ARG!!! Not ready to book! Need to Vent...

[Tigger&Belle]

It's frustrating waiting for other people! My DH and I are hoping to go to WDW in early October, sans children, if my in-laws will come visit and watch our kids. They want to come, but are trying to work out some problem with their frequent flyer points. Therefore, we are holding off getting plane tickets, for obvious reasons. I will call today about AP rates and hold a room, but I wish that my MIL would get all this worked out so we can make our plans. My DH keeps asking them, so there's not much more that we can do.

If my DH and I are not able to go, I plan to bring my 4yo back to WDW in mid-October. I'm also going to WDW in December for a week with my 4yo and meeting my sister and my 81yo mom (My mom's first trip to WDW!). If I don't bring my 4yo in October, we will probably go down a few days early in December to do some younger kid rides that my mom and sister aren't going to care about.

To make matters even more complicated, if I go for for longer than a week in December I will probably take the autotrain, which has to be reserved by the end of August to take advantage of a rail sale that is going on.

The situation is really even more complicated with my in-laws, but I was trying to keep it simple.

Just thought that you all would be able to understand! I've been waiting for so long for these rates and want to take advantage of them, so I'm a bit edgy for others to work out their plans so I can work out ours.

T&B

 

[Tigger&Belle]

Now the situation is even worse! The purpose of the trip for my in-laws was supposed to be to watch our kids, with a side trip to Boston to see their other son and his family. The other son suggested dates that would work for them, we go along with it, and he keeps changing what he wants. Now he wants his parents to come to Boston the time that they were supposed to be here (and my DH and I were going to go to Orlando). The problem with that is that it would mean that we'd be in Orlando over Columbus Day weekend, and we were trying to avoid crowds since our time will be so limited.

This is the brother who was born thinking that the world revolved around him, who has expected his parents to bail him out of his problems financially, etc, so we don't have a lot of patience for his antics.

I keep telling myself that everything will work out, but I really don't know of they will...

T&B

 

[llij]

Just wanted to send some good wishes your way! I hope that it all works out for you. I can empathize with you as I've "been there, done that"!

Best wishes and let us all know how it works out!

 

[leighe]

Just sending you some pixie dust! I had to plan a trip with my in-laws last spring break and they almost DROVE ME NUTS! I hope everything works out for you!

 

[leighe]

Just sending you some pixie dust! I had to plan a trip with my in-laws last spring break and they almost DROVE ME NUTS! I hope everything works out for you!

 

[leighe]

Just sending you some pixie dust! I had to plan a trip with my in-laws last spring break and they almost DROVE ME NUTS! I hope everything works out for you!

 

[Tigger&Belle]

leighe, that's a LOT of pixie dust!!!

Actually, your triple post cheered me up! Don't you hate it when your computer burps like that and you send out multiple posts or e-mails?

Thanks for the good wishes! I was so hoping that all this would be worked out by the time the codes came out so I could go for them. I told my husband that we are calling and making ressies for some dates tonight. We might have to change them, but at least it will be a step in the right direction.

T&B

 

[Avalanche]

We must be related because it sounds like my family (especially my inlaws that you are talking about.

Hang in there.

 

[Tigger&Belle]

A mini-series could be made about my DH's family. They are quite an interesting bunch and this is only the tip of the iceberg! I know that my MIL wants to come out and watch the kids, but my FIL complains about traveling (only wants a non-stop flight--they live across the country so that's not always easy), traveling makes him tired, etc, etc When my mother comes to see us she has to make 2 connections (she lives in southern Oregon) and the trip takes ALL day. Very tiring, she's old, and it takes a lot out of her, but she still is excited about going to Orlando because she knows the trip will be worth the hassle and she has a positive attitude about it. My DH's family is NOT a "suck it up" kind of family though. His parents are good people, though, and my kids are lucky to have them as grandparents. Now my DH's brother is a different story!!!

T&B

 

[Tigger&Belle]

Now my in-laws have come up with different dates. This is really driving me up a wall! The good thing about the latest dates is that we'd be there at the tail end of value season so it would be a little cheaper (hey, $5/night is something!). The bad thing is that my in-laws would barely be here long enough for us to go to Orlando. They don't have their tickets yet, so it's not a done deal. Wish they'd work it all out, already!!!

T&B

 

[dpic]

The thread would make a good reality show.

Hang in there, Tigger&Belle.

 

[WDW LifeLong Fan]

Your patience is a true asset.

However, if this were me, I would tell them "thanks but no thanks and perhaps we can work it out another time."

