Can marriages survive Nursing School?

[Ilike2Lurk]

Well, considering that most nurses wear scrubs these days, I'm not sure it would have the intended effect. BTW, just so you know, your intended joke is offensive to most nurses.

It is only offensive if your are LOOKING to be offended

Offered was a suggestion to spice up a marriage. Why would that be offensive? So what if she goes to a costume shop and gets a "sexy nurse" outfit? So what if she "plays" naughty nurse?

I love how people LOOK to be offended What a strange world we live in.

I really don't think the "intended joke" is "offensive to most nurses". Just you.

 

[Judy from Boise]

I giggled and knew exactly what you meant, in the contexct of saving a marriage.I am sure you know that nurses are knowledagable professionals in all other contexcts....

 

[evilqueenfan]

Another "survivor" here. I went to nursing school full time while married with DS (5) and DD (4) plus held a full time job at the hospital as a CNA. Just remember to keep the end picture in your head and remind yourselves that this is temporary. It is really hard at times but hard times are what make the good times so much better. You CAN do this and have a stronger marriage in the end. Hang in there. My thoughts and good wishes are with you.

 

[taximomfor4]

OP here: just thought I would update quickly (have my community nursing final exam this evening, gotta CRAM). Dh and I pretty much had to have "the talk." He explained some of his misconceptions, and I was able to, hopefully, explain away! I also had a situation occur with a fellow nursing student after clinicals on Friday Night (several of us went to a coffee shop, for a group presentation rehearsal that we had saved till the last minute). This "situation" really put me in a spot, and I had to make a choice. I did so, and felt wonderful about it. My whole outlook, my whole level of appreciation for my dh has brightened.

DH's spring musical is done with rehearsals (4-5 evenings or days per week)...his first weekend of performances is done. I acknowledged, to myself and to him, how much I resented him volunteering for this THIS PARTICULAR YEAR. I felt that he was minimizing my workload and education needs. I don't think we see eye to eye on that: he was always an extremely active person, at the school....geez, I am rambling away, sorry!

Lets just say that once I had a choice to make, and made it, and came home to dh feeling relief to be with HIM (his hugs feel divine, comforting, and COMFORTABLE!), I know we have the strength to finish out this program. He did, however, make me swear that we will eek out a family vacation (budget, if necessary) after I graduate...he thinks we ALL need it badly.

Thank you for all your kind words, advice, and for just "listening."

Beth

 

[roseprincess]

I haven't read all the responses, but so glad to hear you and your DH are really trying to work things out with his and your work/ schooling schedules
Believe me, nursing school is very tough in itself, without a spouse or children. I went thru nursing school in the late '80s as a single young woman. The nursing school I went thru was extremely tough and very challenging. The nursing instructors were drill sargeants Tho the nursing school I graduated from was a very good one for a 2yr. ADN program.
I just remember about half the women in the nursing program at the time were moms with children looking to divorce their husbands,really! I hung out with some of these women and asked them why they were in the nurs. program? Some of them said they cannnot wait to divorce their husbands, that's why they entered this specific nurs. program, to get into nursing and start working, and then divorce their husbands Some of these women had small children and some had teenagers and older. The ones with the small children had their moms watch their kids all day, every day(while the mom was in the nursing school and studying.)

Best wishes to you and your DH and your children I do hope all works out well with you and your DH's relationship