Are You Nice?

[Keli]

I try to be nice. I don't think that's as good as being truely nice though. I have a friend that never seems to think about it or work on it, she's nice all the time withough a second thought it seems.

 

[Brianne]

I'm polite. I'm nice to those I'm close to but it doesn't go much beyond that. DH, on the other hand, is nice & was almost to a fault---until the past few years, he was rather naive about people. I think my cynical nature ruined him.

 

[JVL1018]

I'm nice-ish. If someone slights me in any way, I'm not so nice. I don't get all up in someone's face or anything like that-usually-just get kind of snarky, or just don't bother with them anymore.

My husband is nice, the nicest person I know. Almost to a fault. He's got no nastiness about him, seriously, none. Not to say he doesn't get annoyed or mad, but it's extremely rare and when he does he even is mad nicely.

I don't know any person who could ever have an unkind word to say about him. It's sort of annoying.

He's a good egg.

 

[HomeSweetDisney]

I once knew a woman from Philly....who I later found out had a willy

Ahem. Anyway, I think generally I'm a nice person. I have my days, you know the kind I'm talking about, but doesn't everyone? I really do make a genuine effort to be kind to others. But sometimes certain people make it really difficult to do that

 

[lovmy2girls]

Sweet Thread!

I consider myself nice. If your good to me, I'm good back.

Its the people who are takers that I'm not nice to. And there seems to be more takers out there than not.

Where are the true friendships at? As well as the true "nice" people? If you have found one your lucky!

 

[jekajekalynn]

I think I'm nice. Infact , those who know me irl say I am the kindest person they know. Though my coworkers though tease me about it sometimes . They are astounded that I don't use curse words , even when I am angry with another coworker.

 

[Robinrs]

I think I'm nice. Infact , those who know me irl say I am the kindest person they know. Though my coworkers though tease me about it sometimes . They are astounded that I don't use curse words , even when I am angry with another coworker.

You sound like a sweetheart!

My ex boss was the NICEST person I knew. And she was my boss for 14 years! I just love her. She's pleasant, decent and kind and like my Mom always said if you're with her 6 days a week and you STILL haven't found anything wrong with her she MUST be genuine!

My Dad was always very nice. Sweetest most uniquely kind person you ever met. I have NEVER seen him dislike or malign another human being. I adored him!

 

[airhead]

...sometimes I lose my patience with people.

 

[HaleyB]

Well rather than doing the polite thing, and reading the whole thread, I am going to just jump in

I try to always be kind. Which is not always the same thing as nice. I am not very personable, really. I am shy and don't say much to people unless I know them well. So I am not 'nice' in the "how is your Mom doing" sort of way. But if you have a toddler in your cart and you are behind me in line, there is a good chance I will tell you to cut in front of me. If I see you need help, I am likely to pitch in. I am the first person many of my friends call when they need help.

I am not nice in a fake way. There is a lady I am forced to work with fairly often. I think she is dishonest and mean, she is always putting others down and spreading rumors. I do not like her. I make no bones about it. I do not ask her how she is or inquire after her family. I do not even smile and say hello to her if I run into her out in the world. So maybe I am not nice. Not even polite, sometimes.

That said, I am kind to both people I know and strangers. I try not to gossip. I am not one that will say mean things behind your back. I do not spread rumors. I will always defend the underdog. I will not steal your parking spot, cut in front of you in line, or do anything else like that. So maybe I am nice.

I guess it all depends on how you define the word.

Oh, one other thing, I am very sarcastic. I also have a dry sense of humor. I know I have offended people by this, but I don't think it is a question of nice/not nice. Someone elses lack of humor is no reflection on me. Also in my family teasing is a way to show affection...

 

[sweetlovin']

I'm not nice..





I'm just SWEET

 

[Tigger&Belle]

Haley, we sound VERY much alike!

 

[TennVolTony]

You sound like a sweetheart!

My ex boss was the NICEST person I knew. And she was my boss for 14 years! I just love her. She's pleasant, decent and kind and like my Mom always said if you're with her 6 days a week and you STILL haven't found anything wrong with her she MUST be genuine!

