Cheerfully child-free. Anyone else?

[J.Cooper]

Count me in as another happily married childfree by choice. DH and I are in our 30's, been married for almost 12 yrs and never wanted children. We love our freedom to do whatever we want when we want. He has plenty of nieces & nephews. We've even taken them to Disney twice. I love being an auntie. You can give them back .

 

[goofygirl]

Let the flamming begin, but I don't care. I love writing this stuff.

That's great that you have decided to be child-free. This means that by not having children the world will eventually be ridden of people who think like you. Hopefully? Hehe.

I guess you don't regret your parents having born and raised you, so you could go to disney when the kids are in school and you don't have to deal with them.

This is one of the sadest threads I've ever come across on the internet and I can't believe its here on a disney website. Color me naive.

Have fun dying all alone in a nursing home...its a blast. I've seen the future for the child-free. Its dark and lonely in the end.

Have a great life and enjoy disney while you can. Can't buy me love...best song ever.

bfrosty

*cough*TROLL*cough*

 

[Hercules10]

I guess you don't regret your parents having born and raised you, so you could go to disney when the kids are in school and you don't have to deal with them.

Nope! Don't regret being born one bit!

Dang sure don't regret going to Disney when there are a lot less kids there!

 

[goofygirl]

Oh....and I've seen PLENTY of grown children stick their parents in nursing homes & not visit

Absolutely! Me too! There's NO guarantee a child will grow up and be your caretaker. A grown child can die before you, move far away, or get an injury or disability that will prevent them from caring for you.

And besides, to have a child for the sole purpose of having someone to take care of you when you are old is 100% selfish.

 

[Jeafl]

Let the flamming begin, but I don't care. I love writing this stuff.

That's great that you have decided to be child-free. This means that by not having children the world will eventually be ridden of people who think like you. Hopefully? Hehe.

I guess you don't regret your parents having born and raised you, so you could go to disney when the kids are in school and you don't have to deal with them.

This is one of the sadest threads I've ever come across on the internet and I can't believe its here on a disney website. Color me naive.

Have fun dying all alone in a nursing home...its a blast. I've seen the future for the child-free. Its dark and lonely in the end.

Have a great life and enjoy disney while you can. Can't buy me love...best song ever.

bfrosty

I have three kids that I adore (most days!) so I have no business even being on this thread.

Having said that, I think this post is ridiculous. I have an older sister who is child-free by choice and she is an incredibly devoted aunt to my children.
She spoils them rotten, takes them for weekends away, has even taken them on cruises, etc. Just because she has no kids of her own does not mean she will have a "dark and lonely future". My kids are extremely close to her and they will always be a part of my sister's life. You do not need to give birth in order to have people that will care about you in your old age. That is just ludicrous. As someone already posted, the nursing homes are filled with people whose children never visit. Giving birth is not a guarantee of anything.

I commend people who know themselves well enough to choose not to have children. My sister is a manager for the Dept. of Children and Family Services for the city of Chicago. She sees people every single day who unfortunately weren't bright enough to come to the same conclusion. She always says that her job wouldn't even be necessary if more people realized upfront that they weren't parent material.

 

[goofygirl]

What the troll has done is started a round of Bingo:


http://7deadlysinners.typepad.com/sinners/2006/04/breeder_bingo_c.html

Let's see how fast we get Bingo!

 

[MELSMICE]

I do have children - by choice.

People that decide not to have children are NOT selfish - they are doing what is right for them. There is nothing wrong with choosing to be childless & I can't believe that someone would question their choices.

 

[Muushka]

I was first married 30 years ago at a time when you said that you didn't think you would want to have children was like admitting you were the Anti-Christ .

Now, 30 years later, I still do not regret this decision. I appreciate other people's children (when they are good kids, not brats) and I enjoy being around them. But I love it when they go home.

Oh, and BFrosty, great screen name. Great fit!

 

[ericamanda01]

DH and I don't have kids, but might some day. We are 32 and 33 and it still amazes me the amount of people that feel its ok to ask me when I am going to get pregnant. I don't look my age, so when they find out that I am older than I look they assume I want a baby right away. Some people go so far as to ask personal questions about whether or not I can even have a baby. Having a baby won't complete my family, I have a family, and I just wish people would get off my back about it! Sorry just had to throw that vent in there.

