answer may differ then, lol.
4. As for my favorite hotel I have only been to the All Star Sports and Pop Century so far. I liked the POP better. I am going to stay at the Caribbean Beach Resort in December (though Hubby thinks we are staying at the Pop) so I am sure that will be my new favorite.

I look forward to seeing everyone else's answers too.

Missie

 

[debbiet1]

Missie you're so much more better prepared for Christmas at Disney than me. I've got 1 restaurant reserved for Dec 29. Otherwise its just a hit and miss.. DH said he doesnt want to spend hours in a restaurant so he's happy with counter meals. I may have to change that lol. Have a great holiday and maybe see you there (only amongst the other million) lol

 

[billwendy]

hey missie,

i love the POP too!! the CBR is great too though - im sure you will love it for sure!! sounds like a BLAST!!!

i love POP!!
i love Rock n Roller Coaster!
I love MGM and MK!
i love the concourse steak house!

but i love more too!!! they are all so much fun!! the DDP is a fun treat too - you could never eat as much as they give you though!! lol!!! but its fun to try new things with it~

 

[Nennie]

Glad to see this thread back on page1!!!

I hope that everyone is doing well!! As for me, I am switching REs and will be starting IVF#3 in the fall. As always, we will be kicking off our cycle with a trip to WDW in Sept!

I've been feeling down as our last 3 IUI cycles were cancelled for various reasons (hyperstim, cysts, etc). I'm sick of feeling sorry for myself though, so I figure I might as well get back on the IVF horse, and hope for the best!!

Billwendy -- I tried the DDP last year. You are right that it is SO much food! It was a fun way to try some new restaurants though! Unfortunately for me, I tried to get my money's worth and ate like a little piggie!! LOL!! Will stick to just paying cash for meals from now on! LOL!!

Debbie and Missie -- Christmas as WDW!! I'm so jealous!! DH and I say every year that we are going to do it NEXT year, but we haven't done it yet!! Can't wait to hear all about it!!

Aclov -- The woman on Oprah was my friend Jenna!!! Well, she's my "online friend"! LOL!! She is in my IVF group. She has a book out "The Empty Picture Frame," and is really trying to spread the word about IF, and bring it to the mainstream.

Suzanne -- I'm so sorry to hear about the turmoil that your family is going through!!!! UGH!!!! I KWIM about God not giving you more than you can handle...but like you I sometimes think that God must think I'm a lot stronger than I am!!

OK to answer the WDW questions!!!

Favorite Hotel -- Beach Club Villas (if you look in my siggie you'll see that's where I usually stay, lol)!

Favorite Restaurant -- Beaches n' Cream! Not the fanciest place, but a great place for a cheesburger and a milkshake!

Favorite Ride -- Soarin' (2nd fav is Tower of Terror)

Favorite Park -- EPCOT! Although I can't wait to have children one day, and take them to MK!!

 

[hematite153]

Hi again everyone.

Thanks for bumping us up Missie.

Nennie, I understand exactly what you mean about feeling down but needing to keep hopeful and get at it.

My last IUI was also unsuccessful. That makes 11 failed IUIs between my DW and myself. Our doctor has an intermediate step that she's proposed but I think I'm ready to switch to IVF. I just don't know how much more of this I can take.

However, our new wrinkle is that I had a physical that showed elevated liver enzymes. So, I can't take any fertility drugs for awhile and need to follow up on that before I can even consider another cycle. So, we've decided to wait until my next liver test (in a month) in the hopes that the elevation was caused by the clomid. If things go down then we'll proceed using different drugs and most likely IVF with me with continued monitoring of the liver enzymes. However, if I get another problematic liver test then I'll have to focus on that and we'll try IVF with my DW. (The catch, of course, is that my doctor says our odds are way better with me.) Argh! I have to just let it go, because stress isn't going to help anything.

 

[PrincessSuzanne]

Well well, I see when the cats away the mice (maybe I should have said mouse) will play. Hi everybody, I am so glad to see everyone back. I thought you had all gone to Disney and left me at home, well I am, we leave on Wednesday for DH's birthday trip. Then when we get back I have to start preparing for our short Christmas trip. We are going December 19-21 and staying at the Contemporary Tower with a Theme Park View

Oh Missie and Wendy, it looks like I will just miss you both by a couple of days.

Missie, I am sending you some pixie dust for a BFP

Nennie, debbiet1, and Hematite, so good to hear from you, and I have been there and done that. Had to take a break myself, and I don't know if I have the strength to TTC again.


I can't really say what my favorite hotel is, becasue we have never stayed in the same one twice, and we will be at WL this week and CR in December, maybe I can tell you that then.

Favorite Restaurant-I don't know that either, since I love to eat, I pretty much love them all.

Favorite Ride is Test Track

Favorite Park is of course MK

I should be able to check back a couple of time before we leave Wednesday, so keep in touch.

Suzanne

 

[debbiet1]

Suzanne Have a Great Holiday and Happy Birthday to your DH!!!!!

 

[Luv2Roam]

Been married 31 years -- and childless, not by choice.
Yes, of course it use to bother me, and I would have chosen to have my own child. But some things just don't work out as such. And DH and I get along very well. And who knows -- if kids were in the mix maybe that would have been different.
Luckily we both became Disney addicts. But not until our mid life.
There is a happy life without kids. Well -- we do have kids. But they shed and have four legs.

 

[Who'syourMickey]

We've got the four legged kids too. I was just thinking about epigenetics. I don't know if you've ever heard of it but it is fascinating stuff. To make a long story short, because it is late, if I was in your shoes and could do it all over again knowing then what I know now I would do the following:

Eat all organic foods
Have my mecury fillings taken out
Do the Andy Cutler method of chelation
Remove all chemicals and toxins from my environment

All prior to conceiving or trying to conceive. I am putting all of my children through chelation before they get to child bearing age. This is all really cutting edge stuff, if anyone is interested. I believe that toxins in my body were passed to my children via the placenta and breastmilk. Things like mercury, etc. A pregancy dumps a toxic load from the mother to the fetus, causing all kinds of problems, so if I could do it all over again, I would chelate before having children for that reason.

 

[Nennie]

Happy Monday Everyone!

I have a feeling this is going to be a loooooong week! The weekends always fly by too fast, and next thing I know, I'm at work again. I can't wait to go to Disney next month. Even though it's only for a 4-day weekend, it will still be nice to get away!

Luv2Roam -- I'm glad to hear that you are at peace, and have a happy and fulfilling life with your DH and furbabies! Congrats on your 31 years of marriage!! That's an accomplishment in itself these days!!

Suzanne -- Have a wonderful time in WDW, and Happy B-day to your DH!!! I'm getting pretty jealous of all these Christmas trips! I'm definitely going to try and do one next year!

Hematite -- Best of luck with IVF, and with your liver tests. If you do IVF with your DW's eggs, have you thought of transferring some embryos in her, and some in you? Just wondering if it was something you've considered. I have done IVF twice, but both times my leftover embryos didn't make it to freeze. My mom has actually offerred to be a gestational carrier for me in the past, and I've toyed with the idea of splitting my embryos between the 2 of us (to increase our chances). Of course this is all just an idea at this point, and I haven't even talked to a doctor about doing this, but it's always in the back of my mind!