My Dad was always very nice. Sweetest most uniquely kind person you ever met. I have NEVER seen him dislike or malign another human being. I adored him!

I can vouch for Robin.....she's one of the best around!!

 

[jenm2878]

I'm very polite when I meet people, and very proper, but I'm not smiley or friendly. I can come off as sarcastic. It takes me a while to warm up to people, so as a result, I don't come off as very friendly, warm, or inviting. However, once I do warm up to you, I'll give you the shirt off my back and I'll be loyal to you for life.

This is me too. I'm more funny then nice.

 

[TennVolTony]

I'm not nice..





I'm just SWEET

Yep......you are......

 

[JennyMominRI]

I try to be nice.. I can be too nice in someways and get taken advantage of. On the other hand I can really get into a foul mood,always with family,never with strangers..It's too bad. I shoul be nicer to my family

 

[BeNJeNWaFFLe]

Generally I am very nice. I always try to smile and say Hi to people. I don't want people to not like me. At my old job my managers actually told me I was too nice. I guess I just like to please people if possible. I go out of my way to help and please others every time possible. In my high school yearbook, most of the "popular" kids who I never really got along with all wrote some very nice things to me. They all told me how I was very nice, always smiling, and had a great sense of style. (I think they were a little late in telling me this, but hey, I really cherished that they at least said them at all.)

If you are rude to me personally, I will be one nasty witch. I don't have time for rude people. I can usually just back away and keep my mouth shut but sometimes I lose it. I can't help it. I was a doormat for ridicule through all of my school years. In college I grew a backbone and decided I wasn't taking that garbage anymore.

As long as you are nice to me, I will be nice to you.

Oh, one other thing, I am very sarcastic. I also have a dry sense of humor. I know I have offended people by this, but I don't think it is a question of nice/not nice. Someone elses lack of humor is no reflection on me. Also in my family teasing is a way to show affection...

I am the same way. My sense of humor is very sarcastic. I try to make sure whoever I joke with understands me before I open my mouth. But sometimes I guess I offend people. My family is the same as your's also. We gently tease each other during family gatherings and dinner. At least I know my family isn't the only one anymore.

 

[auntpolly]

I am the same way. My sense of humor is very sarcastic. I try to make sure whoever I joke with understands me before I open my mouth. But sometimes I guess I offend people. My family is the same as your's also. We gently tease each other during family gatherings and dinner. At least I know my family isn't the only one anymore.

I think there are different ways to be sarcastic -- some more rude than others. I mean, I say things that are considered sarcastic all the time, but I don't think I do it at other people's expense. I'm constantly saying things and I'm sure people are thinking "I can't believe she said that", but I'm not inclined to say something that is just plain mean-- unless someone has really pushed me to the brink.

I think what I do is more in a teasing way.

 

[azgal81]

I try to be nice but some people are just annoying and I'm not going to be nice to anyone whose not nice to me.

 

[Honu]

My Dad was always very nice. Sweetest most uniquely kind person you ever met. I have NEVER seen him dislike or malign another human being. I adored him!

I had a Dad like that too. He was a genuinely happy person. He was the best!

Now here comes the cynical side of me. I think most people are nice only when it benefits them. I do know people that smile in the face of any situation, but I consider anyone that doesn't stand up for themselves to cowardly, not nice. You don't have to be rude to stand your ground, you just have to be strong.

Unfortunately, in business I have to be tougher than I'd like. I'm very pleasant to the point where you don't do what you promised and then you've just turned me into the person that is going to hold your feet to the fire. Some people just make me be a b***h.

 

[Feralpeg]

I do know people that smile in the face of any situation, but I consider anyone that doesn't stand up for themselves to cowardly, not nice. You don't have to be rude to stand your ground, you just have to be strong.

I don't believe not standing up for oneself is always cowardly. Some times discretion is the better part of valor.

I will avoid conflict in some situations. I see no reason to make a scene that will only upset other people just to make myself feel better. However, I will not stand by and see someone do something that will hurt another.

In those situations that I cannot let go, I will not be rude, or lower myself to the level of the other person in order to stand up for myself or someone else. There are ways to stand up to others that don't necessarily require confrontation.