baby name advice

[ppan77]

I am almost due with my second child...a girl. I am a little upset bc an acquaintance I recently worked together with in my community just had a little girl last week. She didnt know what she was having before. I learned she named her the same name I was going to use. I am very disappointed since I am sure I mentioned the name to colleagues in front of her at the time. It is the same name and her middle name has the same initial too! Should I care so much?

 

[LisaNJ25]

nope, name her want you want. One of you may move out of the area and you could regret it later.

What name did you choose?

 

[LJRJR]

I would definately not change what you were going to name the baby. Enjoy being pregnant again and dont sweat the small stuff! There is no need to even explain to others why they have the same name, if you need to explain tell people that you choose the name months ago before you even knew it was a girl.

 

[Minnie_me]

You should name her what you planned on naming her. My cousin's best friend "stole" her baby name, and she ended up naming her baby something different. Within a year, the friend moved to Hawaii, and they've totally lost touch. My cousin still regrets not naming her child the name she loved.

 

[ppan77]

Our name is Courtney Alice....both family names
Hers is Courtney Abigail

 

[LisaNJ25]

very pretty.. and not a common name these days. A good friend of mine is Cortney but in her 30's

 

[bunnyscootles]

I agree with the other posters - no one owns rights to baby names - use the name you love!!!

 

[PrincessDreamer]

I have cousins that share the same name, and there was never any accusations of name-stealing, both sets of parents just liked the name. If she is only an acquaintance at work it shouldn't be a big deal. Plus, I doubt she stole the name, it's probably just a coincidence. If you love the name, I say, go for it!

 

[Nicolepa]

My best friend named her son the same as mine. (My son is 3.5 years older.) At first I was miffed, but you know what, in the long run it doesn't matter. We live 5 blocks from each other, our kids go to the same school, besides family, it doesn't get much closer than that!

An acquantance, I wouldn't even think twice about it.

 

[Aliceacc]

There are so many Courtneys out there; don't give it a thought. Especially if the person is an "aquaintance within the community." Go with the name you love.

And Congrats!!!

 

[seeking pixie dust]

When my cousin had a little boy 6 years ago and learned what he and his wife named him, I was so sad b/c I had the same name picked out for my future son. 5 years later we're pregnant with a boy and couldn't find a name we liked as much so we asked them if they would mind and they said "no". We intended to call him by his initials "AJ", but our dd (3) kept telling everyone that wasn't his name, so now we do both have Andrews. Pick what you'll be happy with and don't give it a second thought.

 

[Fall1]

I think you should definitely name her the name you picked, it's beautiful and not common at all. Also, you said this is really just an acquaintance of yours, so it's likely your children won't see each other often at all.

 

[eh24fan]

Use your name!

When I was born my mom and dad got my name from the Waltons...seriously. There weren't any other Erin's in the area (small town, everyone knew everyone else or someone who knew them, etc.) 5 months later, there was another Erin born. Guess what? She was my best friend until we were about 9 years old! From the time I was 18 months old, my aunt was the babysitter for this family and often took me along to play. She was one of my closest friends and we LOVED having the same name. In fact, she had a hard time with her "r's" and saying our name, so she called me E <Last name> and herself E <last name> To this day her dad ALWAYS calls me E <last name> He called me Erin once and I was hurt! I told him that is NOT what he calls us! HAHAHA When someone in her family or mine talk about us to each other, they never use Erin. They know better.

 

[Tinka_Belle]

Our name is Courtney Alice....both family names
Hers is Courtney Abigail

I say that you should be flattered. Isn't copying the greatest form of flattery. That is a beautiful name. I like Alice with the name better than Abigail.

 

[BuzzandAriel'smom]

I say keep it! I just thought about a cute nick name... Cali!

 

[kim_o]

I am almost due with my second child...a girl. I am a little upset bc an acquaintance I recently worked together with in my community just had a little girl last week. She didnt know what she was having before. I learned she named her the same name I was going to use. I am very disappointed since I am sure I mentioned the name to colleagues in front of her at the time. It is the same name and her middle name has the same initial too! Should I care so much?

Nope wouldn't care. I'd think you'd be pretty hard pressed to find a name nobody else in the world had. And even if you did, once other people heard your unique name, someone would use it too. I just don't get why people tend to have such issues with "name stealing". Think of it as a compliment....she heard your idea and liked it so much she used it. It's saying that you have good taste.

 

[rhonhod]

Use the name you love. I have a 25 year old step brother ( my dad's remarriage) named Christopher Ryan and a 15 year old half brother ( from my mom) also named Christopher Ryan.

 

[tzolkin]

i understand about being upset that someone else "has" your baby's name. our middle DD has a unique name. i have never met/heard of anyone with her name. right after she was born someone my husband worked with said to him "oh, i love that name. i want to name my baby that". he looked at her and said sternly "please don't". we live in a very small town and it would be pretty obvious that she "stole" our name, so she didnt use it.

my name is candace victoria. not unique, but not extremely common. about two months after i was born there was another candace victoria born. my mother is still convinced that the parents must have been reading the birth announcements for ideas.

 

[cinjam]

very pretty.. and not a common name these days. A good friend of mine is Cortney but in her 30's

OT -

Hey - I am in northern NJ & have a neighbor named Courtney in her 30s - does you Courtney's last name start with a "B"? I know it's a long shot, but I have too many "it's a small world" encounters with other DISers recently & just have to ask!!!

To the OP - I say keep to your original name!

 

[rt2dz]

We know lots of Courtney's, of all age groups. I don't think it was necessarily done on purpose. This is an acquaintance at work. Not a best friend or your sister. Chances are she heard the name, liked it, and couldn't even remember where she heard it. Jobs come and go, so you might not even be acquaintances in a year. I wouldn't worry about it. Name your DD what you like and don't think twice.