Magpie
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Agreed. there is no problem with a smile and a wave, a smile and how you doin', or someone starting a conversation with "this weather, huh" There is a big difference when someone starts a conversation with, you better watch out. I've warned people about things and talked to people in the streets but my conversations usually start out with an excuse sir/mam.
Hm... someone approaches me with a "Excuse me, sir/ma'am," and my first thought is often, mmm... are they going to ask me for money or try to scam me? And do I happen to have any spare bus tickets I can give them?
It may be a cultural thing.

The other day, though, we did have a less than pleasant encounter. We'd noticed a couple who seemed to be in some distress, under the influence of something, perhaps, and clearly homeless (with back packs). When we passed them a second time, the gentleman was passed out on the bench and the woman was sitting nearby. She called to us, so we stopped to talk to her for a moment and let her pet our dog. We were just getting to the point where I was about to offer her some money, when the man on the bench staggered up to us, loudly, aggressively and incoherently complaining that, "NO ONE'S HELPING US!"
To which I said, "I'm sorry I can't help you," and we skedaddled out of there.
I felt bad for him. I wish I could have helped them, but I don't have the knowledge, resources or training to do so. And I knew that I really didn't want to get either myself or my daughter enmeshed in their problems.
But the one thing I didn't feel was that I'd just escaped a life or limb-threatening situation.
It was what it was, nothing more or less.
One thing that's struck me as notable about this thread, is the number of times people give examples of encounters where nothing bad happened, as proof that something bad could have happened. But logically, it doesn't work like that. If anything, the vast number of encounters we have with people that don't end in tears, should be proof that we have less to worry about, not more.
(Not suggesting we should blindly trust everyone we meet, of course!)