Can you find cheap gifts for classmates in WDW?

[MooGooGai]

you are mean because you called her kids spoiled brats

Please post the quote where I called them spoiled brats

 

[MooGooGai]

Only that they think "things are stupid." Which is developmentally where they are and very typical.

Typical? I am sorry you feel this way. Fortunately, I know many tweens and teens that would look at the simplest gift and smile inside, knowing that a classmate thought of them

All of this “it is age appropriate” to scoff a gift stuff is parent taught. Just look at this thread We have parents saying their child will be depressed if they get a gift from Disney. That their wounds will open up. That their child will feel you are bragging by giving them a gift. That your gift is a burden.

None of this is typical. This is all taught by parents with issues. It is sad

 

[MooGooGai]

I really think you took one sentence in one post and turned it into her having vile, rude, spoiled, unfriendly kids. That was mean.

Again, please back this up with a quote from me. I simply said they were rude. They were.

You are grandstanding by using words like vile, spoiled and unfriendly



As I said before, her rules for gift giving only apply to others and not her.

Crisi buys gifts in bulk, yet it is a burden when others do the same. She says token gifts are stupid, yet she feels relief when she buys her nieces and nephews playdoh and other small token gifts.

Why is that?
How does that make me mean to point this out?

 

[mdsoccermom]

you are mean because you called her kids spoiled brats and have gone on and on about how rude they are, how they won't have friends.. She never said her kids were rude to anyone. You just decided that based on one sentence. She never explained exactly how her kids react when given a gift. Only that they think "things are stupid." Which is developmentally where they are and very typical. She never said they were rude when accepting gifts she never talked about any specific or non-specific behavior. "Anything" was an exaggeration. As much as I hate it, we use exaggeration a lot in this society "You never do this, you always do that" etc. Always, never, nothing, everything very rarely really apply (We have nothing to eat in the house, They think everything is stupid )I really think she meant it in a - you known tweens, they don't like anything-way. Having two myself I know exactly what she is talking about. I really think you took one sentence in one post and turned it into her having vile, rude, spoiled, unfriendly kids. That was mean.

My daughter is 11 and has the typical tween, moody behavior. However, NEVER has she ever called anything anyone has given her stupid. Yes, she has received things she didn't like, but she accepted them graciously and then just didn't use them when at home. But calling them stupid. No way. And let me tell you something, if either of my kids EVER refer to a gift, no matter how small, as stupid, it will be the last gift they ever get.

Yes, it is rude to to call a small gift as stupid, even behind the giver's back, and it's even ruder to condone that behavior.

 

[Michelle and crew]

My daughter is 11 and has the typical tween, moody behavior. However, NEVER has she ever called anything anyone has given her stupid. Yes, she has received things she didn't like, but she accepted them graciously and then just didn't use them when at home. But calling them stupid. No way. And let me tell you something, if either of my kids EVER refer to a gift, no matter how small, as stupid, it will be the last gift they ever get.

Yes, it is rude to to call a small gift as stupid, even behind the giver's back, and it's even ruder to condone that behavior.

I would agree. My boys are in middle and high school. They have had friends bring back stuff to share, and it would have occurred to them to be rude about it. Usually it comes home and gets put in a box of the small stuff that memories are made of.

I've never heard of people justifying ungracious behavior. It is really sad.

 

[vgrandy]

again, we don't know that the children have ever not accepted gifts graciously or have actually called a gift "stupid." I do believe the poster was referring to her child's "moody" behavior. I am not justifying any behavior because we simply do not know how her children act. Everyone is judging her because she said "anything they get is stupid" She never said they use those words. She never said they are rude or ungrateful. She was commenting on their general tween behavior/attitude. It is everyone else that is assigning these unknown kids attributes with no evidence that they exist. These kids have been vilified and made into rude, ungrateful children based on one sentence their mother wrote which did not include evidence of any actual behaviors or comments.

 

[MickeyMomOfThree]

My personal experience is that I too have a teen and a tween and they would love the little things. In fact my DD15 still says she (and her friends) misses Walmart how they used to give out the smiley face stickers. They would put them on her folders or tag each other with them on their bookbags at school.

 

[Scambone]

While I have never had class mates bring stuff back from vacation I think it would be cool if they did. Something simple as candy would be cool OR maybe even just a neat picture that a child took while on vacation. I know winkflash has photos sales all the time. If a student doesn't want to take home a picture, pencil or candy because that's how they were brought up they can just say 'no thank you'. As long as no one is a jerk about it (giving or getting) then I don't see a problem. I think the book idea was cool for a class room or maybe just a small collage that a teacher can put on a wall for the week for students to look at before or after school while they are waiting.

 

[acomasdiaz]

My daughter is 11 and has the typical tween, moody behavior. However, NEVER has she ever called anything anyone has given her stupid. Yes, she has received things she didn't like, but she accepted them graciously and then just didn't use them when at home. But calling them stupid. No way. And let me tell you something, if either of my kids EVER refer to a gift, no matter how small, as stupid, it will be the last gift they ever get.

Yes, it is rude to to call a small gift as stupid, even behind the giver's back, and it's even ruder to condone that behavior.

I couldn't agree more. It's simply good manners to accept any gift graciously.

 

[Michelle and crew]

I've never seen even a moody tween be so rude to a friend. A sib, perhaps, but not a friend.

 

[MooGooGai]

I've never seen even a moody tween be so rude to a friend. A sib, perhaps, but not a friend.

I am sure it is very confusing being raised in their atmosphere. Could you imagine how it would feel having this as your normal?

