Boys in the Women's Bathroom

[Moodyzblu]

So, do they go in the stall with you? BTW, Disney does not have family restrooms, only companion ones, and there is no privacy in there, just a single toilet and sink. What do they do when you use the toilet?

No, they get their own stalls .. and when we are in a family/companion one .. I make them turn around when its my turn .. trust me .. they are more than happy to turn around as not to see me !

 

[maxiesmom]

No, they get their own stalls .. and when we are in a family/companion one .. I make them turn around when its my turn .. trust me .. they are more than happy to turn around as not to see me !

Question: Do you make them stay in the stall until you are done as well? I hope so. Otherwise please show some concern with what other people are comfortable with, and take them in the stall with you or leave them outside. If they are so old you don't want them with you, people don't want them unattended in the restroom either.

Everyone should be able to be comfortable.

 

[kevschickee]

Question: Do you make them stay in the stall until you are done as well? I hope so. Otherwise please show some concern with what other people are comfortable with, and take them in the stall with you or leave them outside. If they are so old you don't want them with you, people don't want them unattended in the restroom either.

I agree. My girls would not be comfy with boys right outside their door. They should be allowed to feel they have privacy.

 

[Moodyzblu]

Question: Do you make them stay in the stall until you are done as well? I hope so. Otherwise please show some concern with what other people are comfortable with, and take them in the stall with you or leave them outside. If they are so old you don't want them with you, people don't want them unattended in the restroom either.

Everyone should be able to be comfortable.

No, I wait outside the stall while they go .. and when I go .. they wait outside my stall. They aren't about to go peeping. Trust me they want to get out of there ASAP without incident !

 

[Lisa71]

If doors are closed and boys behave it is not an issue. Our DS would love to go alone but cannot take down his pants and go without help and sometimes needs a pull-up change which requires an adult. He always stays with me...but people need to be more aware there is not an end age to everything. Not every area has companion or family bathrooms. What if he was a special needs teen?? Only certain bathrooms ??? Our DD likes to go alone and I wait outside her stall. Bathrooms are not private places if you are out. Teach your kids manners and respect and then take a deep breath.

 

[maxiesmom]

If doors are closed and boys behave it is not an issue. Our DS would love to go alone but cannot take down his pants and go without help and sometimes needs a pull-up change which requires an adult. He always stays with me...but people need to be more aware there is not an end age to everything. Not every area has companion or family bathrooms. What if he was a special needs teen?? Only certain bathrooms ??? Our DD likes to go alone and I wait outside her stall. Bathrooms are not private places if you are out. Teach your kids manners and respect and then take a deep breath.

Bathrooms are labeled for specific genders, so some expectation of privacy from the opposite sex is expected.

I have no problem with a mom bringing her son into the womens restroom. However if that son is so old that mom is uncomfortable with him being in the stall with her, then he shouldn't be in the womens restroom. You can't say I will do what makes me comfortable on one hand, and say to heck with everyone else and what they are comfortable with on the other. At least you shouldn't, and expect others to understand and be ok with it.

 

[Gracie09]

My five year old foster daughter was repeatedly molested in a bathroom by an older male relative. She is doing well thanks to massive amounts of therapy but she will freak out if she see's a male bigger than her in the bathroom. (She says she can beat up the ones smaller than her.) My husband uses a completely separate bathroom from her. He will never enter the bathroom with her unless she has a life threatening emergency and he was the only one there. So if she goes into her appropriate sex bathroom she shouldn't have to deal with panic attacks that will set her therapy back not to mention ruin the rest of her trip because she will not want to go in any bathroom again, because your tween can't possibly go to the bathroom alone. And going in to scope out the bathroom before hand doesn't help because they could come out of the stall or in the bathroom while she is in the stall.

So yeah your son standing there waiting can cause a problem. If they are trusted to go to the bathroom alone at school, they should be able to handle it alone in Disney. The bathrooms are well traveled by fathers like my husband who would not only ask a child if he was ok but would get help from security if he thought anything was kind of wrong. Its not about expecting total privacy in a public restroom its expecting the women's room to be the women's room not the unisex because mom doesn't think her big boy is older enough to go on his own bathroom.

 

[Mama Who]

I can't remember at what age I started sending my son alone but I'm sorry no matter what his age, if I feel it would be unsafe to let him go alone or for him to wait outside alone while I go then I'm taking him. My child's safety is way more important the. Someone feeling uncomfortable.

Which is fine as long as *you* are also willing to be uncomfortable by having him in your stall infringing on *your* privacy. Where many of us have an issue is the "I don't care WHO I make uncomfortable as long as it's not me..." attitude that leads to tween boys hanging about in the ladies room unsupervised.

 

[Lisa71]

My son can always come in with me and to expect a disabled child to always have a male care giver is not realistic. He behaves and never peeks even at me. There are doors in bathrooms for a reason and they should be closed.

 

[Lisa71]

My son is not intruding on anyone if he is in the stall with me and he cannot go alone at school either. He is 6....and I do not expect anyone to allow lurking 13 year olds in bathrooms. In the stall with you is another matter.

