Bridzilla Disney Style?

[thedonduck]

I just turned 40...last week actually. She is 26 and my DD is 23. So she and I, decent age gap for sure, but we've been on many many trips together, drink together, laugh together. She did not participate in the group because we wanted to keep all the details surprises for her. I did have a convo with her before tho about definite do's and dont's. She knew about the spa and a few other things, but nothing kept from her that should have been cause for a ruined trip! At least we didn't think so anyway.

Weird thing..we stocked the Villa with a case of Veuve Clicquot and bottles of their favorite types of alcohol..mixers..etc. They drank NONE of it..and believe me..she is definitely a drinker!! The whole thing was just Twilight Zone weird!!

Is she pregnant?

 

[Brier Rose]

Is she pregnant?

Bahahahaha..don't even put that out in the Universe! lol
She def is not!! She drank plenty..just not with us..

 

[DeaverTex]

She honestly sounds like someone who wants attention, and wants it only on her own terms. You were making her the special guest, which was your idea. She wanted everyone to feel sorry for her instead. I've seen this behavior before (and too often, by looking in the mirror.)

I pity the groom. He's the one who will be taking her home when it's all over.

 

[Sabeking]

Did you ever find out what she was so bitter about to begin with?

She acted like a brat, you dropped the f bomb eventually...its a shame your brother couldn't be the voice of reason to put the train back on the tracks. It just seems like you all being disinvited may make things worse in the future. Sorry!

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

She is 26. I did like her before, and we've been on many Disney trips together. Unfortunately this type of behavior is not surprising for her, but the extreme level of it this go round is. She is very demanding with my brother, and he is aware of it, not happy about it, but has decided he loves her enough to put up with it. Good luck to him! It was actually he who doesn't want us at the wedding because he's afraid of conflict and doesn't want their special day ruined. As much as it hurts, I can respect that. If he truly chooses to be with her and make a life with her I would be disappointed in him if he DIDN'T put HER first. I'm his sister, but she will be his wife, and should come first IMO.

When we got into it was actually on our last evening. She had texted to tell me they wouldn't be meeting us for dinner...AFTER I had changed our reservation from Via Napoli to Le Cellier because she said she'd rather eat fries there than ANYTHING from Via Napoli. We've eaten there plenty of times too!! Lol I went off on her..sent her a pretty angry text complete with a **** yall.

not my finest moment to be sure, and she sent a copy of the text straight to my mother. I am hurt..so very hurt, but more than that I'm just sad. I wanted so much for all of us to have a good time together. I wanted to give her a bachelorette party to be proud of. I'm sad for my DD..she wore bride ears and got bridesmaid ears for the other two girls completely excluding DD who was supposed to be her MOH!! It was just beyond weird!

If mother dear chooses the bride over you, that would be sad.

She deserved the <edited> after her antics and no I wouldn't be apologizing.

Even if this was everything she did not have in mind, she could have sucked it up. I would just say good riddance to bad rubbish and be done with it.

$10 says that there is a scene at the reception. Karma always comes and bites you in the butt.

 

[Casemily]