Please don't bring it back for the sake of my child. I have enough crap in my house.

Thanks for the thought, but don't expect thanks for the actual object - you are actually giving me and my kids a burden.

But they are not encouraged to tolerate fools gladly. We don't believe in that in our house.

A token is an insult to the idea of a gift

No, my kids call the gifts stupid.

Mine are now old enough that anything you bring back is "stupid."

But the "thought" I get from this is that you find me only worth a "token" gift. That you didn't bother to choose a gift for me that values me as a person.

yep. We've done the "accredited cultural" gifts. Don't like them though. Don't appreciate them.

 

[wbarkhur]

Ok I normally stay out of stuff like this but just had to say I have a sometimes hormonal 12 1/2 year old, and even when she was being moody if someone gave her a gift/trinket from their vacation she would not be rude about it. We have always taught our children to be thankful for everything they are given, and that sometimes an act of kindness/giving isn't about us, it is about the person giving it. If someone wants to give us something even if it is just a sticker or candy or even a dollar store pencil it is about the act of giving, and not always about the "thing" that was given. I have tried to teach my children not only to be giving, but also to be gracious in recieving. After all if we can not learn to accept a service from others they can not give it.

 

[M&N]

Ok I normally stay out of stuff like this but just had to say I have a sometimes hormonal 12 1/2 year old, and even when she was being moody if someone gave her a gift/trinket from their vacation she would not be rude about it. We have always taught our children to be thankful for everything they are given, and that sometimes an act of kindness/giving isn't about us, it is about the person giving it. If someone wants to give us something even if it is just a sticker or candy or even a dollar store pencil it is about the act of giving, and not always about the "thing" that was given. I have tried to teach my children not only to be giving, but also to be gracious in recieving. After all if we can not learn to accept a service from others they can not give it.

Wise post.

 

[Jacoby 46]

Seriously? Do people really raise their kids the way Crisi does or is she just pulling our leg? I can't even imagine letting my kids think this way! Wow!

 

[StitchandPooh'sMom]

My daughter is 11 and has the typical tween, moody behavior. However, NEVER has she ever called anything anyone has given her stupid. Yes, she has received things she didn't like, but she accepted them graciously and then just didn't use them when at home. But calling them stupid. No way. And let me tell you something, if either of my kids EVER refer to a gift, no matter how small, as stupid, it will be the last gift they ever get.

My DD11 has told me privately a few times that something was not exactly her style, but she appreciated her friend/grandmother/aunt/etc thinking of her. But I have never known her not to be gracious when accepting a gift or a compliment, and I hope she would never refer to something someone gave her as stupid.

 

[melancholywings]

I don't care if someone brings in token gifts for the class. Actually I can see a younger child being excited about doing that for their class.

However, I wouldn't like it if the teacher took class time for the student to tell about the vacation and show their scrapbook/photos etc. like someone mentioned.

Why not? Traveling is a learning experience - the last scrapbook (teacher requested) we made for the class we went on a cruise. And while we did go to the beach, and other typical cruisy stuff - we also visited an orphanage and school in Rhotan. Which is very much a third world country. We brought medicine, toys and school supplies for the children. Some of the school kids walked an hour on Saturday just to visit with us and eat the fried chicken we brought because it was considered a huge treat. It was a two room school house with rafters for a ceiling - two years earlier they had to have classes under a tree. It was such an experience, very humbling. We also included pictures of geological features that the teacher requested that fit with her lesson plan.
The year before on our WDW trip we made a scrap book that talked about how elephants communicate (thanks Animal Kingdom), trying new foods..and yes rollar coasters.

What bad can come from one child sharing what they've learned with others? I would hope it would inspire other kids to travel and see the world.

 

[Butta]

OP- if you want to purchase gifts for everyone in the class, feel free to do so. Just choose something small and actually from Disney.

To the posters that feel getting a sticker creates an obligation or the each gift opens a new wound, are you serious? When you go to the bank and the teller gives your child a sticker (or the horror- a lollipop), do you immediately drive across town to by the teller a gift? Or do you send it back and tell them "I can't be obligated to be polite and accept this"?

Some of you are being a little over dramatic.

 

[dvcnewgirl]

The last two years we took DD out of school for our trips. Our DD wanted to bring something home for her classmates. We looked at pencils, but we would've ended spending over $20 for the amount of pencils we needed. We then found and decided on chocolate coins with your Mickey and friends on the foil. It came in a little net bag and I think we might've spent $12 but no more than that and it was a hit with the kids at school! What kid doesn't like candy as a gift?

We did this too and it did not cost us anything since we had extra snack credits. We used them to buy the coins.

 

[brooklynheights]

Wow I didn't know my nephews giving the classmates something from Disney was a bad thing they have fun giving something and the kids must have been faking their excitement .And the teacher must have been upset at getting a gift they picked out ,oh and those little girls they did not know at Disney that they gave the girl stuff to that they got in the Mickey grab bags must have been upset to which reminds me girls if your mom and dads read this you owe them a gift back.I don't know what they plan to get this year will see.Thias thread has been so fuuny all over a kid giving classmtes a gift.

 

[kidshop]

I can't read all the pages, but has anyone asked why one would want to bring back gifts for the class? What is the purpose of giving a gift from your vacation to the class? Plus I have 3 kids.

Honestly it would never occur to me, but we don't buy much for ourselves (by choice). I'm not a present person and the thought of having to provide gifts for 20+(times 3) people for really no reason would be stressful and so not fun!