 

[maxiesmom]

My son can always come in with me and to expect a disabled child to always have a male care giver is not realistic. He behaves and never peeks even at me. There are doors in bathrooms for a reason and they should be closed.

I have not seen anyone post that a disable male child should always have a male caregiver. However if they are so old that you are uncomfortable with them in the stall with you, then they are most likely making other uncomfortable by being in the restroom. If they are too old to be in the stall with mom then a companion restroom is the solution.

I have yet to be in a restroom at WDW that doesn't have cracks between the doors and the walls. Those things are not solid at all!

As I said before, everyone has the right to be comfortable in their own gender restroom.

 

[Lisa71]

And as I said he is always in the stall with me and 6. We all have to use the bathroom. I do not think cracks in a wall or door make it so I cannot have my 6 year old with me. We go to target and places with family bathrooms when we can.. But we cannot always do that. It is reality. Not trying to be rude but what are the options?

 

[kevschickee]

Even in a public bathroom we have a right to privacy. That's why there are rules and laws about cameras in them. A six year old in the stall is one thing but a six year old waiting for mom out of the stall is another. I would never.be ok with my 5 and 7 year old daughters going into the mens room. They both go together in the womens room. I agree if they are too old to be in the stall with you they are too old to be there.

 

[Lisa71]

Even in a public bathroom we have a right to privacy. That's why there are rules and laws about cameras in them. A six year old in the stall is one thing but a six year old waiting for mom out of the stall is another. I would never.be ok with my 5 and 7 year old daughters going into the mens room. They both go together in the womens room. I agree if they are too old to be in the stall with you they are too old to be there.

My son is in the stall but a nine year old waiting for his mom does not threaten me and is in no way like having a camera in there. I am fine with PP whose older kids wait. My DD does not go in alone and I wait for her . At some point if DS is able I will do let him go alone but not at 6 anyway I have had rude peeking adults and respectful kids. My point was to be realistic about the level of privacy in a public restroom. I have had kids screaming for their Mom who let them to alone too...so that is not a simple answer.

 

[kevschickee]

That's the whole point a 9 year old waiting would bother a lot of people and would be an invasion of privacy.

 

[Mkrop]

That's the whole point a 9 year old waiting would bother a lot of people and would be an invasion of privacy.

Not in WDW where they stated the age was 10.


I mean really what is mom to do, she has several kids, she is by herself, is she somehow suppose to take ALL the kiddos into the stall And heaven forbid she uses the bigger handicapp stall, she will get grief from certain people for that.

I am all for taking them into the stall if that is feasible but some of you have to realize that idea is not always going to work.

 

[CarolineB]

I prefer if my DS9 comes with me to the ladies' room if there isn't a family / companion bathroom available whether it's Disney World or not. He has ADHD / Aspergers and isn't very mature. He doesn't seem to understand the concept of stranger danger and how to protect himself.

 

[Lisa71]

Not in WDW where they stated the age was 10.

I mean really what is mom to do, she has several kids, she is by herself, is she somehow suppose to take ALL the kiddos into the stall And heaven forbid she uses the bigger handicapp stall, she will get grief from certain people for that.

I am all for taking them into the stall if that is feasible but some of you have to realize that idea is not always going to work.

That is my point and I see no invasion of privacy if your door is closed. My friend has 4 kids and no way she leave the older ones alone while she takes the baby in. The men have a urinal making them exposed it is not like that if there are doors.

 

[kevschickee]

Not in WDW where they stated the age was 10.


I mean really what is mom to do, she has several kids, she is by herself, is she somehow suppose to take ALL the kiddos into the stall And heaven forbid she uses the bigger handicapp stall, she will get grief from certain people for that.

I am all for taking them into the stall if that is feasible but some of you have to realize that idea is not always going to work.

So age 10 is posted in Disney as an acceptable age?

 

[tinkerpea]

And if seeing my son would cause them to be banned or go to where ever their religion sends them for seeing a boy, than quite frankly they should not be in Disney. They will be seeing my kids all over place. Might even be horroified to see my kids in bathing suits

I do not go out of my way to offend, BUT if looking out and ensuring the safety of my kids offends you than I would look twice if I saw a boy who I thought was 10 in the Ladies Bathroom, but I would move on with my life. I would look twice, if I saw someone dressed in something other than casual clothes. I would move on. I find it really odd to see kids older than toddler age in a stoller, but I'm not offend. (Yes, there are kids for medical reason who need it but there others who don't) I cannot live my life trying not to offend someone because then I would be misreable.

But the issue is not about seeing the kids all over the place or even seeing your child in a swim suite as that is YOUR right just as its the women's right to be able to go to the women's bathroom and not have a male see her!
Certain religions class boys over 10 as men and like other posters have said that understand my point they go to the lady's to freshen up and can remove parts of their clothing that show areas of their face not to be seen by males,

It's not as cut and dry as your child comes before anybody else being offended this is religion.