Are You Nice?

[Ready to go in Ok]

I think I am very nice. DH just went to help his ex because her car broke down, and I didn't even hurl bricks at him as he left. Do I win?

 

[auntpolly]

I think I am very nice. DH just went to help his ex because her car broke down, and I didn't even hurl bricks at him as he left. Do I win?

Not hurling bricks is very nice! You win!

 

[Ready to go in Ok]

Not hurling bricks is very nice! You win!

Woo hoo! I wanna trophy for when he returns.......

 

[auntpolly]

Woo hoo! I wanna trophy for when he returns.......

OK....but you aren't going to throw it at him; are you????

 

[Ready to go in Ok]

Nope. Not throw

 

[auntpolly]

Nope. Not throw

You wouldn't be thinking about shoving anything somewhere -- would you.....?

 

[Robinrs]

I can vouch for Robin.....she's one of the best around!!

OMG it's TVT!!!!!! Man, where HAVE you been!!!

 

[Ready to go in Ok]

You wouldn't be thinking about shoving anything somewhere -- would you.....?

 

[auntpolly]

Be reasonable -- a trophy?????? I think you'd better just put your trophy on a nice mantel somewhere and be nice!!!

 

[Ready to go in Ok]

Be reasonable -- a trophy?????? I think you'd better just put your trophy on a nice mantel somewhere and be nice!!!

Can this fall under the "don't ask, don't tell" policy?

 

[auntpolly]

Can this fall under the "don't ask, don't tell" policy?

OK, I guess once once a trophy is given, it's nobody's business what they do with it......

 

[jekajekalynn]

You sound like a sweetheart!

My ex boss was the NICEST person I knew. And she was my boss for 14 years! I just love her. She's pleasant, decent and kind and like my Mom always said if you're with her 6 days a week and you STILL haven't found anything wrong with her she MUST be genuine!

My Dad was always very nice. Sweetest most uniquely kind person you ever met. I have NEVER seen him dislike or malign another human being. I adored him!

One lady I work with is especially surprised at my curse-less-ness. lol She is a really nice lady, but man , she drops the f-bomb like it's no tomorow. lol

 

[auntpolly]

I don't think "nice" and "the F bomb" are mutually exclusive.... ....not necessarily.....

 

[redshoes]

I use to be very nice, but then I became a Mom Now, I'm the meanest Mom ever, so I guess I must not be very nice anymore.

 

[JoyG]

I really go out of my way to be nice...especially to people who are not nice to me. Sometimes I get taken advantage of, which I don't like...and sometimes people confuse niceness with weakness. I had a co-worker at work once who thought she could raise her voice and yell at me (in front of students) and other teachers. That was a hard situation to be nice in. After she finished yelling at me, I followed her into her classroom and closed the door. I told her VERY nicely, that I'd appreciate it if she would approach me professionally and in private the next time she had a problem with me. I told her I didn't appreciate being treated in such an unprofessional manner and I expected better of her. She was speechless after that and very kind from then on.

Anyway, I think that niceness as a personalility trait is something I was born with...but not being scared of confrontations is something I've had to train myself.

I've tended to be non-confrontational and if you're also very nice it could set you up for being a door mat. So, I have trained myself to confront problems immediately, and professionally, even if it makes me very uncomfortable...which it usually does. In my mind I'm thinking, "shoulders square, back straight, voice steady."

 

[chell]

I try to be but sometimes it isn't easy.

 

[Ready to go in Ok]

Well, I was checking to see if I still had my title, but AuntieP must have hit the hay already.

 

[dreamflight99]

In other words, I am nice conditionally. Not just nice for nice sake.

Well stated--great topic. I believe "most" people fit this description. They are nice when others are nice to them, and then can easily turn if others are not so nice. This is basic human nature, emotions even an infant/child is capable of displaying. I believe the word "nice" gets it's roots in happiness.

I'm a happy person by nature, from the moment I awake (happy to be alive and well for another day, blessings to God), until I go to bed (made it through another day, time to give thanks to the Lord for all my blessings and say prayers for those in need). In between these two times, not much can ever change my demeanor. No one can easily "rain on my parade" of happiness. I just "am" happy (and choose to be so). Therefore, most people I know definitely view me as nice. They would attribute it to my consistent level of happiness (ie: always smiling, singing, laughing, etc).

I, on the other hand, know many people who are inconceivably miserable, troubled and unhappy in their day to day existence. They are easy to see, as they are the ones lashing out in visible turmoil and soul-twisting writhing pain, trying to find fault in everyone else around them. Even these people have moments of NICE, when others view them in such a light. Yet, no matter how many times they stomp on the person in their sights (flavor of the week), it never works to make them feel any better, more happy...or essentially NICE. And, it never affects the other person. Hatred and venom only poison the one harboring these sentiments, never the intended target. Yet, they never learn.

IMHO Nice, is a relatively casual term used to describe someone on the surface. Lot's of people, pets and things can be NICE. Yet, not every person, pet or thing can be something say...SINCERE. This just goes on and on. More thought-provoking adjectives are used for the people we sincerely know & love on an intimate level over mere friends or aquaintences.

 

[Pop Daddy]

I am mean

 

[Ready to go in Ok]

I am mean

Goes without saying