Cheerfully child-free. Anyone else?

[barbeml]

Deliriously happy DINKs here. I love being an aunt to my one dear nephew, and that's enough for me.

Adding "No Bashing" to the thread title might help. The first such thread I posted on in my early DIS days almost put me off this board forever.

 

[AuntieM03]

I'm another who loves being an auntie, but has no desire to be a mommy. Of course I don't have a great desire to be a wife either.

 

[liamsaunt]

Well, I guess I'll have to join in here. DH and I are absolute DINKs. We love to travel, to hang out together all night, to do whatever whenever. In addition, DH has a pretty stressful job with lots of hours. We always said we probably did not want children.

On a more personal level, we had another motivation: we watched my Dsis almost die from giving birth to her kids, our most beloved niece and nephew. Unfortunately, there is a medical condition in our family that makes giving birth risky. She chose to take that risk...I do not. DH feels the same way.

The fact is that we get to help raise our wonderful niece and nephew. We live close by, and they are over every weekend. My BIL is deployed to Iraq right now, and in his absence they really like staying over weekends. For us, it is meaningful that we are able to be such an important part of our niece and nephew and my Dsis' lives.

When they get sick of us, it will be time for the European tour!

 

[SplshMtn99]

We are child-free. Both almost 42 & married almost 18 yrs. My brother is 53 & also child-free. No grandkids for our parents it seems.

I just don't have the maternal instinct at all. I have never desired a baby. I don't ooh & aah at babies at all. Have never wanted to hold or watch someones kid. Always felt something must be wrong with me there. Really had no interest in nieces & nephews until they turned 3 or 4. Then DH & I were so glad when they went home. I also don't handle too much stress or anxiety well at all. DH works ALOT & travels ALOT with work (military), & I can't picture myself alone with kids. We were DINKs until recently. I'm now home -- alone. We've always felt we made the right decision & haven't regretted it.

At times, I feel like the odd ball. All friends have kids. Hard to find anyone our age without kids to go do something with or talk with & not talk about their children. There are even a few topic specific message boards I belong to where I feel out of place because every talks about their children.

 

[pearlieq]

DH and I are also DINKs. That may change at some point in the future, but for the moment we're blissfully childfree!

It's so nice to enjoy kids and then give them back! Some days I think I want kids, but I can never quite convince myself to make the leap from the nice, orderly, comfortable life we have now.

I love the childfree thread on the Adults & Solo board, but every once in a while we'll get a seagull poster--you know, the kind that drop in, make a lot of noise, and crap all over everything.

It's a buzzkill, so I'm really hoping that won't happen here!

 

[Devil_Dog99]

Do DW and I count?? No kids of our own, but I am a 12 yo trapped in the body of a 39 yo man (especially when we get to WDW!!!)

 

[Disney Doll]

Not childfree by choice...we would have loved to have had children, but were unable to do so.

However, now that I am older and many of my friends are starting to deal with the aggravations of teenager-hood, I am beginning to appreciate our childfree status.

We have many relatives and friends who very generously share their children with us. DH & I enjoy the time spent with them very much, and also feel that the children benefit from having two more people that they know love them. It is our opinion that kids cannot have too many people who love them.

 

[Caradana]

Another pair of deliciously happy DINKs here. We'll probably have kids in a few years, but right now, our traveling souls and our checking accounts are singing our praises. Very glad I didn't have kids young.

D

 

[pilikia97]

Add me to the blissfully child free family! I have not had any desire for kids since I was about 8 years old (hmm, now that I think about it, that is when my little sister came along...wierd). DH waffles back and forth, but the truth of it is he makes a much better Uncle than Father because he only wants the fun parts with none of the gross or diciplining parts...

 

[Charade]

I SO prefer disposable income over disposable diapers!

Linda

 

[bfrosty]

Let the flamming begin, but I don't care. I love writing this stuff.

That's great that you have decided to be child-free. This means that by not having children the world will eventually be ridden of people who think like you. Hopefully? Hehe.

I guess you don't regret your parents having born and raised you, so you could go to disney when the kids are in school and you don't have to deal with them.

This is one of the sadest threads I've ever come across on the internet and I can't believe its here on a disney website. Color me naive.

Have fun dying all alone in a nursing home...its a blast. I've seen the future for the child-free. Its dark and lonely in the end.

Have a great life and enjoy disney while you can. Can't buy me love...best song ever.

bfrosty

 

[Charade]

Let the flamming begin, but I don't care. I love writing this stuff.

That's great that you have decided to be child-free. This means that by not having children the world will eventually be ridden of people who think like you. Hopefully? Hehe.

I guess you don't regret your parents having born and raised you, so you could go to disney when the kids are in school and you don't have to deal with them.

This is one of the sadest threads I've ever come across on the internet and I can't believe its here on a disney website. Color me naive.

Have fun dying all alone in a nursing home...its a blast. I've seen the future for the child-free. Its dark and lonely in the end.

Have a great life and enjoy disney while you can. Can't buy me love...best song ever.

bfrosty

Whoa!

Nice post.

 

[eclectics]

Whoa!

Nice post.

There always seems to be at least one per thread, John. Maybe it's the law of averages or something.

 

[AlexandNessa]

Hubby and I are happily child-free as well. It amazed me, however, the number of people who felt it was OK to ask us when we were having kids. We took it in stride as that was right around our wedding. When we'd reply that we weren't sure we wanted any at all, I was even more amazed at the number of people who responded with "who will take care of you when you're older?" (I mean, did these people actually believe that one of the main reasons to have a child is so that we'd have someone to care for us when we're old?! )

Now, when people ask us this question, we usually respond with a smile and "when you're ready to watch them whenever we want to take off and go." Or, "when you can afford some healthy child support."