Bfrosty, I know I should ignore you but I have to say this. You might want read through the posts before you stand on your soapbox again. One of the posters stated that they couldn't have a child. Way to show compassion! I bet you’re a great parent! (insert sarcastic smile here)

 

[Fitswimmer]

I love kids-as long as they belong to other people!! I have a niece that I have spoiled stinkin' since the day she was born-she's 20 now and I still spoil her! When she was little, she decided I was her "Fairy Godmother" because I granted her wishes! (too many viewings of Cinderella will do that to you)

I don't understand why we have to accept and embrace everyone else's lifestyle-married, gay, straight, parents, Christian, Muslim, Jewish, etc-but people who are childfree by choice are deemed selfish. I don't think there's much doubt that parenting is NOT for everyone. We wouldn't need DYFS if it was. I admire people who are parents and have taken that responsibility to heart, it just was not for me.

 

[Robinrs]

I'm CHEERFULLY ex-HUSBAND free... does that count????

 

[barbeml]

What the troll has done is started a round of Bingo:


http://7deadlysinners.typepad.com/sinners/2006/04/breeder_bingo_c.html

Let's see how fast we get Bingo!

Anyone who's worried that we're going to run out of humans should try commuting in New Jersey.

 

[Muffin]

We're childfree and happy. We actually prefer the term THINKer - Two Healthy Incomes No Kids.

 

[Hercules10]

We're childfree and happy. We actually prefer the term THINKer - Two Healthy Incomes No Kids.

I like that one too!!!!

 

[barbeml]

We're childfree and happy. We actually prefer the term THINKer - Two Healthy Incomes No Kids.

Love it!

 

[grlpwrd]

I have kids obviously, but my 3 siblings don't and may never choose to have kids. Well, I know 2 of them definitely won't have kids. They are in their 30s and 40s.

I don't think I have ever shared that with anyone... I'm the oddball in my family.

 

[LadyyRedd]

Most people on here are DINKs, so I guess that makes me an OINK, since I'm not married. One Income No Kids!

(We need a pig smiley)

Kimya

 

[Tuffcookie]

I have 2 sons and I don't think someone who has decided to not have children is selfish. If you and your spouse are on agreement with this it should not be anyone's business. And for the record, just because you have children is no guarantee that you won't end up in a nursing home all alone.

TC

 

[chicagodisneyfan]

Alan and I have our 10 year anniversary next month and we are very happily childfree! We love kids and spoil our cousins rotten, but for ourselves - ICK.

My MIL is the only one who will not accept that she will never be a grandmother. She continues to knit baby outfits. When we announced our engagement - the very first thing she said was not congratulations but "will you be starting a family soon?" So I played Debbie Downer and gently explained that we were never going to have kids. It was like kicking a puppy.

We love having complete flexibility! This weekend - we went out dancing on Friday night, got home around 2am. As for Saturday we slept in - leaving the bedroom only long enough to order sushi to be delivered and to use the restroom. An entire day in bed was so wonderful.

Twice in the last 10 years, when have decided with 24 hours notice or less to go to Disney. So cool to call an airline, call Disney and a few hours later be in Epcot.

I guess we just do not see where a child would fit in or what satisfaction having a child brings. Because I apparently was born without a biological clock, I really cannot understand why most people have children at all! It perplexes me because for me, I think having a child would ruin my life.

PS - I loved the quote - disposable income not disposable diapers

 

[Danauk]

DH and I don't have kids either and I can't see us having any either. When people ask if I have kids I reply that I have 30 (I teach a class of 9 - 11 year olds who I love dearly, DH teaches high school.) People seem amazed that as we both teach we don't want a child of our own. Growing up I was an only child as was my dad and I have no cousins either, I guess there were never babies around me growing up and have never felt the need for babies to be around me now.
However if my BIL and SIL have children we plan to be the aunt and uncle who spoil them rotten (which would probably include a trip to WDW with them!!)