Are you 100% out

[wallyb]

Not sure how to field that one...

Scaredy-cat!

 

[Hathaway Browne]

And proud of it!

 

[glenpreece]

Yup I am 100% out. I try to get it over and done with when I meet new people.

 

[MonorailMan]

I'm actually applying for a position tomorrow where they actually prefer to hire gay men since they have to photograph scantily clad women. Having said that.....I'm going to sizzle my "S's" like crazy......gurrrrrrrrl!

 

[vaDisneyGuy]

I'm actually applying for a position tomorrow where they actually prefer to hire gay men since they have to photograph scantily clad women. Having said that.....I'm going to sizzle my "S's" like crazy......gurrrrrrrrl!

Good Luck!!!!

 

[padalyn]

I'm actually applying for a position tomorrow where they actually prefer to hire gay men since they have to photograph scantily clad women. Having said that.....I'm going to sizzle my "S's" like crazy......gurrrrrrrrl!

Good luck! or should I say break a leg? does that apply in photography?

 

[soulmates]

I'm actually applying for a position tomorrow where they actually prefer to hire gay men since they have to photograph scantily clad women. Having said that.....I'm going to sizzle my "S's" like crazy......gurrrrrrrrl!

Work it!!!

 

[vaDisneyGuy]

I'm actually applying for a position tomorrow where they actually prefer to hire gay men since they have to photograph scantily clad women. Having said that.....I'm going to sizzle my "S's" like crazy......gurrrrrrrrl!

Speaking of your photography I would love to see more of Cowboy Monorail man. Is there a Leather Wearing MonorailMan ???(just wondering)

 

[hematite153]

We also have this weird experience in the US of people calling my DW my mother.

You too? Does your wife hate it as much as mine does?
She's only 8 years older than me... and I'm the more mature of the two of us, so I don't know where it comes from.

She says she hates it even more because on top of it being a refusal to see same-sex relationships it's also discriminatory because it's influenced by the fact that she uses a wheelchair at times and the assumption that people in wheelchairs are old.

(She's only 6 years older than me, still in her 30s, hasn't gone grey, etc.)

Realistically, I hate it too.

 

[Timon-n-Pumbaa Fan]

OMG, there are people that think that Corey is my teenaged son!

The first time it happened was one of the people that I knew through work. She came up to us in a salad buffet restaurant and ask if Corey was my son. I said "No", and before I could tell her more she said, "Your husband (then Corey said something and she realized that she was a woman) Your friend?" You could see this ultra conservative woman go into major pucker mode as it sunk in that I was a lesbian and she had exposed her children to me. I explained that Corey was my best friend and then she hurried off. She still comes to our office, but it's not without some degree of discomfort even 6 years or so after her realization.

I am 6 years older than Corey. She has a baby face and looks like a cute little butchy chic. So, me and my grey hair and her with the baby face, it does look like she could be my son, if you just don't want to see the truth of the matter, that we are just a lesbian couple. At this point, I don't care. We laugh it off and just keep going.

 

[hematite153]

OMG, there are people that think that Corey is my teenaged son!

Yikes...that might be worse.

The thing that really gets me is that we only experience this in the US. It has happened once in Canada, a couple of times elsewhere in the US and constantly at wdw. (I generally just assume that it's about the US being more conservative so that the spectrum of relationships people consider is more limited.)

 

[Winue]

we are out at work, with friends, and with family.

the only thing that we aren't "out" is in public in our community. This is only because we both work with a social service agency, and our clients are all around us, so its not too safe... more so for our kids though.

When you ask our 3.5 year old where his daddy is, he says "there's no daddy here, I'm lucky, I have two mummies!"

 

[MickeyDee]

I doubt I'll ever be 100% out. I'm out to my immediate family and my friends...and a handful of co-workers. I teach 3rd grade..in TEXAS, no less, so I'm not at all comfortable with the idea of being out to the vast majority of the people I work with. People always assume I'm straight, so that makes it even harder...but it can be fun sometimes when I tell someone "I don't date men..." to see the expression on their face of utter shock...hehe

 

[Timon-n-Pumbaa Fan]

MickeyDee, being that my job is one where I work with kids too, I completely understand where you are coming from.

 

[Jeff90]

I doubt I'll ever be 100% out. I'm out to my immediate family and my friends...and a handful of co-workers. I teach 3rd grade..in TEXAS, no less, so I'm not at all comfortable with the idea of being out to the vast majority of the people I work with. People always assume I'm straight, so that makes it even harder...but it can be fun sometimes when I tell someone "I don't date men..." to see the expression on their face of utter shock...hehe

MickeyDee, being that my job is one where I work with kids too, I completely understand where you are coming from.

12 years ago, I'd be there with you both.....teaching in NC is scary. Not teaching any more. I taught 4th grade for 2 years and loved it but I couldn't be 100% me. Being a elementary school teacher, gay and living in NC.....not really a good mix. But I love what I do now.....

 

[Jeff90]

Speaking of your photography I would love to see more of Cowboy Monorail man. Is there a Leather Wearing MonorailMan ???(just wondering)

Ditto!

 

[MickeyDee]

12 years ago, I'd be there with you both.....teaching in NC is scary. Not teaching any more. I taught 4th grade for 2 years and loved it but I couldn't be 100% me. Being a elementary school teacher, gay and living in NC.....not really a good mix. But I love what I do now.....

It took me over a year to come out to the first person that I did at work...I'm definitely more out now and more comfortable being out to my co-workers than I was before, but it's still not something I put out there with any amount of ease! Eeeek....

 

[Alan-1]

For the most part I'm out to all of my friends. If a friend doesn't know and asks I'll tell them the truth. As for work I really don't know. I work at a Disney Store so I think it's not going to be a big deal. I just try to be as honest as I can when people ask me. I don't really think they need to know unless they ask.

Family: umm...Not yet. I really want to so I can get it off my chest but when your mom tell tells you "I hope you like girls" it really doesn't give me the A'Ok to spill the beans anytime soon.

 

[Hathaway Browne]

I know that latter situation very well. Sometimes I feel like I should just say it (like ripping of a band-aid) but then I reason that its not going to alter anything (ie Mr Right appearing out of thin air).

 

[DOPEYLUVER]

Family: umm...Not yet. I really want to so I can get it off my chest but when your mom tell tells you "I hope you like girls" it really doesn't give me the A'Ok to spill the beans anytime soon.

I am a 48 year old straight female and I am not even pretending to have ever walked in your shoes.

With that disclaimer, do you think it's possible that your mother knows the truth but could be a little clumsy at bringing it up?