Bringing a guest that is NOT a Disney Fan? WWYD?

[Miffy]

Hello forum members and all who chimed in. I appreciate the thoughts. As promised, we had a pretty good talk about many things (Disney and those issues being only a part of it, those other details aren't important here).

The ultimate decision is.... I will take my trip with my son, and DH is going to join, for part of the trip. DS is looking forward to showing my husband a few of the really fun things we think he would like. Together we will build an itinerary for 3 1/2 days to highlight some of those things, and include things we have not done before too.
I have some good confidence in my plans to use G+ and ILL to keep wait times reasonable (not zero, but reasonable). I'm going to splurge on a Deluxe resort for that time, in hopes that the downtime we spend at the resort is enjoyable for all.
Then after a few days, DH will return home. DS and I will move to our favorite Value resort, and spend two more days just goofing off together too.
I'm a little apprehensive, but also trying to embrace this chance to have some family time together and share some Disney fun. Thanks again for everyone's tips and ideas.

Thanks so much for posting your decision! I think your plan sounds wonderful and I look forward to hearing about the results.

 

[cabanafrau]

I hope your trip far exceeds any expectations each of you may have and everyone comes home with great memories.

 

[KathmanduKat]

I did this once. He's my ex-husband now.

 

[Robbie Cottam]

I did this once. He's my ex-husband now.

Funny, I almost left an ex wife at Disney
Happiest place on earth

 

[QueenIsabella]

OP, your compromise sounds reasonable (and fun!). I hope everyone has a decent time.

 

[luvnwdwgal]

Don’t forget the extra evening hours you’ll have with the deluxe resort. Have fun!

 

[Jsharp13]

I said I'd return to this post and give updates, in case it might help others in the future.

My DH remains neutral about the trip, but my son and I are excited, and I think as we get closer, the enthusiasm will build. I booked the hotel yesterday when the deals came out.

We decided to stay the whole time at Caribbean Beach. I opted against a split stay as I had previously been considering. DS and I arrive Sunday, DH arrives Wednesday, we all leave Saturday together. With DH, we'll hit HS (hoping for an after hours event that day), Epcot, and then AK with an evening in Disney Springs. We have some time Saturday before departure so still deciding how to fill that time!

Hoping this will be a good resort, with easy commute to Epcot and HS, for afternoon breaks. Plus, a big enough place for him to go back and relax at the pool, or get different things to eat other than just a massive cafeteria.
I think he might be going along to make us happy, but I feel with some planning, he's actually going to have a fun trip, fun rides, some good foods, and good laughs, so I think it'll be a success. I'll report back after our May trip!

 

[sheilafri]

OP, YOU are NOT responsible for his having a good time.

I echo others I’d have a conversation and set some boundaries.
No whining moaning if he wants to do that he doesn’t get to spoil your time

I agree, but I also know my own temperament and I put it on myself to be responsible for others’ happiness. That is my problem, not my husbands and not my children’s. It’s also why I like to go to WDW solo occasionally.