Boys in the Women's Bathroom

[Donald Duck888]

I agree on the companion bathroom that is the first choice. Also the ener area is a good thought as I have been to disney many times and there does seem to be that little area right as you go to enter.

 

[wallawallakids]

Not at 10 no. But at 6? I will before I will leave her standing around alone outside the bathroom.

I agree. In a pinch, if there is no other option. Yep.

 

[Nancyg56]

I guess i could have her wear a blindfold.

LOL! Years ago, when my niece was little and training, she considered it an honor to take her to the bathroom . Anyway, we were in the nosebleed seats at the Civic Center when she had to use the bathroom and wanted my DH to take her. Holy Smokes! 500 stairs! Well it seemed like he was gone forever. He said he had to stake out the men's room to wait until the coast was totally clear before he would bring her in and that this was the absolute last time we were going to get him to do that again. Now I know that in a pinch he would but boy, that was stressful for him

I haven't read any of the replies in this thread...haven't read any replies to this question in YEARS. Here's the right answer to your question: He's your kid. He's your responsiblity. Nobody...nobody can answer this question for you. If you aren't comfortable having him go in the men's room alone, take him in with you. You do not need to worry about anyone else...let them solve their own problems and deal with their own issues. Do what is best for your child. End of story!

Really? Let's turn this around and ask you how you would feel if the women in those bathroom lost their inhibitions around your precious boy? People rely on the discretion of everyone else that they are intruding upon so that they can indulge their own issues. Try going to the beach and dragging your ten YO boy in those big bathhouses. There are women there who figure if you take your boy in he can deal with the fact that htis is teh ladies room and not the men's.

 

[Moodyzblu]

Really? Let's turn this around and ask you how you would feel if the women in those bathroom lost their inhibitions around your precious boy? People rely on the discretion of everyone else that they are intruding upon so that they can indulge their own issues. Try going to the beach and dragging your ten YO boy in those big bathhouses. There are women there who figure if you take your boy in he can deal with the fact that htis is teh ladies room and not the men's.

Actually, one time at Animal Kingdom, over by the Kali river bathroom, there was a woman standing there in her bra and panties frantically trying to dry her soaked clothes. Guess she didn't read the warning signs about getting SOAKED on the ride.Anyway, my boys took it in stride (btw, I wouldn't even want my daughters seeing such a spectacle) but it is what it is and as far as I know .. they don't even remember the incident. All I know is that my PRECIOUS boys are safe and sound and will remain so if I have my say, which I do.

 

[delilah]

My son is 15 now, so it has been years since I worried about this, but, generally, at WDW, I was able to find the companion type restrooms to use. I routinely have brought him to WDW alone since he was about 3. When he was young enough to be in a stroller, I brought him into the ladies room with me. When he was old enough to use a stall by himself, we changed to the companion restrooms. When he was about 10 or so, I let him go into the men's room alone, and waited outside. Now, he just goes off on his own and does whatever he wants while we are at WDW. Actually, at this very moment, he is in Spain with a group from his school. In a women's restroom, generally, there are enclosed stalls, so, a young boy isn't necessarily exposed to inappropriate scenes (whatever that might be). I understand that people have different preferences in terms of privacy, and I try to respect that, but it really doesn't bother me if a young boy is in the ladies room. Now, looking through the cracks in the door and giggling, that's a different matter....But, I have known little girls to do that, too, and wouldn't like that, either.

 

[Kellykins1218]

All I know is that my PRECIOUS boys are safe and sound and will remain so if I have my say, which I do.

Good for you!

 

[Glennie5]

Actually, one time at Animal Kingdom, over by the Kali river bathroom, there was a woman standing there in her bra and panties frantically trying to dry her soaked clothes. Guess she didn't read the warning signs about getting SOAKED on the ride.Anyway, my boys took it in stride (btw, I wouldn't even want my daughters seeing such a spectacle) but it is what it is and as far as I know .. they don't even remember the incident. All I know is that my PRECIOUS boys are safe and sound and will remain so if I have my say, which I do.

Yes you do have a say.

 

[kevschickee]

Yes you do have a say but lets hope your precious boys aren't embarrassed if they are called out by girls who don't appreciate having to share the restroom with BOYS who are their age.

 

[jennylyn_b]

Ok now I would like to turn this subject on its head. What are peoples opinions of say a 6 yr old girl coming in to the mens room?

I am taking my 6yr old daughter to disney solo this may and have been giving this much thought. First choice would be to use "family/companion restrooms but short of that there are only 2 options.

I would have reservations about sending her into the ladies room alone but would possibly in a pinch go that route provided one exit and i would still be a bit nervous. But what of when I have to go? I really do not want to leave her standing around alone outside the bathroom that really makes me nervous. In that case I have no choice (if option 1 is not viable) then to take her into mens room with me.

Look for a woman going in with kids and ask her to keep an eye on your dd. I wouldn't mind helping you out and I'm sure a lot of women would understand your predicament. Just an idea.

