Are you 100% out

[fey_spirit]

You too? Does your wife hate it as much as mine does?
She's only 8 years older then me... and I'm the more mature of the two of us, so I don't know where it comes from.

Yes...and no.

I'm married and I tell everyone about that. So, everybody knows that I'm not straight. But, everyone assumes that I must therefore be a lesbian and it's often not worth explaining that I'm actually bi. I certainly don't hide it, but, I also don't disrupt conversation to correct people.

We also have this weird experience in the US (mostly at wdw, but, I think it's just a US thing and we spend most of our time in the US at wdw) of people calling my DW my mother. Although it has now come up a bunch of times, we still get shocked by it every time it happens and our reactions tend to be too slow to "come out."

 

[NikkiPants]

A ditto for me on not officially saying "Guys, I'm gay." Haha! But I'm 100% honest and everyone who knows me knows that I am.

 

[MonorailMan]

Phone rings...

"Is Shrek there?"

"No sorry."

"How about Mrs. Shrek?"

"Speaking"


Long pause.....................

 

[MonorailMan]

I don't get out too much, and don't really have much of a social life.....but with the exception of my parents, pretty much everyone I know and converse with is gay.

In the last job I had, which was only a year-long temporary position, about 75-90% of the people I worked with/taught were gay-hating "Christians". (It was at a remote, third party location.) I pretty much had to stay in the closet for that one year or else I would've jeopardized the integrity of the company which I worked for........which would've been bad considering I helped build the company from the ground-up. Ironically, the owner of the company was also a gay man, who happened to be my ex. I did make one friend while working at the remote location who happened to be a single father who was kind of a hottie. I think he knew I was gay, but it didn't seem to bother him.

 

[padalyn]

Out - very out....the funny story is when I told my mother. She is a couch potato, and I had just re-discovered the gay side of me (for years tried the bi thing, relationships just didn't work - finally realized it was ME not the guys - go figure!)

well, back to the story - I went up to her house, she was doing the pototo thing in bed. I got her attention enough to grab the remote. Told her that the girl was was rooming with - well not a roomie, but a lover. She looked me in the eye and said......












wait for it.............

















"that's nice dear - I wouldn't tell your father just yet" click, the TV went back on - end of discussion.





I am so out that the guys I work with point out the hotties for me! Tell ya, girl watching with the guys is a pip - they don't know the HM factor at all!!!!


On the serious side - I never told my grandmother (she died last Nov at 102), but she figured it out - told my mother about 12 years ago "Cayla isn't getting married anytime soon, is she" mom didn't know how to reply to that, so she told her she didn't think so. Gram said "she doesn't much like men either, hmm?" mom was floored. Again - end of discussion. We never told, she never asked. Being from a different world I just never thought it worth the angst to tell her flat out. But she knew. When Tiggr33 got the chance to meet her (2 years ago) - she knew that we were closer than friends. Again, no ask, no tell. I was comfortable with that, as was Tiggr33.

 

[DVC~OKW~96]

Yes, rather the same here. I don't feel I'm explaining myself too well.

We don't hide anything, nor do we announce anything. I have made it clear to some folks through the course of my life, but I don't allow it to precede me...if that makes any sense.

We just are, ya' know. That's why when I am faced with policies like DADT it really sets off my aggravation radar. We DON'T tell for crissake...you don't HAVE TO. People that don't get that, are simply blind as far as I'm concerned.

Need to clarify that the one sister I have that "ignores it" also ignores us. We are not a factor in her life and we live less than five miles from her and her family. Nice, huh? No matter. We don't force ourselves on anyone for any reason.

I will say I did start referring to my wife by her first and middle names because her first name is unisex and I got tired of people assuming she was a man.

 

[wallyb]

Everyone thinks
I'm straight.

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[DVC~OKW~96]

Ah, do they now? Yes, yes... I can imagine that.

Imagine being the operative word there.

 

[jenn&nelsonrego]

Everyone thinks
I'm straight.

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Yes, Wally... You are absolutely right... We all think you are straight (about as straight as a paper clip)...

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[wallyb]

Yes, Wally... You are absolutely right... We all think you are straight (about as straight as a paper clip)...

I am too straight!

It's just ... I can be bent easly.

 

[rpmdfw]

I am too straight!

It's just ... I can be bent easly.

And frequently . . . .

 

[jenn&nelsonrego]

I am too straight!

It's just ... I can be bent easly.

as I said: like a paper clip...

silly, silly, boy....

 

[Tony-NJ]

And frequently . . . .

 

[soulmates]

99.9% out!! EVERYONE, at work, our neighbores, my children, parents, siblings....all except the ex! I know I know...but he's VERY religious and right now, we all agreed, no need to tell him. My DP and I have been together 3 years this June, and in our home living together 1 year this past Dec. Somehow, my ex just "Assumes" my "Roomate" looks like all my other friends; femme!! We've kept the two from meeting, and on the few times he's been to the house, we take down pics of us. Note, I do this for my daughter, and ONLY her. If she wasn't in the picture, he'd know. She's just 13 and at an age where she wants to please BOTH parents. She doesn't want any conflict. We've agreed, until she's older and or, he figures it out, we'll just continue along as we do. It's working so far, we'll see what happends!

 

[DVC~OKW~96]

Wally? Honey?? WHY would you WANT to be straight?

 

[Hathaway Browne]

Just to add my two cents worth in this thread....

I'm so far "in" I'm in Narnia. Mr. Tumnus says "hi".

 

[rpmdfw]

Just to add my two cents worth in this thread....

I'm so far "in" I'm in Narnia. Mr. Tumnus says "hi".

Very clever.

 

[Hathaway Browne]

I thank you!

Glad I could at least make someone laugh!

FTR it is true, well all but the Tumnus bit of course!

 

[wallyb]

Just to add my two cents worth in this thread....

I'm so far "in" I'm in Narnia. Mr. Tumnus says "hi".

How far in are you?
More importantly - How far in could you be?

 

[Hathaway Browne]

How far in are you?

Umm.. I can see snow and pine trees but still smell the mothballs from the fur coats.

More importantly - How far in could you be?

Not sure how to field that one...