Ok, this is the Dis, and I know how lots here love a good &#147;2 sides to every story&#148; smack down, so let me just say from the get-go this is MY personal experience. I&#146;m just feeling pretty down, and need a vent session..no validation..no I&#146;m so right and she&#146;s so wrong..it is what it is. On that note, l just returned home last night from the absolute hands down worst Bachelorette trip, or ANY trip for that matter that I have ever experienced in my life!! The Bride is my brother&#146;s fiancée, the maid of honor is..was..my daughter, so we took on all the planning. We all love Disney, so the Bride wanted Food and Wine Festival, great right?? We starting planning&#133;months and months and MONTHS of planning. I formed a Facebook Group so that I could ask everyone involved in every step of the planning what they wanted to do and when. I never assumed one single activity..everything was put to a vote. I booked a 2-Bedroom Villa at the Grand Floridian Villas for 3 nights with 2 day park hoppers for everyone. The girls are young, so I thought I&#146;d be nice and just let them pay $500 each for the trip. That didn&#146;t even cover HALF of the room, but that&#146;s fine! We picked a theme&#133;Alice in Wonderland. We had all the girls pick a character, but didn&#146;t tell them why. We had mini top hats custom made to match each character..they were BEAUTIFUL!! The Bride was Alice, and as a gift my daughter and I also had a beautiful Alice in Wonderland corset custom made for her in Milan Italy. We made very detailed and elaborate themed &#145;hangover&#148; kit boxes for the girls, a sash for the Bride, and spend crazy amounts of time even making an Alice in Wonderland themed Epcot drinking game that we had cards designed and printed for. I picked up allll the Brides expenses from her food to her spa treatments, every single thing. Not ONE offer from anyone else to help. There were two girls who couldn&#146;t afford the spa, so I even paid for pedicures for them both because I didn&#146;t want them to feel left out. I booked limos for transportation, ordered them room service for meals, and even bought them all tickets to them Villains Sinister Soiree at $100 each. From Day One&#133;5 hours into the trip..the Bride was &#147;disappointed&#148;. She did NOT want to eat at La Hacienda for dinner..which I had NO idea of. We&#146;ve eaten there plenty of times before!! I got tables by the water so we had a PERFECT view of Illuminations and she wouldn&#146;t even look out the window because she &#147;hated everything about being there&#148;. The other 2 girls were basically just mirror images of her. Well, except the one that got made because she was under the impression that she would have her OWN ROOM at the Villa. Lol The plan was to go to Jelly Rolls after, so we did. She and the other 2 girls sat in the corner and literally pouted all night&#133;I am not kidding. Total strangers asked us what was wrong with the Bride. I had NO clue at this point. I called my brother to ask if I had done something to upset her..that&#146;s when I found out about the restaurant issue. We got back to the villa she and the other girls went in one room, closed the door, and didn&#146;t speak to any of the rest of us at all. Next day..complaints about getting up for the Spa, and she was mad I didn&#146;t tell her to pack a bathing suit. I had a hair and make-up team come to do &#147;glam makeup&#148; in the Villa before MNSSHP as a special treat. I even skipped the massage I had planned for myself so they could start on me while she took a shower..she was mad because she felt &#147;rushed&#148;. They left before us for the party and we didn&#146;t see them again until the Villains Party. They sat there..didn&#146;t say one word to us..didn&#146;t look around..didn&#146;t crack a smile..hated all the desserts, and the Bride got pissed when Dr. Faciler tried to play around with her. We left without speaking..came in..they went in one room and closed the door again. I didn&#146;t speak to them again until the Bride texted me while at Epcot to meet up with her to give her a wristband for her food and drinks. They wouldn&#146;t even meet us for dinner. Come to find out..she DID NOT want to play any sort of game while in Epcot..wouldn&#146;t look at it..wasn&#146;t interested in it..and avoided us at all costs to keep from having to &#147;talk about it&#148;. I had already told her the day before that we didn&#146;t have to do anything at all!! There are so many more little things&#133;but this is long. I know some of you are not going to believe she and the others acted like this for no reason, but they did. I tried so hard to just keep a smile on my face and let all of the comments and digs roll off my back. We finally got into it last night before coming home..now my daughter is no longer maid of honor&#133;like she ever should have been anyway..and I am no longer invited to my brothers wedding. I&#146;m in shock.

Hugs to you for her behavior and lack of manners.

My only thought is maybe she wanted someone else for her MoH but felt "forced" into asking your daughter because she was family? She sounds petty enough to see it from that point of view.

I would have loved your party! And who doesn't bring a swimsuit to Florida?!

 

[Brier Rose]

My DD has been her ONLY friend for quite a while. The other two bridesmaids are one girl from high school that she was friends with years ago, and one girl from college that she got back in touch with because she needed more bridesmaids. Sounds harsh I know, but it's true. When DD comes home from College, the bride to be usually comes here and stays with us once a month or so. I'm starting to think she doesn't really like anybody!!