I think it's great when people know the difference between "child-free," "childless," and "empty nesters." And, what it means to be a "pet parent."

 

[Planogirl]

Let the flamming begin, but I don't care. I love writing this stuff.

That's great that you have decided to be child-free. This means that by not having children the world will eventually be ridden of people who think like you. Hopefully? Hehe.

I guess you don't regret your parents having born and raised you, so you could go to disney when the kids are in school and you don't have to deal with them.

This is one of the sadest threads I've ever come across on the internet and I can't believe its here on a disney website. Color me naive.

Have fun dying all alone in a nursing home...its a blast. I've seen the future for the child-free. Its dark and lonely in the end.

Have a great life and enjoy disney while you can. Can't buy me love...best song ever.

bfrosty

I have a son that I adore dearly and I think that your post was unkind and way unnecessary. Why do you care if people choose not to have kids? I salute them for making the right choice for themselves and for not flaming those who may disagree with them.

Now I'll back out and let you DINK's enjoy your thread. I was planning to lurk but this post drew me out.

 

[AuroraBorealis]

Let the flamming begin, but I don't care. I love writing this stuff.

That's great that you have decided to be child-free. This means that by not having children the world will eventually be ridden of people who think like you. Hopefully? Hehe.

Please define how child-free people 'think' and why the world would be so much better off without them. Nothing that has been posted so far seems to indicate child-free folks are ruining society.

I guess you don't regret your parents having born and raised you, so you could go to disney when the kids are in school and you don't have to deal with them.

This is a total non-sequitur. There is no logical jump from somebody being born to what time they choose to visit Disney. Plenty of children visit Disney during the school year because their parents choose to homeschool or pull them out of school to take a trip to see the mouse. Most of the previous posters have said they do like kids but just don't want any of their own.

This is one of the sadest threads I've ever come across on the internet and I can't believe its here on a disney website. Color me naive.

I'd venture a guess that you don't spend much time on the internet then...Disney is for people of all ages, backgrounds, socio-economic levels and lifestyle choices-- including the choice to not have children.

Have fun dying all alone in a nursing home...its a blast. I've seen the future for the child-free. Its dark and lonely in the end.

There are people with children who are dying all alone in nursing homes, too. I used to volunteer at a nursing home and many residents had not seen their adult children in years. Child-free does not mean friend/other family free. I'm not lonely now and I don't plan to be. I have amazing life-long friends and other close relationships to encourage me.

Have a great life and enjoy disney while you can. Can't buy me love...best song ever.

Thanks, I will enjoy Disney as long as I am able. But guess what--we'll all die someday, child-free or not. Again, another invalid point and non-sequitur with the beatle's song.

Your whole post has no merit. It is full of logical fallacies, false assumptions, and non-sequiters. Come back when you can make a valid point and can state your case in a way that is not condescending. Nobody is attacking you for your choice to have children. Don't attack those who have chosen to remain child-free.

I currently don't have children but am not opposed to the idea of someday having kids. If I do or not-- it is my choice and I shouldn't have to defend my decision to anybody.

 

[SplshMtn99]

Let the flamming begin, but I don't care. I love writing this stuff.

That's great that you have decided to be child-free. This means that by not having children the world will eventually be ridden of people who think like you. Hopefully? Hehe.

I guess you don't regret your parents having born and raised you, so you could go to disney when the kids are in school and you don't have to deal with them.

This is one of the sadest threads I've ever come across on the internet and I can't believe its here on a disney website. Color me naive.

Have fun dying all alone in a nursing home...its a blast. I've seen the future for the child-free. Its dark and lonely in the end.

Have a great life and enjoy disney while you can. Can't buy me love...best song ever.

bfrosty

Hey bfrosty,
Would you prefer that I have a child that I don't want & have absolutely no maternal instinct or craving for, just to make YOU happy? Then you can watch another neglectful parent on tv news. I'm 42 & I know I've done the right thing for ME. I don't really care what YOU think of it. Because you wouldn't be the one raising it, would you?

Oh....and I've seen PLENTY of grown children stick their parents in nursing homes & not visit. I'm actually in the position to take care of my parents when the time comes. At their home, or ours, for as long as we can. Just like my mom did for her dad.

Yes, there won't be any children to come visit me in a nursing home. And those nieces & nephews might not either. I'm quite capable at keeping myself entertained & happy.

Thank you very much for caring about me however.

I'm not a child hater. And I don't go around singing praises normally about our child-free decision. To me, its just the life we decided, and it wasn't anyone elses business.

 

[HugsForEeyore]

I don't have kids, and probably never will. Just absolutely no desire to ever do the get-married-have-kids thing. I like my "alone" time very much. I used to do alot of babysitting, and sometimes I just couldn't wait to be alone and just relax. Just my preference.

I haven't completely ruled it out the marriage/kid thing, but I just don't want it enough to try to make anything happen. No one in my family understands that - everyone thinks there is something wrong with me for not caring. I swear, even when I was a kid, I had absolutely zero desire to be a mom and wife someday. I think I am also starkly pragmatic about marriage prospects at my age, so kids are probably just not going to happen at this point, and I am fine with that! Like others said, I also have plenty of nieces and nephews to hang out with!

 

[AuroraBorealis]

SplshMtn99, that was great!

 

[AlexandNessa]

I think we're doing what bfrosty wants. Just put bfrosty on your ignore list, and let that poster troll somewhere else. Then, we can go back to our happy thread.