Baby Problem

[disneyfav4ever]

I suggested this to the OP pages ago (along with a towel or tshirt used by Mom that has Mom's scent on it) and the OP totally ignored the suggestion. I think the carrier or sling is a fabulous way to soothe the baby.

I'm sorry, I thought I did say I was going to try that.

 

[Jamby001]

The only reason I could see using Mama as a proper name is that the baby is actually her sister and Mama is her actual mother.

Even then, when referring to my mom, I call her "my mom" on a board, not just hey "Mom did this". That is reserved when talking about her to my siblings.

 

[NHdisneylover]

I suggested this to the OP pages ago (along with a towel or tshirt used by Mom that has Mom's scent on it) and the OP totally ignored the suggestion. I think the carrier or sling is a fabulous way to soothe the baby.

Sorry, I should have referenced your post when I said that. I did see that you suggested it early on and it was ignored, which is why I was confused about why OP was not willing to give it a try.

I do see now that OP thought she had responded to that, and I am so glad she is willing to give it a try.

Have you given it a try OP, is it helping?

 

[disneyfav4ever]

The only reason I could see using Mama as a proper name is that the baby is actually her sister and Mama is her actual mother.

Even then, when referring to my mom, I call her "my mom" on a board, not just hey "Mom did this". That is reserved when talking about her to my siblings.

As I've said many times already in this discussion, the baby is my roommate's.

Sorry, I should have referenced your post when I said that. I did see that you suggested it early on and it was ignored, which is why I was confused about why OP was not willing to give it a try.

I do see now that OP thought she had responded to that, and I am so glad she is willing to give it a try.

Have you given it a try OP, is it helping?

No, because Mama hasn't gone out again yet.

 

[mom2rtk]

No, because Mama hasn't gone out again yet.

Where does the baby stay when the mom goes out to work? Does the baby cry very long for that caregiver?

 

[cabanafrau]

Maybe next time you're at the library or book shopping check to see if you can find any that are helpful. Might get some better suggestions than here & possibly add to your book challenge, win/win?

 

[JanaDee]

Where does the baby stay when the mom goes out to work? Does the baby cry very long for that caregiver?

That's what I was going to ask. Where does the baby go when the mother goes to work? Does the baby cry non-stop for that care-giver?

 

[disneyfav4ever]

Where does the baby stay when the mom goes out to work? Does the baby cry very long for that caregiver?

She will cry like that for everyone.

Maybe next time you're at the library or book shopping check to see if you can find any that are helpful. Might get some better suggestions than here & possibly add to your book challenge, win/win?

Like I have time to read anymore with the baby here, lol.

 

[mom2rtk]

She will cry like that for everyone.

She will? Or she does? I'm really confused.

If she does this every single day then I'd get her evaluated. That's not normal or good for her.

 

[luvsJack]

Is the baby in child care? If she is and is crying like that every day, then your roommate needs to talk to the director and the caregivers there but I would be concerned if she is crying that much and they haven't already approached the subject with her.

There may be more going on here than separation anxiety.

But, if the mother has her in child care all week and then leaves her with you on the weekends, it could be a simple case of baby needing more time with mom. She associates her mother leaving with the mother being gone all day or its possible that she is associating being left with something that is going on in her normal child care.

The mother needs to look at all possible reasons for this crying. Take her to the doctor to be evaluated, talk to the child care providers, etc.

And, honestly, because you have been leaving her in the bed to cry, its very possible that is the association this child is making with her mother leaving and is only making the situation worse.

 

[JanaDee]

She will cry like that for everyone.

Like I have time to read anymore with the baby here, lol.

Everyone? How often does the mother leave her with other people?

 

[scrapquitler]

As I've said many times already in this discussion, the baby is my roommate's.

No, because Mama hasn't gone out again yet.

I would suggest that you don't wait until "Mama" goes out to try the sling or carrier. It would be far better to get baby used to being in the sling or carrier and being carried by BOTH you and "Mama" at at time when she is happy and content rather than waiting until she is a crying and anxious baby. Wear her in the carrier around the house when she is happy, and she will start to recognize the carrier as a happy place where she feels safe and secure (especially if Mama is the one carrying her in it). Then when Mama DOES leave, you can put her in there and she'll feel safe and happy. It's a matter of prevention and comfort rather than "let me stick her in here when she's a hot mess and I'm impatient to see if it will help" Try it NOW and get her used to it. It will be worth the effort that you and Mama put into it.

 

[NHdisneylover]

I would suggest that you don't wait until "Mama" goes out to try the sling or carrier. It would be far better to get baby used to being in the sling or carrier and being carried by BOTH you and "Mama" at at time when she is happy and content rather than waiting until she is a crying and anxious baby. Wear her in the carrier around the house when she is happy, and she will start to recognize the carrier as a happy place where she feels safe and secure (especially if Mama is the one carrying her in it). Then when Mama DOES leave, you can put her in there and she'll feel safe and happy. It's a matter of prevention and comfort rather than "let me stick her in here when she's a hot mess and I'm impatient to see if it will help" Try it NOW and get her used to it. It will be worth the effort that you and Mama put into it.

Super advice!

 

[disneyfav4ever]

She will? Or she does? I'm really confused.

If she does this every single day then I'd get her evaluated. That's not normal or good for her.

Will / does - same thing.

Is the baby in child care? If she is and is crying like that every day, then your roommate needs to talk to the director and the caregivers there but I would be concerned if she is crying that much and they haven't already approached the subject with her.

There may be more going on here than separation anxiety.

But, if the mother has her in child care all week and then leaves her with you on the weekends, it could be a simple case of baby needing more time with mom. She associates her mother leaving with the mother being gone all day or its possible that she is associating being left with something that is going on in her normal child care.

The mother needs to look at all possible reasons for this crying. Take her to the doctor to be evaluated, talk to the child care providers, etc.

And, honestly, because you have been leaving her in the bed to cry, its very possible that is the association this child is making with her mother leaving and is only making the situation worse.

She's not in child care. Baby is always either with me or relatives.

Everyone? How often does the mother leave her with other people?

Not that often.

I would suggest that you don't wait until "Mama" goes out to try the sling or carrier. It would be far better to get baby used to being in the sling or carrier and being carried by BOTH you and "Mama" at at time when she is happy and content rather than waiting until she is a crying and anxious baby. Wear her in the carrier around the house when she is happy, and she will start to recognize the carrier as a happy place where she feels safe and secure (especially if Mama is the one carrying her in it). Then when Mama DOES leave, you can put her in there and she'll feel safe and happy. It's a matter of prevention and comfort rather than "let me stick her in here when she's a hot mess and I'm impatient to see if it will help" Try it NOW and get her used to it. It will be worth the effort that you and Mama put into it.

Makes sense.