 

[samacita]

. It is statistically more likely that they will be killed in a car accient, but we let them ride is cars. It is also more likely they will be killed or severly injured at school, playing sports, visitng a park, ect /QUOTE]

I'm not sure where you are getting your data, but these statistical comparisons are not accurate.

 

[samacita]

I haven't read any of the replies in this thread...haven't read any replies to this question in YEARS. Here's the right answer to your question: He's your kid. He's your responsiblity. Nobody...nobody can answer this question for you. If you aren't comfortable having him go in the men's room alone, take him in with you. You do not need to worry about anyone else...let them solve their own problems and deal with their own issues. Do what is best for your child. End of story!

Wise advice!!!

 

[maxiesmom]

Wise advice!!!

Not really. An attitude of I'll do what I want, the heck with you doesn't help anything. It is pretty sad that so many people refuse to think of others and their needs, and find some sort of middle ground, instead of just digging in their heals.

 

[Kellykins1218]

Wise advice!!!

ITA

 

[Gracie09]

Not really. An attitude of I'll do what I want, the heck with you doesn't help anything. It is pretty sad that so many people refuse to think of others and their needs, and find some sort of middle ground, instead of just digging in their heals.

Exactly. I just hope my poor foster daughter doesn't run into any of these older boys/tweens in the bathroom. The results will not be pretty for anyone and will ruin what should be her happy time at the most magical place on earth. But the trauma that can be caused to a little girl who has been victimized her most of her young life is secondary to your precious snowflake not leaving your side. But really unless he is in the stall with you how is he any safer. Someone could do something while your locked in the stall with you pants around your ankles and there is nothing you can do about it.

I wonder what these boys do at school. I mean pedophiles could get a job in the school to be around kids. Do you hang around the school waiting to take them?

I'm all for teaching kids to be safe but teaching them to scream, shout and fight back, especially in a place like disney where the bathrooms are well traveled by fathers who would probably beat a suspected pedophile before security could get there.

 

[Mkrop]

Exactly. I just hope my poor foster daughter doesn't run into any of these older boys/tweens in the bathroom. The results will not be pretty for anyone and will ruin what should be her happy time at the most magical place on earth. But the trauma that can be caused to a little girl who has been victimized her most of her young life is secondary to your precious snowflake not leaving your side. But really unless he is in the stall with you how is he any safer. Someone could do something while your locked in the stall with you pants around your ankles and there is nothing you can do about it.

I wonder what these boys do at school. I mean pedophiles could get a job in the school to be around kids. Do you hang around the school waiting to take them?

I'm all for teaching kids to be safe but teaching them to scream, shout and fight back, especially in a place like disney where the bathrooms are well traveled by fathers who would probably beat a suspected pedophile before security could get there.

I feel so bad for your foster DD but I also think you need to be aware that if there is not a companion bathroom available that a mom could be in the woman's room with a disabled tween, teen or man for that matter, and yes they may bring them in the stall but they do need to get the person from point A to point B. And the mom may have no other choice if another male is not traveling with them or available at the time. If she gets that traumatized you may want to prepare yourself and her.

I have seen these males in the restroom and it is hard on the parents, but what are they suppose to do??? There was a post on the other thread about the Cape May Cafe, older woman brought in her disabled son who appeared to be in his 30s. She apologized but had no choice, took him right in the stall, had him wash his hands and then leave. And she got grief from two ladies in there. I have eaten and stayed at the Beach Club and as far as I am aware there is no companion bathroom but maybe I am just not aware of one, nor was she apparantly.

 

[kevschickee]

Exactly. I just hope my poor foster daughter doesn't run into any of these older boys/tweens in the bathroom. The results will not be pretty for anyone and will ruin what should be her happy time at the most magical place on earth. But the trauma that can be caused to a little girl who has been victimized her most of her young life is secondary to your precious snowflake not leaving your side. But really unless he is in the stall with you how is he any safer. Someone could do something while your locked in the stall with you pants around your ankles and there is nothing you can do about it.

I wonder what these boys do at school. I mean pedophiles could get a job in the school to be around kids. Do you hang around the school waiting to take them?

I'm all for teaching kids to be safe but teaching them to scream, shout and fight back, especially in a place like disney where the bathrooms are well traveled by fathers who would probably beat a suspected pedophile before security could get there.

I agree

 

[Nancyg56]

I feel so bad for your foster DD but I also think you need to be aware that if there is not a companion bathroom available that a mom could be in the woman's room with a disabled tween, teen or man for that matter, and yes they may bring them in the stall but they do need to get the person from point A to point B. And the mom may have no other choice if another male is not traveling with them or available at the time. If she gets that traumatized you may want to prepare yourself and her.

I have seen these males in the restroom and it is hard on the parents, but what are they suppose to do??? There was a post on the other thread about the Cape May Cafe, older woman brought in her disabled son who appeared to be in his 30s. She apologized but had no choice, took him right in the stall, had him wash his hands and then leave. And she got grief from two ladies in there. I have eaten and stayed at the Beach Club and as far as I am aware there is no companion bathroom but maybe I am just not aware of one, nor was she apparantly.

