Well, what do you know.... We had a puppy (less than a year old) and then a close relative began dating someone with that same name and wound up marrying them. All sorts of people asked if we named the dog after the new relative. We thought, "What sort of idiot names a dog after a relative?" Maybe it wasn't that stupid of a question after all.
However, your daughter, being older, will still get to constantly note that her cousin is named after her, which is a flattering thing when you are a kid.
. Additionally, we're not name recyclers. In six generations on both sides of my family, we have one recycled name. Maybe if that was more the status quo I wouldn't be bothered.
As someone who is married to an only child, if he has appropriate boundaries with his parents, I highly recommend them. One of my sisters has the SIL from you know where. My other sister is a middle child and I wouldn't recommend that anyone marry her.A little OT, but Hon, that's not a great idea for all sorts of reasons - tons of them are spoiled and expect you to take up where momma left off. Trust me, you want a good, solid middle-child and hopefully not the only son.
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Maybe your SIL is worse than my sister's SIL! We lived beside of a lady named Patty. We moved and our neighbors had a dog named Patty. My kids called the dog "Patty the dog" forever. In your case, I would have refused to call the dog by that name-- that was an incredibly ugly thing to do.
My DD is called by her middle name. We regret this because it causes lots of confusion and she now hates her first name. My son's name (2nd child) is a short form of several names. After all the problems with DD, we figured we'd better name him what we wanted to call him. We have not had any issues with any school, doctor's office, etc. about his name. We do have weird issues with lots of people incorrectly calling him a longer name. Now, I always recommend that new parents name their kids what they want to be called. Why have 2 names (unless you're honoring a family name).
Of course more than 12 names exist, but think of it this way...We're not a very big family. Maybe that's why it seems so strange. There's only about twelve of us. Surely more than 12 names exist out there.
My uncle David married a woman named Wendy and I married a man named David so we became "little Wendy and David." We're 47 now and still referred to as "little."Weird, but fine in my book. My sister's name is Emily, and our brother married an Emily. My kids call them Aunt Emily #1 and Aunt Emily #2. They even have the same middle initial, and until my sister got married, they had the same last name. Does it get confusing at times? Yes. Does it require extra words when referring to them? Yes. Is it a big deal? Not in the least bit. There are thousands, maybe millions, of people with your child's name. Just because you know one of them who is close to you is really not going to be that big of a deal. Congrats on your new niece.
I don't get the impression that this name is a first choice. It's just one in a list of several. IMy DH ended up being called # 2 at a job because someone with his same unique name was hired the week before him. He was highly annoyed. Any elementary school kid knows what #2 means.
We joke that everyone has an Uncle Jim. My DH and I both do and the vast majority of our friends do. If fact had we had two boys instead of boy/girl twins the other would have been James since we both adore our Uncle Jims.
