I pretty much feel the same way. I think the whole thing is ridiculous and not just for cruises. We are planning a WDW trip right before Christmas and every time I sit down to plan something, I get annoyed and quit. Having to figure out which park we are going to be in each day six months in advance (for dining reservations ) and plotting what rides we want to be on two months in advance is just crazy. We want to do some backstage tours, so we've got to plan that out and be on the phone at a certain time on a certain day or we might not get them ..... It never ends. We will be on a cruise when our fast pass booking window opens up. So instead of getting off early and exploring Portland, I will be sitting on our balcony cursing my cell phone reception and Disney's app trying to make fast pass reservations. My husband has already made plans to be far away from me and good for him !!!

There's no need for both of us to be miserable.
But I digress - this is the cruise board.

I just completely agree with your "feeding frenzy" assessment of the Disney product. They have built up this environment where everything must.be.done.now or your whole vacation is ruined. I'm pretty much over it. I'm sure we will have a blast at WDW, but as much as I love planning trips, I'm done treating vacation planning like it's a military operation.