BIG Problem at New School

[Goofyluver]

I'll share a sort of related story...

I met a woman through work a year ago who lives in my town, but works out of town in the same school district that I do. We'll call her Maybelle. She befriended me, invited me and my family to church, invited my son to join Boy Scouts with her son, and even asked for my help commuting to work when her car was in the shop (which I happily obliged). She was nothing but sweet and nice, even "praying for me" when our department was going through some position cuts.

This summer, I married my wife. When Maybelle found out, she took it upon herself to call fellow employees about my marriage...not to share the good news, but to inform them that they had been working with a nasty lesbian.

I've seen her several times this school year and she refuses to speak to me, going so far as to outright ignore me and run in the opposite direction when she sees me coming.

One of the things she took issue with (according to the folks who she's gossipped about me with) is that I never TOLD her I was a lesbian.

I'll say this...Maybelle clearly has an issue with the gays. Her issue would have been there whether I "came out" to her or not. She's not mad because I didn't tell her I was a lesbian, she's mad BECAUSE I'm a lesbian.

And no, I wasn't lying to Maybelle about my sexuality. She never turned to me and told me she was heterosexual either.

OP...Mary isn't mad because she didn't know. She's mad because y'all are who ya' are. Stay away from her. If anyone's to be feared, it's the people like her and dear Maybelle.

 

[cornflake]

It would seem strange if I'm extending "non-preachy" invites to church activities, and after given excuses as the OP put it then to tell her she's not religious, then find out days later from the husband that their Muslim, I could see very easily why she is confused and mad.

Why would that seem strange?

If someone invites me to something I don't care to attend, I might say I was busy. Who goes into a whole explanation as to why they can't attend a random thing someone they barely know invites them to?

Then when it's persistant church invites, the poster said she's not religious but thanks for thinking of her or whatever.

She didn't then find out from the husband that they're Muslim. They're not Muslim. They're - as the OP told her - not religious. Mary's husband seemed to assume that the OP's husband was Muslim. Which seems odd and ignorant to me too, honestly.

Of Muslim heritage, sure. Muslim himself, why? As the OP alludes above, a 'Sarah' is likely to be of Jewish heritage, doesn't mean I'd assume she's a practicing jew.

Mary is confused because she's a bigotted ignoramus.

 

[Wishing on a star]

Hi again,
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The issue at school is not outright name calling (after the 1st incident) now it is more of an issue of certain kids, mostly friends of Billy, not including him. I think that this was most bothersome because Billy was his 1st friend here, and they were inseparable over the summer. I've explained to my son that he is meeting a lot of new people and that he will make a lot of new friends. He is normally a really outgoing boy, I think it was just the stress of not knowing many kids, and then the 1 he does know suddenly shuns him.

My niece and nephew are older, so I believe my sister when she says these things blow over at this age, but it just bothers me to see my son, who always loved school so much, be reluctant to even go.

Yes, I know how it HURTS, a lot, to see your child go thru this.

But, two things....

Your sister is right....
As long as the school has handled this appropriately, that is really all you can ask/expect. I think there are always going to be those cases of "so-and-so hates/alienates so-and-so". With pre-teen and early teen girls... this happens, like, daily!!!!! Being a boy, your son may actually have this easier. I do think that you should try to be patient and give this some time and try to let it go.

Secondly, the reality is, whether one is of any certain race, background, economic/financial, sexual persuasion, etc.... There are always going to be the self-righeous bigots out there. Very, very, sadly, your son is at an age where he is going to start seeing/feeling this.

The thing to do, instead of insisting that everyone involved accept and include you, is to find you niche... (and this narrow minded family, who just happens to live close, just isn't it.) and to find real activities, friends, etc... where one is valued and accepted. I think that this is what you need to focus on!

 

[jaminmd]

I'll say this...Maybelle clearly has an issue with the gays. Her issue would have been there whether I "came out" to her or not. She's not mad because I didn't tell her I was a lesbian, she's mad BECAUSE I'm a lesbian.

I'm so sorry that in this day & age you still have to deal with ignorant bigots like this.