I believe that there is a vast difference between a woman who is caring for an adult male or a tween male and needs to help him use the restroom, and a Mom who has some twisted need to have a 10 or 12 YO boy within earshot and eyesight at all times. I would be that woman guarding the door for the couple in this example.

My issue is that there are women who feel that their feelings trump those of anyone else. I saw that response abut a woman who was drying clothing in the bathroom and the boy who thought nothing of it. Well, how nice for the kid. How about the woman whose expectation of entering the ladies room and encountering little ones and women was shattered? As an adult woman I feel that the ladies room is for women. If I take my DGD into that room to handle any personal care issues she may have, I do not want her to be embarrassed because a 12 YO boy was dragged in there with his Mom. It is my opinion that the folks who are breaking the expectations are the folks who need to make the accommodations.

 

[Gracie09]

I feel so bad for your foster DD but I also think you need to be aware that if there is not a companion bathroom available that a mom could be in the woman's room with a disabled tween, teen or man for that matter, and yes they may bring them in the stall but they do need to get the person from point A to point B. And the mom may have no other choice if another male is not traveling with them or available at the time. If she gets that traumatized you may want to prepare yourself and her.

I have seen these males in the restroom and it is hard on the parents, but what are they suppose to do??? There was a post on the other thread about the Cape May Cafe, older woman brought in her disabled son who appeared to be in his 30s. She apologized but had no choice, took him right in the stall, had him wash his hands and then leave. And she got grief from two ladies in there. I have eaten and stayed at the Beach Club and as far as I am aware there is no companion bathroom but maybe I am just not aware of one, nor was she apparantly.

Disney has companion bathrooms for this purpose. They should use them. There are several in each park the location of which is on the guide map for people with disabilies. The cape may situationis not common but I would probably as her if she could wait a few minutes as my daughter has a problem with adult males in the women's room. If she was already in the stall I would keep her there until he left and hope she didn't see him. Although if she did I would know. We have a year until our trip and hopefully with continued therapy she can get to the point that it won't ruin her trip but its hard to undo 4 1/2 years of abuse.

 

[Mkrop]

I believe that there is a vast difference between a woman who is caring for an adult male or a tween male and needs to help him use the restroom, and a Mom who has some twisted need to have a 10 or 12 YO boy within earshot and eyesight at all times. I would be that woman guarding the door for the couple in this example.

My issue is that there are women who feel that their feelings trump those of anyone else. I saw that response abut a woman who was drying clothing in the bathroom and the boy who thought nothing of it. Well, how nice for the kid. How about the woman whose expectation of entering the ladies room and encountering little ones and women was shattered? As an adult woman I feel that the ladies room is for women. If I take my DGD into that room to handle any personal care issues she may have, I do not want her to be embarrassed because a 12 YO boy was dragged in there with his Mom. It is my opinion that the folks who are breaking the expectations are the folks who need to make the accommodations.

I UNDERSTAND that, my post was directly to Gracie09 bc it appears her DD has issues with ANY male in the bathroom, even if there is a really good reason for it. I wanted her and her DD to be forewarned.

Disney has companion bathrooms for this purpose. They should use them. There are several in each park the location of which is on the guide map for people with disabilies. The cape may situationis not common but I would probably as her if she could wait a few minutes as my daughter has a problem with adult males in the women's room. If she was already in the stall I would keep her there until he left and hope she didn't see him. Although if she did I would know. We have a year until our trip and hopefully with continued therapy she can get to the point that it won't ruin her trip but its hard to undo 4 1/2 years of abuse.

And I hope they would utilize them as well whenever available BUT that is not always feasible. And the warning for you DD may not be enough, they may just be in there or come in as you are washing hands etc, it was just a warning to you all, I am sure you DDs issues are a tough one to deal with. I am glad you are able to provide her with a safe home, take her to these therapies and provide her with this nice trip. I hope you have a magical time.

 

[Nancyg56]

Disney has companion bathrooms for this purpose. They should use them. There are several in each park the location of which is on the guide map for people with disabilies. The cape may situationis not common but I would probably as her if she could wait a few minutes as my daughter has a problem with adult males in the women's room. If she was already in the stall I would keep her there until he left and hope she didn't see him. Although if she did I would know. We have a year until our trip and hopefully with continued therapy she can get to the point that it won't ruin her trip but its hard to undo 4 1/2 years of abuse.

I hope that your DD is healed soon. I agree that the situation above is extenuating and that there are ways for people to manage this. I do not think that it is okay to routinely expect that everyone accommodate those people who insist that their tween sons are too young to use a men's room, therefore everyone else must agree. Those people can continue to take their boys in the bathroom with them, but they should be using companion bathrooms.

When I see these threads I wonder what on Earth goes on in school? Does the teacher accompany the boy into the bathroom? How about field trips? Does the Mom insist that Johnny has a parent enter the men's room too? I am not discussing 6 YO kids, but once the boys are 9 or 10, what then?