Bachelor parties and Adult Entertainment...

[Chicago526]

Well, as I always say to DFi, "looky no touchy". Wouldn't bother me a bit, I'm totally secure.

I could care less if DFi, now or in the future, went to a strip club. Honestly, what could HAPPEN? I trust DFi completely, he'd never stray. And on the off chance that I've misplaced my trust, I told him that if he cheats, I'm gone, no second chances. If he cheats on me, it's because he WANTS it to be over, and in that case why would I want to stay anyway?

 

[Planogirl]

No flaming here!

I just think that there's no harm in looking, clothed or unclothed. I liken it to reading a spicy novel or seeing an interesting love scene in a movie, it just doesn't mean anything.

But to each their own.

 

[WDWHound]

Are you kidding? You find it flattering that your husband wants to have relations with you because Bubbles the Skank was just slidding up and down a pole in front of him or gyrating in his lap? I don't get it.

Bubbles The Skank!
Now theres a user name you're not likely to find on the DIS

 

[leighe]

I don't have a problem with it. I was a fraternity sweetheart in college and I would occasionally act as DD for my boyfriend and his friends. I actually thought it was kind of funny. The guys sit there with this really goofy, half-smile, half-mouth open expression on their faces. They look like idiots.

DH hasn't been to an adult type club very often since we've been married but I wouldn't mind if it was just an occasional thing.

 

[Briarmom]

Truthfully, I really hate it. I am one of those wives who 'won't allow it' for lack of a better phrase. I have seen some lap dances (on TV) and the things the strippers do/say to the customers are sick. It was like phone sex meets an almost nekkid girl rubbing on men. Not something I want dh to do. I am not a prude at all, I just don't like the idea of MY dh doing that. I asked him how he would feel if some strange man put his you-know-what in my face and started rubbing it on me...just to put it in perspective.

 

[MaryAnnDVC]

DH has been to strip clubs on a rare occasion, and not in many, many, many years; our friends have all been married for a LONG time. My problem with strip clubs isn't the nekkid factor...my problem would be with him taking valuable and rare time away from our family and handing over OUR money to some broad, and then telling me that we can't afford fill in the blank (like right now it would be a front loading washing machine ).

When they had DH's bachelor party, they invited my father. I was horrified...I mean, my father. I told my father that if DH looked like he wanted to have a good time but was holding back because of him, to come home. From what I hear, my father had a great time (he was about 70 at the time). DH never told me what that meant. (I think I'll ask him again tonight; haven't asked in years. )

 

[MScott1851]

Ehh. My Dh goes sporadically to them here and there for bachelor parties...most of his friends are married off by now. He's really just kind of bored with the whole thing. He'd rather be home and in bed at 2am than sitting up at a hot, stinky, smoky strip club...besides, he doesn't drink. His father actually went with him on his bachelor party, that's how tame it was. For him, it's more of a social thing..he is hanging out with his friends, NOT gyrating with a dancer...he's probably not had a lap dance in years...except at home.

We do go together from time to time with other people...they're a pretty popular place to hang out late night both here and where we used to live. Again, he's just really not that into it. He's such a neatfreak/germaphobe he wouldn't let them touch him, ever. He's MUCH more into me wearing hoochie coochie high heels than some strange girl with bad skin, bad teeth, and tattoos (which most of them around here seem to have!)

 

[vettechick99]

I asked him how he would feel if some strange man put his you-know-what in my face and started rubbing it on me...

First off, ew!

Second, I think you are comparing apples and oranges. I don't know one girl that would be turned on by that. I also can't think of one guy that wouldn't be turned on with jubblies in their face.

Teehee, jubblies.

 

[kasar]

I guess I don't really have a problem with it, but I still think those places are really gross!

DH thinks they are too. His groomsmen were disappointed in DH's bachelor party at first - golf, cookout, poker. He specifically told them he didn't want to go to a strip club. But they had fun anyhow. I get the lure of them and I know it's fairly innocent, I just can't get past the "ick" factor.

 

[Rock'n Robin]

I think the more mature men grow out of it. We got married at 22, and DH's buddies took him to several places. These places were NOT the more refined strip clubs that are in our town now. He went to several more parties over the next 10 years or so; this was the only time he went to places like that, even when they got "nicer" (this is a relative term--I don't think any of them are nice, but if you compare clubs...you get the idea). The last time he went was in 96 when his brother got married, but he spent most of the time giving $ so his brother had a good time. He told me then that he just wasn't interested in that kind of "entertainment" anymore and the older he got, the more seedy it seemed to him.
Want to know what is scarier? In the HS where I teach, it has become somewhat of a "tradition" for boys to go to several of these clubs the day (or close) they turn 18! They can't drink, so the big draw is "I'm 18, I can go to a strip club!" GROSS! I wonder if that will still be the big deal when DS turns 18!
Robin M.

 

[stinkerbelle]

First off, ew!

Second, I think you are comparing apples and oranges.

Teehee, jubblies.

don't you mean..."twigs and berries"?

hehehehe
jubblies....

 

[ziggystardust]

As long as theres no lying involved I don't see anything wrong with it.

I have a friend that gave her fiance money (singles!) for his bachelor party.

 

[RadioFanatic]

The last one my dh went to was his surprise bachelor party in Montreal 7 years ago. I knew about it and even packed his bag for him with clean undies just in case they decided to make a show of him - and they did but nothing sexual. My dh hates those things so I thought it was hysterical. But I love my dh and trust him implicitly so those type of things don't bother me in the least.

 

[SherryNC]

Whatever works for a couple. If a wife is comfortable with it, lucky husband. If not, then hopefully the husband is respectful of her feelings.

 

[Shugardrawers]

Dh isn't the slightest bit interested but if he were, go, have at it. I trust him completely. I do have a friend who throws a fit when her Dh even goes to Hooters for lunch! Last time her Dh went he slept on the couch for days! I couldn't believe it, she needs to lighten up. Sad thing is, her Dh is a real cutie and a heck of a nice guy but I'm terrified tell her so because I don't want her going ballistic.

 

[vettechick99]

Dh isn't the slightest bit interested....

Shugardrawers, with a name like that, I think you should take stripper classes and treat DH to a private show! I'd bet he'd be interested in that!

 

[palmtreegirl]

I am always puzzled by the response some wives have about their husbands participating in this ritual...."Oh, he's so horned up when he comes home, that I benefit " Are you kidding? You find it flattering that your husband wants to have relations with you because Bubbles the Skank was just slidding up and down a pole in front of him or gyrating in his lap? I don't get it.

Bubbles the skank..........

 

[DWhittles]

My DH hates them but my former roomate was a stripper so I've spent my fair share of time in the clubs and with the girls and at the bar and they are harmless places. They are built on fantasies.
If DH wanted to go, I wouldn't have a problem with it.

 

[rayelias]

I think it is disrespectful to the marriage... I would not think of doing it and my dh feels the same way....

I personally feel it's not only disrespectful to the marraige, but also disrespectful to the "performers" and objectifies them.

Not for me, thanks.

 

[Alicnwondrln]

doesnt bother me at all