Cheating Spouses

[DWhittles]

For those of you who have been cheated on or caught your husband with another woman, or even suspected it, I'm curious to know HOW you found out?
What finally exposed the truth to you?

 

[mrsheppo]

My ex started changing his hours, the way he dressed and paid more attention to his personal appearance. He insisted that I get a job on graveyard shift so we wouldn't have childcare. Instead he was bringing his girlfriend over while I was working. Also, my next door neighbor told me that he was having "nighttime" visitors.

I also found a charge for "Mustang Ranch" ( the infamous bordello) on our credit card.

He denied that he was having an affair. He took our kids to his girlfriend's house on Mother's Day and my oldest DD was happy to show me where daddy's "friend" lived and I caught them in the act.

 

[LoraJ]

There's a guy at work here who we all know is cheating on his wife.

The signs are, he lost a lot of weight, dresses better, and he is constantly on his cell phone with the other woman. We can't even imagine how much his cell phone bill is.

 

[Poohnatic]

My ex was cheating on me. Just had a gut feeling, he was talking about a co worker quite a bit, seemed to know more about her than he should have...

My gut was working overtime on it, confronted him and he denied it. Came home one day when I was off work and immediately went to wash his face before coming near me...lost interest in sex (trust me, that was never a problem for him).

The day I was offered management positions at BOTH of my jobs I came home to find that his car wasn't there, but he was. It was then that he told me my suspicions were correct and he was moving in with her.

He waited until our salaries were identical to avoid paying alimony.

Glad he did it, my life is sooo much better without him. I've remarried and have the kids I always wanted.

No, I could not live with someone if they cheated.

Suzanne

 

[OK!]

I found out that my last boyfriend had been cheating on me when I discovered, ahem, incriminating photos on his digital camera. The sad thing was, I had no idea anything was going on & wasn't "snooping" or trying to spy on him; what I was doing was trying to find some pics he'd taken when he was with me at a charity event so I could submit them to the charity's webmaster for inclusion on their site. I'd thought it'd be a nice surprise for him to go to the site later and see his pictures there; guess that's what I get for being a nice girlfriend, eh?

What was amazing to me was that Boy Genius was moronic enough to leave the camera at my house in the first place.

 

[KM2004]

in reference to the original question, wives cheat too.

 

[DWhittles]

in reference to the original question, wives cheat too.

Good point.
Cheating spouses...husbands OR wives.

 

[leighe]

I found out (indirectly) from my students at school! The girl he was seeing was just a sophomore in college (we were just out of college ourselves so it's not quite as bad as it sounds) and was still friends with a lot of the kids at the high school. It upset one of the girls so badly (she was actually one of my cheerleaders) that she went to another teacher who was a friend of mine. My teacher friend told me. It was awful. We live in a small town and everyone in town knew about it - had known for much of the time aparently. Of course, after it became public knowledge that I knew everybody wanted to talk to me about it. People I didn't know would come up to me in the grocery to fill me in on these awful details. The girl was the sister of DH's boss (who is a really high profile guy around here) so it was pretty much just all out there for everybody's entertainment. It was definitely the most humiliating experience of my life!

 

[Charade]

she confessed to it.

 

[ckret01]

I had no idea until we broke up. The signs were there but I never realized it. He was always getting phone calls and said it was his brother so I believed him. He worked a second job on weekends , so when I would call him he never answered his cell phone and usually called me within the hour back and said he just couldn't get to it because he was to busy. If he got a page and I asked who it was he would just tell me a name but would NEVER let me see the number that paged him and he would delete it right away. Guess I was stupid for not seeing certain things but i really trusted him so I thought! It was after we broke up (we were togther for 7 yrs and engaged the last year). He brought me a ring, sort of proposed to me and told me he didn't want to set a date right away (and of course I thought nothing of that either however, come to find out months later it was a shut up ring)......so I ended the relationship and months down the line this girl I knew called me up out of the blue one day and told me he was cheating on me. She gave me dates and times and everything matched up. He was actually talking to this girl on his cell phone when we went on vacation.

 

[tiggersmom2]

First let me say that I am now married to "THE ONE", he is perfect in every way in my eyes. That being said, my first husband was the devil incarnate.....he would always put me down and tell me how "lacking" I was, when he wasn't beating me. One day he told me...." I hope someone loves you one day and you don't love them....then you will know how I feel" Well, it wasn't long after that I found out he was seeing a *13* year old girl!!!!!! He was obviously mentally ill and killed himself soon afterwards.......all I can say is Good for me....he wasn't worth the bread he ate.

 

[Shutterbug]

I caught her in the act with her roommate.

 

[sha_lyn]

Ex called me by the girls name by mistake after staying out all night and coming home wasted.

The next yr I was very serious with a friend of my then BIL. While I was visiting home for the holidays my sister saw his old GF's car in his driveway very early one am.

 

[disneyworld!]

my last BF...I woke up in the moring around 5 am...got in my truck and drove to this hotel I have never been to before....I have this esp..thing that goes on, and low and behold, his truck her van....lets just say the milkshake that was in my hand, wore nicely inside his truck!

Then I went home....that night I started seeing his friend!

 

[totalia]

The fact that he's an idiot lol.

Actually, I found out about the only time I have proof about from him. We were getting married in three months and he stupidly decided to tell me. Bad idea. I never forgave him (but very stupidly married him anyway). I have suspicions about other times but no actual proof.

When we were married, I kept finding girls phone numbers in his pockets, getting odd phone calls that would hang up when I answered (or worse, it would be a girl making some work excuse. The same girl 4 or 5 times a week? yeah right). I also caught him lying to me about who he was with, where and when he would be home.

I suspect he cheated many other times. The coincidences were just too odd.

 

[WebmasterMaryJo]

<font color=navy>My ex-MIL told me one day that her son didn't know what the word "commitment" meant, & that it was time that I filed for divorce. This was on top of other stuff. I wanted to make sure that I did what I could to make the marriage work before calling it quits, so I was really happy when she told me that.

 

[aeryn]

Mine ran off with my best friend at the time. She had been a bridesmaid at our wedding. I was upset for a while, then I realized I could do all those things I'd put off while we were married. I went back to school (still haven't finished yet), I got a job paying 2 1/2 times what I had made and embarked on what has been a great career. It's also given me the opportunity to travel and do other things he never would have done. I've been to Aruba, where I was scuba certified, I've been all over the states and I spend 16 days in Italy with some great friends.

All in all, I'm *much better off without

 

[dopeyone]

Thanks For All The Great Tips, I Need To Start Being More Careful!............
Only Kidding. Cheating Is For Losers, If You Need To Cheat You Should Get Out Of The Marriage.

 

[grinningghost]

As far as I know, my DH has never cheated on me, but if he did and I found out - that would be the end. There would be no forgive and forget. I could never trust him 100% again and that would make for a terrible marriage.

 

[Otto's Doll]

When I was 18 I was engaged to a guy in the Navy. (We had been together for 2.5 years.) I knew for sure he was cheating when he married someone else on my wedding day. He had called me like two weeks before and lied ~ told me he was being shipped out, so I postponed everything. 2 weeks later (my wedding day) he married someone else, I had to find out when his brother told my parents, who then told me. Devastated me then, but now, 18 years later, I am married to my soul mate, the man God intended for me, with 2 wonderful kids. I am a blessed woman!