Baby Name Question

[robinb]

I named my DD a variation of my DH's brother's daughter's middle name. My niece was named after my DH's grandmother.

 

[3Gsandme]

I named my DD a variation of my DH's brother's daughter's middle name. My niece was named after my DH's grandmother.

My SiL's first child and my middle daughter share a middle name. I know I don't have a monopoly on family names.

 

[tina.tina]

I think it's weird and would be rude if they do use the same name since it's not a family name or a middle name.

 

[Wendy31]

I think it's a bit weird as well. But, at least, your DD was named first, so she's the first [Jenny/Jennifer] in the family. KWIM?

A little story...

Our DD is named my most favorite female name ever. I wanted to use the name if I ever had a little girl for forever... years before I was even pregnant.

It's a name that is commonly shortened - like Jenny/Jennifer.

Well, 3 years before DH & I had our DD, my SIL (DH's brother wife) was pregnant w/ her 3rd child. At her first ultrasound, they were told they were having a girl. And then my SIL said they had decided to name the baby w/ the shortened form of my favorite name.

I was heartbroken because I knew then that I wouldn't be able to name our little girl w/ the long form of the same name - if we even had a little girl.

I just felt like there couldn't be first cousins w/ the same name - long or short versions.

Well, surprise! My SIL ended up having a boy.

So, 3 years later, when we had our DD, I was able to use "my" name.

Likewise, for our 2nd DS, I really, really liked the name of one of my nephews, but we didn't use it... since it had already been used.

In larger families, I know it's not that uncommon for the same names to be used over the years, especially as the family expands. And, many times, cousins will share the middle names.

However, I don't think you normally hear of 1st cousins w/ the same first names that often - especially when the families/cousins are together & see other frequently.

 

[LBIJim]

[QUOTE="3Gsandme, post: 53762705, member: 457701"

This is my brother's wife. My mom has been gone for 8 years now, so no talking any sense into anyone. My Dad is decidedly hands off.[/QUOTE]

Smart man.....no need to "talk sense" into anybody. SIL can name her child whatever she wants. I take it your brother agrees with her.

 

[3Gsandme]

Dad is hands off about everything, but that's a whole 'nother thread.

 

[Tiffylv]

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[LilPiglet]

Wow. I think it is kind of weird your SiL would even want to have her babies name the same as your child. I think I would also be mad like you are, but in the end it is her decision and she is going to do whatever she wants to do. Boy oh boy am I glad I don't have a sister or brother so when I have a baby and name it there will be no sister or sister in law to come along and pick the same baby name.

 

[Feralpeg]

My first name is Peggy. I have a first cousin name Peggie. Occasionally, it would cause confusion at family events, but wasn't really that big a deal. While I wouldn't name my child the same as a close relative, in the long run, it probably won't be a problem.

 

[ronandannette]

Dad is hands off about everything, but that's a whole 'nother thread.

Which in this case is maybe for the best because perhaps he would side with your SIL. This really isn't a big deal and there's a chance that the idea will fall by the wayside by the time the new little girl arrives. I think it's a bad idea for either of you to be lobbying other family members for or against each other's position no matter how righteously indignant you feel. That kind of thing never ends well. Let this go. Perhaps you (or your DD) could even be a little flattered if the baby gets named after her cousin.

 

[Minnesota!]

Eh. It's just a name. Maybe just be flattered that she thinks you have good taste?

 

[SirDuff]

Wow. I think it is kind of weird your SiL would even want to have her babies name the same as your child. I think I would also be mad like you are, but in the end it is her decision and she is going to do whatever she wants to do. Boy oh boy am I glad I don't have a sister or brother so when I have a baby and name it there will be no sister or sister in law to come along and pick the same baby name.

Only works if the person you marry is also an only child!

 

[OurBigTrip]

I have plenty of cousins with the same name. NBD

Bottom line for me, not your kid, not your business.

Winning answer.

 

[Disneybuckeye]

Obviously in some families this is a big deal and in some it is not. The fact that the SIL even asked the question implies to me she knows deep down it really is not a great idea.

While yes, she will just have to grin and bear it if it comes to fruition IMHO I do not blame the OP for being miffed. I also agree to tell you DD to be flattered.

 

[NJlauren]

I think names are very personal and you can't claim a name...

That being said I think first cousins shouldn't have the same name plenty to choose from....but past 1st cousins I think it fine... Friends kids, 2nd, 3rd cousins all fine IMO

 

[LilPiglet]

Only works if the person you marry is also an only child!

Oh, I didn't even think of that. Duh. I guess when I am allowed to start dating a boy when I turn 14 in July I better start looking for only child guys.

 

[TheDisneyNurse]

Apparently there was a lot of drama when my parents were naming me. They were going to name me Kristen, and my Dad's brother didn't approve because his daughter's name was Krista. The names are kind of similar, but they're technically different names. Nonetheless, my name is indeed Kristen!

It's a bit odd, but who knows-- maybe that will make your DD her cousin closer than ever

 

[gwynne]

I would just say no one owns any name. Name your baby what you'd like.

...And why would I do that? Because the more drama, the more likely she'll stick to her guns. If she senses you don't care, maybe she'll come up with another idea. And if she goes with the "same" name, oh well. You can't control what other people do.

 

[aaarcher86]

It's weird she'd WANT To have a dup name, IMO.

Since she asked I think it's fine you told her you're not a fan. I wouldn't have offered that up freely since it's her choice. I just think it's weird!

 

[Mizzoufan]

What is the name in question.