Then if questioned why....I would simply state that with "all of your BIL's scheduling conflicts, that perhaps they should visit him this time and next time they can come and spend time with your children exclusively."

This is probably not what you want to hear and I know that you really want to go to WDW.... but this MAY even help your relationship with your In Laws long term. (It may help them realize that your BIL (An Adult) is compromising their relationship with your children)

JMHO

Good Luck!

 

[Tigger&Belle]

Originally posted by dpic
The thread would make a good reality show.

Hang in there, Tigger&Belle.

And it's my reality! lol

T&B

 

[Tigger&Belle]

Originally posted by WDW LifeLong Fan
Your patience is a true asset.

However, if this were me, I would tell them "thanks but no thanks and perhaps we can work it out another time."

Then if questioned why....I would simply state that with "all of your BIL's scheduling conflicts, that perhaps they should visit him this time and next time they can come and spend time with your children exclusively."

This is probably not what you want to hear and I know that you really want to go to WDW.... but this MAY even help your relationship with your In Laws long term. (It may help them realize that your BIL (An Adult) is compromising their relationship with your children)

JMHO

Good Luck!

Don't think that we haven't thought this, too and it was actually our initial reaction when we talked about it last night ! I wrote my MIL an e-mail this morning pretty much spelling everything out to her and trying to explain my frustration. That's when she wrote back with the last set of dates.

It's so difficult for my DH because first of all, he wants us to be able to go away and he wants me to be happy! You know, "when mamma's not happy, ain't nobody happy". Also, his brother has always been coddled. My DH had to live with this growing up and it's very hard for him to see it continuing to happen. BTW, they have gone to Boston to see that family and not come here to see us (a couple of times), but they will not consider coming here without going there. Makes no sense since we have a big house, place for them to sleep and to spread out, and are generally agreeable, feed them well, etc, etc. The "other brother" lives with his family in a tiny apartment, makes his parents go by his rules (don't get me started on that one ) and isn't the best of hosts. BUT, he is the firstborn favored child, for some reason.

I've tried to think of another time they could come and I don't think that it would work out before my AP expires in February. It is something that my DH and I are going to discuss tonight and that might be the conclusion we come to.

The funny thing is that the last dates that they came up with are basically the dates that I originally wanted to go. So I hate to cut my nose off to spite my face.

T&B

 

[WDW LifeLong Fan]

Best wishes...I'm sure it will work out. NONE of this will matter when you are at WDW!

Have a great time when you do go!

 

[SamanthaL]

What are you sayin'? First borns suck?

Hey you should have married my DH. Not only is he a looka but my MIL lives in Portugal, will not fly, and can't speak English.

I hope you work all of it out soon. I would book something then say you got all confused and now it is a done deal. Let the brother suck on that for awhile!

 

[Tigger&Belle]

LOL, well I have one of those first born children. She's a princess for sure. But we have been careful to help her realize that the world does not revolve around her. My BIL was pretty much raised that the world revolved around him by a very over protective mother. He liked the special treatment and still likes to run a puppet show.

We're trying to figure out what to do for my in-laws 50th anniversary and trying to get a straight answer out of the BIL is basically impossible. That's a whole different thread, though.

I need to sit my DH down and figure out what to do about this trip. I would just like to beam myself to WDW! I like the idea of booking and then letting my in-laws know our plans. hehehe

T&B

 

[SamanthaL]

Book now, tell them after!! That's what I say!

As far as the party, I would make the decisions and just ask BIL for a check! That's just me though!

 

[catherines_mama]

blech T&B.... sorry for all the hassle.

I hope in the end you get a nice get away with DH. HUGS and SMILES... (remember me.. the DISer who thought I saw another DISer at POP and it was you) HIGH *WAVING*

 

[Tigger&Belle]

SamanthaL, oh, the party is very complicated, but I think that we're going to basically make our plans and inform BIL and he can either be there or not. I haven't seen him in many years (VERY long story) and have never met his wife and kids and don't know if it will work out for me to ever meet them.

As to the WDW trip, my DH and I talked and we're going to basically go with their dates, but try to talk them into staying one more day so we have a buffer--a day between the time we would get back from Orlando and they would go to Boston. Not that Orlando is going to have another hurricane, but you never know what could happen to delay a flight. This is all assuming that they can use their frequent flyer miles on those dates.


Catherines_mama, I sure did kick myself in the rear for not yelling out to you when you were walking by after I thought I glimpsed green ribbon. I'm usually the type to make a fool out of myself, especially in a place like WDW. And my loud sister was with me, so yelling for you would have been twice the fun.
Next time.


T&B