 

[Vernie822]

Sweet Jesus, no offense but 26 and she has driven away literally all but only a few friends? I see this as a reflection of who she is, definitely not you (or your fantastic party planning skills... Lol) My thoughts are, I was there (somewhat) with my cousin in May. after seeing the way she treated her friends, I brought it up and she really opened up to me about it. She told me how hard it had been on her - planning a wedding, working full time, etc. I would NEVER treat my friends the way she did hers- but I accepted that everyone handles stressful times differently. She ended up actually going to see a therapist to discuss her anxiety and the way she was feeling. This has helped her tremendously, although half of her bridal party wasn't really speaking to her on her wedding day (and I don't think they have recovered fully). Maybe she will realize the way she has treated you, and she will issue both you and your daughter an apology?

 

[kerrynic78]

She sent your text straight to your mom?!?! Who does that??

 

[Brier Rose]

Y'all really want a laugh??? Check out this thread...

http://disboards.com/showthread.php?p=48470964#post48470964
Page 230 post 3440 is probably a good synopsis of when I planned my brother's proposal for him at Boardwalk Inn last year...

 

[aaarcher86]

Honestly, I'd probably tell my brother to bugger off too.

Sounds like I'd be enjoying holidays at my own home, with my own family unit. Cut that crazy out early. $10 her new found friends aren't anything she's hoping they will be and she tries to retreat back to your daughter... Who I hope tells her off.

I like that ring though!

 

[JanaDee]

Don't you DARE apologize to that witch or your spineless brother.

Screw the bride, send an itemized bill to your brother with a " DUE UPON RECEIPT" written in big red letters.

 

[olwyngdh]

Absolutely inexcusable behavior. I hope you are able to maintain a good enough relationship with your brother that you will beable to help him pick up the pieces when she divorces him.

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

Y'all really want a laugh??? Check out this thread...

http://disboards.com/showthread.php?p=48470964#post48470964
Page 230 post 3440 is probably a good synopsis of when I planned my brother's proposal for him at Boardwalk Inn last year...

Whoa!

Maybe she expected you to arrange Victoria and Albert's by room service.


Wow! To be a fly on the wall when she is witching and moaning about how evil you were. I hate not knowing why someone is ticked. I cannot imagine for the life of me what it could be.

You were so thoughtful for everything you did. I would save all your energies for your daughter one day.

 

[mom to minnie&mickey]

She sent your text straight to your mom?!?! Who does that??

Someone who is intent on causing a rift in the family and thereby keeping her future dh all to herself. He will be easier to control if there is no influence from his family. You and your dd were only the first. As time goes by she will find fault with other family members as well until your brother has severed ties with all his family. If he insists on marrying her he seriously needs to grow a backbone first!

With the loss of your dd she is now without any real friends. That is not for no reason.

 

[NewRVLady]

Wow....what an ungrateful CHILD

You tried to make a great vacation and those 3 sound very immature

But to UNINVITE you and fire your DD as MOH is unbelievable

Your brother needs to run for the hills

 

[Turn the Page]

She sent your text straight to your mom?!?! Who does that??

I will admit I have done something similar. When DFi's mom was going off the rails crazy on me I forwarded the texts to him so he could see exactly what his mother said to me so she couldn't try and backtrack later.

OP, I have no words for that kind of behavior. I have a very low tolerance for behavior like that and I wouldn't blame you a bit if you refused to associate with her. I can understand how she may be thinking that this will be her only bachelorette party and wedding (though from what you describe it seems the likelihood of that is pretty small) and she wants everything to be just so but if she is going to be like that then she needs to plan everything herself. And even so, that kind of behavior is absolutely inexcusable.

 

[Jennasis]

I was just thinking...my sister and I have had a rocky relationship over the years. Some BIG fights. However, if we had even the biggest blow out and she "disinvited" me from her wedding our mother would probably have chewed her head off and then stuck it on a pike Game-of-Thrones style on the front lawn as a warning to all other bridezillas (and family members LOL!).

 

[robinb]

O-M-G. You have gone above and beyond for this girl and she treats you like THAT?

I wonder how long it will take her to realize the DVC gravy train has left the station.

 

[aacvacation]

What a bunch of crazy nonsense! She sounds like a total brat! I'd wish your brother luck but he sounds like he knows about and is pretty forgiving of her ridiculous behaviors.

Also-- where do I sign up to get you to plan my bachelorette party, ha!